Okay, so you’ve read the article 21 Signs you’re a Medium.
What do you do now?
Is there a series of steps that is best for you to follow, something you should do?
Do you have to make this your life? Now what?
The first and most important thing you can do is. . . relax. Calm down.
Consider the possibility that you may be a medium. It’s not so bad. It’s certainly not the end of the world. When I first ‘found out’, and discovered that my curse was actually a gift - my biggest fear was finding a new boyfriend - how would someone love me with something like ‘this’? Well, then I found one. Everything was fine, and that worry vanished. More people are accepting of it than you might think. If you choose to, You, and you alone, have the ability to help others heal. To pass along messages of guidance and support. To deliver messages of love and connection. That’s an amazing possibility.
You may not choose to and that’s okay. Once you’ve taken a moment to relax, there are some steps you can take to begin to manage your abilities and integrate more calmness and serenity in your life. You deserve to get a good nights rest for once!
Step 1. Set some Boundaries
If you are a medium, every Spirit and their cousin in a 10 mile radius knows it, even if you don’t. They can see that you have the ability to help them, even if you aren’t using your gifts and don’t know how to even begin working with them. All spirits know about your abilities, which can explain many of your unwanted ‘symptoms’. In sessions with client, those in Spirit have often described a map of lights, that looks very similar to a map of flight routes or a map of the night time sky - complete with the location of the hottest and brightest lights. You, my friend, are one of those lights - you’re on the map. Thus, you may have Spirits coming around you at all hours, in all places, without interruption or boundaries - you’re the hottest club in town with no closing hours. It’s lawless over there right now.
On top of that, you may have never sent out the invitations on who was invited to your pool party! What if you want to enjoy solo laps or night swimming in peace, and some guy you met in college is drinking beers and won’t stop jumping off the high-dive with his friends? You need to learn how to kick the unwanted visitors out. Eventually, if you choose to, you can start to ‘bring back’ or welcome in Spirits who you do wish to be around you - such as guides and loved ones you know, like your grandmother. But for now, everyone out. You gotta clean up for a few days.
Set some boundaries with Spirits here or here. Learn how and become friends with white Sage. Stand up for yourself and your space. If you had an apartment on main street in New York City would you leave the door open for everyone to waltz inside at all hours? Of course not! You’d set some rules for the types of guests you’d allow and when they can come over. You’d also get a lock.
Step 2. Read Everything.
Read books, blogs, and anything you can get your hands on about the topic. Get yourself to a used book store, a chain bookstore, an online bookstore and start browsing - buy everything and welcome in everything that is even slightly related to mediumship or spirituality. Read and then read some more. Get educated.
I’ve create a list of the top books that helped me when I was developing and I also have a ton of resources on developing mediumship (and how to cope with it) on my blog. Also, read other blogs, find other books, watch some documentaries. My favorite documentary on mediumship is called Wake Up, by Jonas Elrod (mini-warning: not everyone seems demons and angels!). I show this documentary to people who want a better understanding of my experiences. Try not to pop it in on a first date though, it can be a little shocking!
The more you learn, the less scary and mystifying it will be. The more comfortable you’ll be with it, and the better equipped you’ll be to explain your gifts and abilities to friends and family when the time comes for that.
Step 3. Seek out a mentor or register for a class.
Learning from someone who has come before you and who has developed their abilities to a place where they can now assist you in real time is the absolute best and most helpful way to be guided. While finding a one-on-one mentor is the best, joining a class - whether online or in person - can also provide you with the one-on-one or small group guidance that will enhance experience and usability of your gifts.
Connecting with others who share and are understanding your traits will boost your abilities, teach you how to use them, and help you make friends and acquaintances who you can turn to for advice or guidance now, and later on down the road. Having someone you can go to for questions, guidance and support is incredibly helpful and for many, including myself, mentorship is the final step in understanding their abilities and launching out their own.
Once you have learned about and accepted your gift, it’s time to manage it and begin to maintain normalcy again in your life and also, develop your abilities to the place of offering your abilities to others - either professionally or simply for yourself, friends, and family. Researching and understanding your abilities is the best place to start.
I hope that providing this framework of understanding and where to go next will assist you in your journey, and provide you with a path to take as you undergo your grand journey of discovery.
With much love,