You're ready to open up a connection with your Guides, Angels, and Loved Ones on the Other Side.
In fact, you've asked for signs that they're with you and guiding your path, learned about the 10 most common, and even learned how to interpret them. You've opened up your heart. You've read books and articles. You've learned about divination tools, cards, and pendulums. But still, what gives? It seems like nothing is happening! What is the deal?
Well, there could be a few things going on! In this post, we'll go through a few of the most common road blocks and how you troubleshoot them. In fact, just knowing about a roadblock is all you need to remove it yourself.
Even though you may be completely ready to connect with Spirit, there may be a few things holding you back to fully awakening to connecting with someone special on the Other Side. I had barriers, too - my best friends (and worst enemies) called fear and doubt. You might know these two just as well as I do!
So, are you ready to identify which, if any, barriers you have that prevent you from connecting with a loved ones, angel, or guide on the other side? Want to know how to work with and remove those barriers? Let's get started.
6 Most Common Barriers to Connecting with Spirit
1. Belief in Yourself
This is the barrier of belief - belief in yourself that you have the ability to connect with the other side. If you are like me, you may have been raised to believe that only certain people - or no persons - had the ability to connect with those on the other side. Perhaps you believe it’s not possible, or, what?! You! Have the ability to connect with those on the Other Side?! Yes, you. Why not you?
In fact, we all are worthy of and have the ability to receive guidance from the Spiritual realms. In fact, you are likely already receiving guidance and messages from the Other Side without even being aware of it! Have you ever assisted a friend, and offered the most profound wisdom you’ve ever heard, only to shortly after forget completely what you said or where it even came from? Ever just KNEW for a fact that something was not the right thing to do or not in your best interest, but didn’t know why? Ever had a feeling about someone that you couldn’t explain? Have you escaped a dangerous situation, with no explanation as to WHY you suddenly stopped your car before moving through an intersection?
In all of these occasions and more, you were accessing information from the realm of Spirit. This includes guides, angels, AND your loved ones who are assisting you without your knowledge every day.
Having the belief that you CAN’T access the divine or that connecting directly to Spirit is something that you don’t have the ability to do, can actually block you from connecting (as in a closed door right over your crown chakra - where guidance flows in!).
So, believe only mediums can connect? Or those who have spent YEARS in training? We can all connect with our personal loved ones in Spirit, but who says you aren’t a medium, anyway? Or that maybe you don’t need years of training? Because in reality, you probably don’t. You can connect right now - but the first step is believing that you are worthy of connecting and that this is an attainable reality for you.
Suggested affirmation: “I am worthy and capable of receiving Divine guidance”
2. Doubt and Denial
These two barriers are paired together, as doubt is often followed by denial.
Doubt is the inability to trust and skepticism that what you experience can be trusted. Indeed, you can have doubt in others, but really, if you can trust yourself and your own perceptions, and a firm trust in the foundation of what you know and who you are - there is no need to have doubt in others - you either accept or not accept the words, thoughts, and emotions of someone else. So, this isn't about doubting and denying the story heard through a medium, a friend, a coworker, or your partner - this is about trusting your own experience.
It's imperative that you have trust in yourself to connect with Spirit - as much of the time, Spirit connects with you when there is no one else around that can verify your experience! While occasionally those in Spirit DO visit more than one person at a time, it's not as common as a solo experience. Why is this? You are more alert and aware when you are by yourself. You pay attention to your surroundings more. Your attention is more easily caught. Learn more about when Spirit visits here.
Perhaps you have been woken up at night and sensed a presence - but then immediately shook it off, and went back to sleep. Or maybe you have heard noises, footsteps, or whispering in another room - but you convinced yourself you were just too sleepy. Or something that you just knew you placed somewhere, was misplaced - oh, of course, you are just being forgetful! Maybe you keep hearing your deceased loved one's favorite song on the radio, or keep seeing their favorite bird - and considered all of these coincidences!
While some of us will simply doubt the truth of what is occurring here, others will go further and deny that it even happened at all! Deny that the experience was unique or meaningful at all. More so, you may have come up with a very "reasonable" explanation for your experience. Either way, when you experience something unexplainable - it deserves and warrants fair attention.
