Updated 2022.05.09

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Wondering how to communicate with a deceased loved one?

Most people think they have to call upon a deceased loved one who is far away. Yet typically, they're always around, we just have to get better at picking up the cues of their presence. So, this post discusses how to both connect and sense their presence.

You certainly can go to a psychic medium to reconnect and speak directly to the Spirits you have on The Other Side, or to get clarification or extra detail on your messages.

You can also reconnect and re-learn how to communicate with your Loved One without any third party sources.

You can start learning the communication process for yourself to connect with those you love in Spirit.

We all have this gift at birth, some environments cultivated it, others smushed, and regardless of which you had, you can always call it back out.

To connect with Spirit, the best time to begin varies.

It doesn't matter how long ago the person or pet you want to connect with has transitioned. You may have already begun receiving signs.

Whenever you are inspired to learn about this process, it is the best time for you.

Connecting with Loved Ones isn't just for professional mediums.

It's a skill that's like cooking. We can all do it; some of us do it professionally, some as a hobby. Some of us have a specific vocation for it, but with practice, the right tools, and guidance, we can do it on some level and use it as a tool to benefit life.

You can reunite with your partner, father, son, dog, cat, parrot, pre-born child, friend, colleague, etc.  

As long as you have the essential tools, knowledge, and information available to you on how it all works, it's possible.

The first steps of connecting are overcoming your limiting beliefs that you can and opening your five senses to receive, after that, what follows are the next necessary six steps to begin -

The Six Steps Of Reconnecting With Your Loved Ones

Step 1. Learn the broad ways your Loved One will communicate

There is a vast sea of the types of signs your Loved Ones will use to get in touch with you. Figuring out what the specific sign that your Loved One will use to communicate with you can help identify contacts.

Most commonly, Spirit will communicate with us in four different ways, through:

• Messages and words

• Pulling strings for us

• Receiving unexpected gifts

• Spending time in our energy

How did the person or pet you want to connect to communicate their love to you while you were alive? Chances are, this is how they will likely connect to you in Spirit, too.

For example, if you recently lost a pet and you two spent quality time while you worked, now that they have transitioned, you may be able to sense their presence with you during the workday.

In another example, say you had a special word or interest you shared with a loved one. Three people repeating this world or interest to you in a day would be considered a sign.

Start your connection by identifying these primary potential communication methods; this way, you know what to look for when communication is possible. 

Also, pay attention to any signs others tell you they have received from that same loved one. 

Sometimes a person will not tell you outright they think something is a sign, so much as they will tell you about something weird that happened to them today, then give you the eyebrows. So make a note of these.

I've found that the same deceased will often use the same sign to contact more than one living relative or friend. 

Step 2. Identify the possible signs

Each Spirit will have an energy signature that they use as a wave hello, to get your attention and let you know they are present to talk to. I call these calling cards. They are unique to us signs The Spirit World uses to get in touch.

The most common signs are sensations in the body, light flashes, misplaced items, found items in your path, and images/memories coming to you.

Here are the most common signs a loved one can send as communication:

• What Do Spirits Feel Like? A Short Guide On How To Sense Spirits

• How To See Spirits: A Short Guide To Spiritual Clairvoyance

• 10 Signs Your Pet Is Visiting You From The Afterlife

• 10 Most Common Signs From Your Deceased Loved Ones

Once you've learned about the types of signs your Loved One can send, you can ask for a specific indication from your Loved One to make sure you know it is who you think it is when communicating with you.

It is often tangibly confirmed within 24 hours. 

In some cases, Spirit people or pets will have already chosen their sign, how they visit you, by the time you read this article.

What are some signs you saw quite frequently after their crossing? These would be indicators as to the signs they are using to get your attention now.

Step 3. Sensing their presence

Everyone has a different way of being and feeling, and all of your Loved Ones, Guides and Angels will feel different to you.

Next time you start seeing the signs of your loved one, or begin to see images of them in your mind's eye, take a minute to step back and see how you feel. 

Do you feel happier, more loved? Does your heart feel more joy? Maybe you feel more bouncy?

Sometimes the presence of a loved one can trigger an emotional release, especially in the early days. If you feel emotional after you start sensing the presence of one, this is normal.

When you sense your loved one's energy presence, this would be a great time to start seeing if they have any messages to share. Messages from Spirit are often delivered telepathically, with claircognizant gifts.

Many people feel their loved one's presence without realizing it. For example, saying something like "She would've loved being here," at a graduation party, is a big sign her presence is around.

For more on sensing the presence of a loved one:

• The Gift of Presence: How to Sense a Deceased Loved One When They Visit

• What Do Spirits Feel Like? A Short Guide On How To Sense Spirits

Step 4. Receive their messages

In a relaxed frame of mind, when you sense their presence or notice the signs of them around, step back and ask if your loved one has any messages for you.

Messages can come to you through images, emotional transference, thoughts, or 'the voice within.'

Because your loved one is no longer in a physical body, keep in mind the voice they will now use to speak to you may sound different than it did when they were alive.

You can even have a back and forth conversation with them if you feel comfortable. Dr. Elisa Medhus discusses in her MindBodyGreen article how she does this.

Talking to the deceased is also the #1 tip on the continuing bonds article on healing from grief. Doing this can help you process their new state.

If you need additional validation for their words, ask your loved one to send you the message in another way, such as through a physical sign.

We call this 'triangulating the signs' in the medium world.

Step 5. They'll visit you in dreams if a conscious dream is an option

Even advanced meditators don't always sit down to meditate when they know they need to clear their minds. Sometimes, if our Spirit people still need to get through, they'll visit us while we sleep.

Visitation or Spirit Message Dreams look and feel different from regular dreams. They seem to have more light and air to them.

In our sleep, we're receptive, open, and aware. We often remember an entire scene that comes through, making it the perfect time to deliver a complete message.

So if you aren't getting any connection while awake, think about your dreams. 

How do you open up to a dream?

Simply say aloud to the space around you, or in prayer before bed, addressing your Loved One who can hear you, that you would be open to be visited in a dream.

Dream messages also called visitation dreams, usually start to occur in the six to eight weeks following a transition. If it hasn't been that long yet, get it time. 

For more on dream communication: Improve Clairvoyant Abilities: Top 6 Methods With Dreams

Step 6. Know when to expect a visit

Spirits will visit you during these most common times:

• When you're alone

• When you're sleeping/dreaming

• During or after a moment when calm is needed

• During or before memorable events

By paying attention during these times to any signs or presences you sense, you'll be more likely to make a connection and be aware of their existence when it's around.

Once you know the signs to look for and when they communicate most frequently, you've done 90% of the work of assuring you'll pick up on a link with your loved one in Spirit.

If Spirit is around, you will get those signs. 

When they're present, they make themselves known (signs). So the next step is to breathe in, ground, and ask if there are any messages. 

Paying specific attention to the words you hear or the images you see in your mind's eye.

Then thank them. That's all there is to it -

So to recap, to connect with your loved one

1. Figure out how they're most likely to assist you from the afterlife

2. Identify any signs you've already received

3. Practice sensing how you feel when you notice those signs

4. Ask to receive an image or a message

5. Be open to receiving a message in a dream

6. Know when they visit to narrow down when communication is more likely for better results

After this, continue your connection by identifying how Spirit communicates with you through the psychic senses. 

Be open to when Spirit will visit you and stay aware of any coincidences or synchronicities when you start this practice. As soon as you open, your Loved Ones on your Spirit Team may get excited, so you may have to organize your visitations.

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