One of the most common signs that your deceased loved ones, Spirit Guides, or Angels are trying to connect with you is through visitation in a dream. After your loved one crosses, they still maintain their form, personality, and identity - only without a physical body. Where the only difference between yourself and your loved ones is the world that we both operate in - ourselves, in the physical plane, and your loved ones, in the spiritual plane.
To transcend and cross between these planes, often referred to as ‘over or through the veil’, takes time, energy, and effort. Thankfully, our loved ones now in Spirit are living in a world without the limitation of time (how wonderful!), they are free to visit whenever they want.
For many of your loved ones in Spirit, they would love nothing more than to connect with you, and make you aware of their continued presence, even after death. Many, go to great lengths to get your attention, including making noise, producing physical touch, sending you signs and symbols, such as cardinals and feathers. However, in our busy world, this is often still not enough.
When was the last time, you stopped to notice a feather in your path? Or, really, I mean *really*, listened to the lyrics of the song on a radio?
With children, and errands, and running late, and having to shovel the snow and call the plumber about the pipe in your basement - it’s nearly impossible to notice the small symbols that come our way, and they can be very easy to miss. Even for the most aware person, the one who notices every butterfly - when Spirit chooses to visit - it can often be on our craziest days - when we need support THE MOST.
And that’s okay.
If you don’t notice it all, that doesn’t mean your loved ones are going to stop visiting, it simply might mean they’re going to take it up a notch.
Welcome, the visitation dream.
No matter how busy you are, everyone sleeps at some point. Even if it’s just 4 hours some nights, you have to sleep. If you sleep, at some point, you’re going to dream. Perhaps, you don’t remember your dreams, or you can’t remember the last time you dreamt- you still dream at some level.
And, in our dreams, we are most aware of our inner landscape, and least resistant to messages of Spirit. If you feel a small brush on your shoulder when you are awake, rather than a gentle touch from your mother, you might conclude, it was just your sweater that felt weird for a second. Spirit sign = dismissed. Or if you hear a message that you need to call a friend immediately, and decide not to because you’re cooking dinner, you may have also just dismissed an urge of Spirit. Often, their nudges come from within, using our energy, to connect with us. Speaking can be difficult without a voice box of your own, after all.
In a dream, we can stay asleep for the whole message. We can see, feel, and listen to our loved ones - without distraction or immediate dismissal. The space without an opportunity for dismissal, for each one of us, is in unconscious in our sleep. As even in meditation, we may and sometimes do, stop to question the reality of what we perceive from Spirit.
If you’ve ever dreamed of a loved one, you may be wondering, okay, I get that they can visit me in my dreams but how? And how do I know it wasn’t just a regular dream with some symbolism and pain energy that I’ve repressed? Something subconscious, you know?
I get it. I’ve dreamt of loved ones that were NOT visitation dreams. Where my loved ones were in the dream, with some other symbolism, but definitely not a visitation. And then, I’ve had dreams where I’m nearly positive it WAS a message from Spirit.
First, it’s important to know that your deceased loved one, in Spirit, now operates entirely on the energy of Divine Light. In Heaven. The Realm of Spirit. The Great Oneness. In that space. This space, is light, buoyant, and glowing with energy. This energy is what they use to connect with you on many levels. As your loved ones are no longer in physical body, they must use purely energy to connect with you.
This can be the energy of touch and sensation, the energy of thought and ideas, the energy of emotions, the energy of images. Basically sending energy from themselves to you.
This concept makes sense, if you’ve ever watched television prior to bed, and then had a completely crazy dream, made up of all the things you watched, heard, and felt on the television shows you watched before bed. The energy of the television, that was projected into your bedroom and onto your body and mind, was absorbed by you, and manifesting as thought energy in your dreams.
This same concept also makes sense, if you’ve ever been loved by another person. You not only hear that they love you when they say it, but you feel and sense the energy of it. They are sending their love energy, to you. In the form of emotions and thoughts.
Thus, your loved ones CAN visit you in dreams, by sending you their energy as emotions, thoughts, images and sensations, and manifesting in your dreams. It’s like Charlie in the Chocolate factory, when he goes into a TV and comes out somewhere else - it’s still him, with his energy particles arranged so you can see and sense him.
Visitation Dream vs. Regular Dream
Visitation Dreams make you feel good and comforted
In my article on How to Sense Spirits, we discuss that the energy of your loved ones often feels like a comforting blanket, a warm tea, like a coating of love on a winter’s day. The reason for this is that they operate now in the light of Divine love, and as so, this is what they send you. All spirit communication is borne out of love, and f you are visited by a loved one, this means they have love for you. Thus, visitation dreams, when you wake up, you often feel an extreme amount of comfort and love, as though you be painted with a brush of grace, for the duration of your day and possibly weeks or months beyond this. Many who have experienced visitation dreams express as extreme amount of peace upon waking.
In regular dreams, we often wake up confused and curious by the meaning, but not intensely comforted. In visitation dreams, confusion and doubt may come later, but then it has usually been placed on you externally by someone else’s doubt of your experience.
Visitation Dreams involve Divine Light
As your loved ones have transitioned into ‘the Light’, they now exist primarily in this energy, and while they can often come back to visit us on the physical plane, they are still using the Light energy to maintain their spiritual existence. Thus, when you have a visitation dream, usually a glow or a light surrounds this person, but it’s not always extremely. I sometimes equate it to as subtle as a soft glow on their appearance, such as in a ‘glamour shot’ to as intense as being surrounded as though by the bright beam of an Angelic form. The glow or level of light may vary from soft focus to sunburst, but it’s there.
In a regular dream, your loved one is often just one of the many characters in the scene of your dream, not particularly more or less distinct than any other character in your dream.
Visitation Dreams include a direct address
In some way, a visitation dream includes a direct address from your loved one - where they turn to face you directly, sit next to you or touch you directly, smile at you directly, or have a message of words for you, directly. It does not necessarily mean a serious message, though your loved ones can and do deliver more serious topics from time to time. The direct address may simply include a warm smile, which, in itself, is the entire message. Think of the message a warm smile conveys. Does it need to be more than this?
In regular dreams, a direct address by your loved ones *can* be present, but this is abnormal. Think about all of times in your dreams where you have been directly approached by someone or directly involved, many times, in our dreams, we are observers of scenes - not players in them. Thus, a ‘direct address’ by any character to you, is far less common, and even less common, as a loved one. If you receive a direct address by a loved one, evaluate the other factors. Did they appear in a soft focus-eque glow? Did I feel good and cozy upon waking?
These are the main three factors that stand out to make a regular dream different from a visitation one. And, your loved ones aren’t the only ones to use this modality - ANY spirit can utilize this message, as long as you allow it. Angels, Guides, and even deceased ones you may have not met before.
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