You may have even been taught that these things weren't "normal", that having a 'paranormal' experience was 'weird' and sharing it with others would cause people to look at you funny. So, in order to prevent feeling of being perceived as weird - you deny it exists or happened at all. I've done it, and pretty much everyone I've ever met has done it - at first. There are thousands of accounts of individual people, just like you, having unexplainable, spiritual experiences- worldwide! In fact, these 'odd' things, when collectively examined, suddenly begin to seem not so odd anymore. . . and do appear a little bit more regular.
In fact, one of the more common subjects brought up in readings by your deceased loved ones, angels, and guides on the other side is that they have been trying to get your attention - but that their attempts have gone unnoticed or ignored - due to doubt, and then denial. So, your loved ones ask that you not only pay a little bit more attention to your surroundings - the things you sense and the noises that you hear - trust and believe that it actually happened! While discounting your experiences is not preventing them from attempting to reach you - it is a barrier to realizing and accepting what already IS. It's more common than you think - in fact, it happens every day!
In order to remove this barrier - the change you can make is simply this: Trust yourself and your experiences. You don’t have to explain it to anyone, or come up with a reasonable story. You are the only one who can validate your experiences as real. You are entitled to having a magical, unique and ‘unexplainable’ experience in your connection to Spirit!
3. Fear of it
Another barrier to connecting with a loved one on the other side is fear.
The Spirit World and those that live there - including the deceased - are not portrayed positively in media. On television shows, movies, radio, and many books or magazines - the act of contacting spirits is depicted as possibly evil, tricky, or 'no good' in some way or another. You might think that being visited by someone who is ‘on the other side’ is haunting, creepy, or sinister. Maybe you associate all things ‘spirity’ as related to spooky cemeteries, werewolves, or possession. Perhaps you fear being physically hurt - scratched, pushed, or poked - or perhaps you fear that whoever visits you from the other side, may never leave once they are 'welcomed in'! After all, if you've ever watched a ghost show on cable television - no matter what you encounter in the spiritual world - it's most certainly lost, angry, confused, haunting somewhere, taunting humans, being malicious, preying on someone's vulnerability. In most cases, it's not perceived as a positive experience.
One of the main reasons I didn't want to share my gifts of mediumship with others at first, was because I was scared of the spiritual world and being involved in it - mostly from the media! However, I've since learned one pure and common truth about working with Spirit - like attracts like. Are you a positive, friendly, and compassionate person? You will attract those in Spirit who exude those same qualities. Furthermore, on the occasion you do have a Spirit in your house or around your family, 99% of the time - it's your grandmother (or someone equally as harmless, such as an aunt, uncle, or close friend!).
While many of those lower entities do exist, as long as YOU have a positive, loving energy about you, and have no interest in connecting with these beings - those things will have not much interest in you or your life. The spirit world is a safe place for you. In fact, it's likely your loved ones on the Other Side are protecting you from anything harmful - and if you are worried about that - simply ask for protection from it! For example, when I was scared of "evil" interacting with me, I just asked my father (in Spirit) to protect me from that riff-raff. He would have done that when he was alive, right? And it totally worked!
You can set boundaries like this too. Learn how here.
In order to get rid of the barrier of fear, stop watch ghost hunting television shows (seriously!). If you already don't engage yourself with these shows, remind yourself that it is safe for you to interact with those in Spirit. Most of those who want to develop a connection with you are Spirit Guides, Angels, and your Deceased Loved ones. Every time you feel frightened, nervous, or wary - simply remind yourself that you are safe, protected, and surrounded by love. When I was first removing my own fears, I used this affirmation:
"It is safe for me to see. I am divinely protected secure, and loved, welcoming only those into my life who are loving, compassionate, and kind to my space".
4. Processing Grief and Pain Energy
If you’ve recently lost someone that you’ve loved, or if you are going through a very difficult time, you likely feel very heavy - in pain, grief, or just energetically overall. This is an essential time for you to process your emotions and allow yourself to fully experience, feel, and heal from this period of your life.
Those in Spirit have often described their energy as fast, high, and energetically powerful and strong. To connect with those in physical bodies (aka humans), they half to slow down their energy, almost like a hover craft, in order for us to sense and connect with them. In addition, we have to raise our vibration or awareness to feel and connect with them. Creating this “match” is a unique experience that takes the ‘perfect storm’ of energies that can blend together for a moment in time.
