The most frequently asked question I receive from friends, family, clients is this:
"Amanda, can I ask you something? So I have this really weird thing that has been happening when I wake up in the middle of the night and I don't know what it is..."
What follows is a description of something usually related to a weird feeling, noise, smell, thing that is moving, or series of occurrences. Usually within the house. Usually at or around bedtime or just-waking-up time. And usually, the answer is the same:
"No big deal, just a Spirit that's in your house."
Before you freak out, take one big deep breath.
Most of the time when someone has a Spirit in their home, it's probably someone they know.
Not a demon. Not a ghost. Not a poltergeist. Not something trying to destroy your life.
Nine times out of ten, when someone asks me to look into this for them - it's your grandmother, your father, your great aunt, your ex-wife's mother, a friend from high school, a piano teacher, your brother.
The times when it's not someone you know?
Let's talk about that -
Imagine your house is like a highway diner.
You own and live in this diner, and it's always open, 24-hours a day, and on the side of the highway. Now imagine that while yes, you own a diner, you really would prefer that your family just live there and you don't serve anyone else and really, even though the lights are on and it's on the side of the highway - you're closed. Closed for business. Technically, you're still open - but only for people you know - like the people who live there. Your family.
Did you put a closed sign on the front door of the diner then?
Do potential customers of your diner know that while the lights are all on, and there are people there - that it's a private diner. No, they can't sit at the bar and talk to other patrons. No, they can't use the restroom. No, they can't just have a piece of apple pie.
Sometimes in densely populated areas, spirit people will just walk right into the home and make themselves comfortable when no one is paying attention.
What are all these spirit people doing thinking they can just walk in?
A. No sign says they can't.
B. All the open lights are on, and besides, it's next to a busy highway.
The point is, the world of Spirit and the world of Human are side by side. You live right next to the bustling highway of Spirit and vice versa. If you don't want visitors, let the Spirit world know that you aren't open for business.
How To Set Your Spirit Boundaries
You have the power to get a Spirit to leave you alone.
For the most part, you don't need another medium, or any special ceremony to remove a spirit from your house. You only need two things.
1. To want the Spirits to leave.
2. The authority to tell them to go.
The reason I say this is that a lot of people who ask about Spirits in their home don't usually want them gone.
For some reason or another, they like the idea of having a Spirit around. Perhaps it is exciting. Perhaps it could be their boyfriend or grandmother, and they really weren't ready for that person to leave Earth, anyway. Perhaps they actually like this Spirit, and enjoy the visits - if it is someone they know, that's reasonable to assume. Lots of people find comfort in visits from their loved ones.
So to tell a Spirit to leave, you actually have to mean it.
If you want to tell a Spirit to leave, and don't mean it, they'll be able to 'tell' you weren't serious, and stay. Plus, you'll wonder where they went, and that wondering, will bring them back. It's kind of like wondering about an ex-boyfriend, only to have him send you a text message two days later. It's some sort of magic that calls their energy back when you think them up.
Don't phrase your request as a question.
Because then, they get to choose whether or not they actually go. If you ask a Spirit, "Can you please leave me and my family alone?" Sure, they might, if they are a polite, well-mannered person, and respect your boundaries. But what if they aren't? They might think to themselves, "Yes, I could, but I'm not going to." So don't even give them a choice.
Tell the Spirit, with power in your voice to go.
Say it firmly, out loud. You may even choose to escort this Spirit to the door - either physically or in your imagination. Do it firmly, and without question. Some people like to leave a tea light by the front door to help them see through the confusion and get out.
Did you try all this already and it hasn't worked?
Well, there may be a few things happening.
First, do you own this house? Is it your space?
If not, you may not have the authority to tell this Spirit to leave. In that case, you can tell this person to leave *you* alone explicitly, but this Spirit may stick around until the owners of the space also agree that this Spirit is unwelcome.
Examples of this would be if you live with your parents, moved in with a significant other, or live with someone else who actually owns or has their name on the property. In all these cases, without the permission of the main property resident or owner, you may not have the ability to tell anyone to leave.
Second, are you the only resident?
All people that live in the house need to agree that this Spirit is unwelcome, together as one.
Let's go back to the diner example. Imagine you flip the sign to closed, and you are feeling good. You are in command of your space.
No spirit is getting past you - or this closed sign. It says closed, right there, on the front door. Everything is great for a while.
Suddenly, sometime between now and then, your son realized he actually misses all those visitors. He had imaginary friends, and really liked those friends. Where did they go, he wonders. Then, he runs back to the front door - and flips the sign back to 'open.'
The point is - all parties must agree on which Spirits can visit and which can't - if any at all. This is why, in many ghost shows, when there is a haunting, the entire family is interviewed and part of the ceremony in which the Spirit is told they are not welcome. All those who live in the space must agree the 'portal' is closed.
So, what do you do if there is a Spirit in your house?
First. Relax. It's probably your grandmother.
Second. If it's not and you want them to leave, be very firm. Tell them to go with authority.
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