How To Communicate With A Deceased Loved One
amanda linette meder
Wondering how to communicate with a deceased loved one? Most people think they have to call upon a deceased loved one, but typically, they’re always around, we just have to get better at picking up the cues of their presence. This post discusses how -
You certainly can go to a medium to reconnect and speak directly to the Spirits you have on the Other Side.
You can also begin the process of reconnecting and re-learning how to communicate with your Loved One without any third party sources.
You can start learning the communication process for yourself to connect with those you love in Spirit.
It doesn't matter how long ago the person or pet you want to connect with has transitioned, as you may have already begun receiving signs.
Whenever you are called to learn about this process, the time is now.
Connecting with Loved Ones isn't just for professional mediums, as in that is their full-time job, and it doesn't have to be.
It's a skill that's like cooking. We can all do it; some of us do it professionally. Some of us have a specific vocation for it, but with practice, the right tools, and guidance, all of us can do it on some level.
You can reunite with your husband, father, son, or sister at any time. As long as you have the essential tools, knowledge, and information available to you on how it all works, it's possible.
I don't like death as much as the next person, but through the process of writing on this website, I'm becoming more and more comfortable with it.
The more people I help connect to Spirit people and animals, the easier death is to handle, because together, we see that each of us goes through the same journey.
If you are on the part of the journey now where you want to reconnect to a loved one in Spirit, it's possible.
The first steps of connecting are overcoming your limiting beliefs that you can and opening your five senses to receive, after that, what follows is the next necessary steps to begin -
The Six Steps Of Reconnecting With Your Loved Ones:
Step 1. Learn The Broad Ways Spirit Communicates
There is a vast sea of the types of signs and tools your Loved Ones will use to get in touch with you, and figuring out what the specific sign that your Loved One will use to communicate with you can take some work.
Most commonly, Spirit will communicate with us in four different ways, through:
Messages and words
Acts of service
How did the person or pet you want to connect to communicate their love to you while you were alive? Chances are, it falls into one of these four categories. This is how they will likely connect to you in Spirit, too.
For example, if you recently lost a pet and they spent quality time with you while you worked, now that they have transitioned, you may be able to sense their presence with you during the workday.
You want to start your connection by identifying these primary potential communication methods; this way, you know what to look for when communication is possible.
Step 2. Identify The Possible Signs
Think of a sign like a calling card, something Spirit people (or animals) will use to get your attention. Most have one that they frequently use, to let us know they're around and wanting to communicate.
Using just one sign means don't have to look forever, because, Spirit will try to communicate with you, using your most readily accepted method of communication.
Each Spirit will have a sign that they use as a wave hello, to get your attention and let you know they are present to talk to. The most common signs are sensations in the body, light flashes, misplaced items, found items in your path, and images/memories coming to you.
To identify a sign from Spirit, you have to know what it is that you are looking for, exactly.
So begin looking for a sign, identify the most common types of communication methods your Loved One has available - signs. Then, it'll be much easier to spot them.
Once you've learned about the types of signs your Loved One can send, you can ask for a specific sign from your Loved One to make sure you know it is who you think it is when communicating with you.
In some cases, Spirit people or pets will have already chosen their sign, how they visit you, by the time you read this article.
If so, what are some signs you saw quite heavily after their crossing?
These would be indicators as to the signs they are using to get your attention now.
Step 3. Sensing Their Presence
Everyone has a different way of being, and all of your Loved Ones, Guides and Angels will feel different to you.
Next time you start seeing the signs of your loved one, or you begin to see images of them in your mind's eye, take a minute to step back and see how you feel. Do you feel happier, more loved? Do you feel sad?
Sometimes the presence of a loved one can trigger an emotional release, so if you feel emotional after you start sensing the presence of one, this is normal.
When you sense your loved one's energy presence, this would be a great time to start seeing if they have any messages to share.
Many people feel their loved one's presence without realizing it. For example, saying something like "Dad would've loved being here," at a graduation party, is a big sign his presence is around.
For more on sensing the presence of a loved one:
Step 4. Receive Their Messages
If you are in a relaxed frame of mind when you sense their presence or notice the signs of them around, step back and ask if your loved one has any messages for you.
Messages can come to you through images, emotional transference, thoughts, or as 'the voice within.'
Because your loved one is no longer in a physical body, also know the voice they will now use to speak to you may sound different than it did when they were alive.
You can even have a back and forth conversation with them if you feel comfortable, Dr. Elisa Medhus discusses in her MindBodyGreen article how she does this.
Talking to the deceased is also the #1 tip on the continuing bonds article on healing from grief, so doing this can be helpful for processing their loss, too.
If you aren't sure if a message is accurate, you can also ask your loved one to send you the message in more than one way. We call this 'triangulating the signs' in the medium world.
Step 5. They'll visit you in dreams if a conscious connection is a challenge.
Sometimes, due to grief, a scattered mind, or all the stuff that changes after death, getting a clear message to you during the waking day is a challenge.
Even advanced meditators don't always sit down to meditate when they know they need to clear their minds, so sometimes, if our Spirit people still need to get through, they'll visit us while we sleep.
In our sleep, we're receptive, open, and aware, so that we often remember an entire scene that comes through, making it the perfect time to deliver a complete message.
So if you aren't getting any connection while awake, try a dream. This is the first way I started connecting because, at the time when I began, it felt scary otherwise. After dreaming, I tried connecting in meditation, and that worked.
How do you open up to a dream?
Simply say out loud to the space around you, or in prayer before bed, addressing your Loved One who can hear you, that you would like to be visited in a dream.
Some people like to use essential oils or crystals to clear grief and make it easier for the Spirit World to get through.
Dream messages also called visitation dreams, usually start to occur in the six to eight weeks following a transition, so if it hasn't been that long yet, get it time. And if you've already received dreams, here's how to know it's really a visitation dream versus something else.
Step 6. Know when to expect a visit
Spirits will visit you during these most common times:
When you're alone
When you're sleeping/dreaming
During or after a stressful moment
During or before memorable events
By paying attention during these times to any signs or presences you sense, you'll be more likely to make a connection and be aware of their presence when it's around.
Once you know the signs to look for and when they communicate most frequently, you've done 90% of the work of assuring you'll pick up on a link with your loved one in Spirit.
If you aren't able to make a connection, it's possible the time is simply not right, and you want to wait until you get those signs again.
After you know when they'll be present and how they make themselves known (signs), the next step is to breathe in, ground and ask if there are any messages - paying specific attention to the words you hear, or the images you see, in your mind's eye.
And that's all there is to it -
So to recap, to connect with your loved ones:
Figure out how they're most likely to assist you from the afterlife
Identify any signs you saw a lot of after their death
Practice sensing how you feel when you notice those signs
Ask to receive an image or a message
Be open to receiving a message in a dream
Know when they visit to narrow down when it’s real communication
After this, you want to identify how spirit communicates with you through the psychic senses, which can give you a better idea of how the messages of your loved ones will get through for you.
For more information on sensing a loved one and what happens once your significant other reaches the other side, and how to communicate, check out my eBook, From Crossing Over to Connection or tune into some of the articles below -
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Last Updated 2019.08.08