Lowering their energetic vibration to this level is difficult - as is raising our energy to a higher state. Higher vibrational energies for us - can be expressed by feeling immense gratitude, joy, love, and compassion. Not feeling that right now? Feeling instead a dark, heavy cloak of sadness or loss? That’s okay. Take your time. Cry. Experience your emotions
While you are in this place, those in Spirit will hold back, and allow you to have this space, often moving out of your energy space. While your loved one, guides, and Angels, are still there for you - you may not be able to sense their presence until you recover. The energy to are experiencing of heavy, low, sadness, pain and grief is too ‘slow’ in vibration, and it’s very difficult for them to slow down their energetic state and connect with you, as it is hard for you to raise yourself to joy and happiness. Deceased loved ones have described grief as like an impossibly think rain cloud - and they just can’t get through until the storm passes!
The suggestion for removing this barrier is: give yourself time to experience the emotions. There is no encouragement to ‘speed up’ your grieving process, as you may miss profound and essential steps in your healing. Take your time. And know that on the Other Side of your healing, your loved ones will be waiting anxiously to connect with you again!
5 . Have Reasonable Expectations
You’ve asked for signs and nothing has happened! Perhaps you asked for a sign from your Father - could he move an object, make a noise, or show you a favorite bird? And so far. . . . nothing.
While there are a variety of signs that are common to those in Spirit, many of which you can ask for, these signs are a technique your deceased loved ones need to learn! Moving an object, making a physical object, or manifesting a bird - all takes an incredible amount of energy (and practice!). While your loved ones have heard your requests - it’s possible they have no idea how to manifest what you have asked for! In fact, the most common method your loved ones on the other side connect with you is through sensing your presence. If you are looking to connect with Angels or Spirit Guides, try a deck of oracle cards, or a pendulum. Spirit Guides and Angels enjoy connecting with you by using your ‘inner voice’, ‘intuitive cues’, or lining up synchronistic events.
Thus, in order to remove this barrier, you may have to alter your expectations on what and how those in Spirit can connect with you - not everyone can drop a painting off a wall or move a penny across a table! Manifesting a physical noise is much harder than speaking to you through thought energy (remember, those in Spirit don’t have voice boxes!).
6. Find the Right Time
Those in Spirit want to make the most of their attempts to contact you. It takes an incredible amount of energy and effort on their part to get through and get your attention - thus, they want to reach out when they know it really could be possible to reach you!
Deceased loved ones, Spirit Guides, and Angels are often manifesting outcomes and positive situations without your knowing (they have your best interests at heart), but to connect with you one on one - they prefer for it to be just like that - one on one!
When you are alone, your attention is more easily captured then when you are out socializing! When your mind is clear, you are more easily reached and influenced. When are we alone with more clarity of mind? In the night time, when we are sleeping, or in the early morning. These are times when we would have their attention - because we are less distracted by anyone else.
If you give those in Spirit other times of day, where you have clarity of mind and attentiveness, such as a meditation practice or an active dream life - this will improve your ‘contactability’!
Additionally, if you have feeling heavy emotions such as grief or pain, it may not be the ‘right time’ for a Spirit to connect with you - as a profound experience such as this may be too hard to deal with or disruptive to your emotions and healing. Seeking to connect with a loved one right after their passing? Give it time, and give yourself time to heal.
To connect with Spirit, make sure it is the right time for you to make the connection - are you attentive, with a clear mind, and of sound emotion? This is the right time. The more you cultivate quietness of mind and awareness (meditation, long walks, or any personal ‘time out’), the more opportunities you create for Spirit to get through to you.
If you've identified with one of these barriers - don't worry! We each have one that resonates more strongly and more prominently than any other. In order to develop your connection to your Spirit Guides, Angels, or Deceased Loved Ones on the other side, working with releasing this barrier will help you open up and strengthen your connection to the Divine.
Take it one day at a time, and be patient with yourself.
Practicing non-judgement is most important when it comes to your development ~ as the more gentle and compassionate you are on yourself in sensing Spirit, the easier the information will flow in.
I look forward to seeing you soon!