How To Control Empathic Abilities
managing empathic gifts… it’s possible
amanda linette meder
Do you experience emotions and thoughts that aren’t yours? Feel drained around other people? Ever had a massive mood swing you don’t understand?
Chances are you are highly empathic, and these are just a few of the signs that learning to manage these abilities may be in your best interest.
Managing your sensitivities can help you better predict your own emotions. This makes it easier for you to interact in public, and it can help you feel better about your healing and therapeutic gifts.
Managing your gifts can help your gifts feel safe.
People who feel the emotions of others are treasures in society because they tend to be the most caring, most supportive, and first available when someone is in trouble.
So we want you to feel safe with your abilities.
However, when empathic people get drained, they can feel cynical, moody, and be temper-prone. If you’ve found yourself behaving this way, not to worry, this isn’t the real you. This is only the you that’s absorbing everything in your environment.
To get back to the real you, the you that everyone loves, it’s essential to learn how to manage your empathic abilities, which is possible.
Whenever you start to feel yourself becoming moody, drained, or irrational, common signs of empathy overload, try a few of these remedies:
4 Simple Tips To Manage Your Empathic Gifts
Use the S.O.A.R. Method
First outlined by Aletheia at LonerWolf, The S.O.A.R. Method is an emotional management technique that allows you to identify and separate from the energy you’re experiencing.
Is this mine? This is an excellent question for the empath, and the S.O.A.R. Method can help you do precisely this -
SOAR stands for Surrender, Observe, Accept and Release:
Surrender — Relax your body and surrender to whatever tension or discomfort you are feeling.
Observe — Feel the emotions within you. Use your senses to build a tangible image of them.
For example, I see anger clairvoyantly as spiky red lines.
Accept — Accept this energy is moving through you.
Release — As you observe and accept the feelings you have, and eventually, the feelings dissipate, notice how they move out of your field like a cloud.
Read the full technique at LonerWolf.com.
Experiment With A Few Different Empathic Shielding Techniques
The most common techniques you’ll see to manage an overactive emotional connection is cord-cutting, white light shielding, and animal guide protection.
My favorite empathic visualization technique depends on the scenario, though I tend to like to do all three at once.
Dr. Judith Orloff has a Jaguar Protection meditation for empaths I like, and I think it’s pretty accurate.
The jaguar is the animal guide I often see come forward for the sensitive ones in my readings. I’ve even had a Jaguar Guide come forward for me in my spiritual meditations.
I use the cord-cutting technique (available here) when a person keeps coming to mind who is calling up my energy.
I also use a white light or bubble shielding technique (available here) when I can feel a lot of energy coming in. For example, when my heart starts to race or I get anxious, and I don’t know where the energy is coming from.
Use Essential Oils Specifically Designed For Empaths
Sometimes it can be a challenge due to a mental activity such as a visualization when your empathic abilities seem to be on overdrive. In these cases, I like to rely on my herbal support tools to help.
Nice essential oils for empaths include any oil that lifts the mood, releases stress, and purifies the energy field, putting you into a space of mental comfort and peace.
For this reason, I like warming scents, uplifting scents, and emotionally calming oils for managing empathic gifts.
If you are someone who gets overly hooked on high-key emotions, I like the essential oil blends Trauma Life and SARA for empathic emotional management.
Young Living is one of the only brands that research labs, such as the Monell Center, partner with due to their chemical purity.
So I typically prefer Young Living Oils for empaths due to their high purity. However, regardless of what brand you use, there are essential oil blends you can make for empathic management. Outside of making your own blends, here are a few of the Young Living Oils I like for controlling your empathic gifts -
White Angelica is an excellent empath essential oil blend. I like to use this when out in public, it creates a mini-energy barrier of peace around you.
Excellent Young Living empath grounding and shielding oils include Grounding, Transformation, Sacred Mountain, Lime, Melrose, Ylang-Ylang, Vetiver and Bergamot.
I like to use Sacred Mountain when a lot of worry energy surrounds me.
My favorite essential oils for empath protection include Clove, Thieves, Purification, and White Angelica. I like to use Purification or Clove after I connect with others in an intuitive session.
Some Young Living essential oils for boundaries I like include Common Sense, Acceptance, Humility and Lemon.
I like Lemon for boundaries because it lifts your mood so high that you are less likely to act out of guilt or coercion.
Open And Close Your Chakras
You can visualize clearing your chakras of negative energy by closing your eyes and taking a hand over each chakra, imagining light running through it. Then you visualize any negative energy (usually seen as black or grey clouds) releasing from that chakra.
You can also move from the ground up through each chakra and watch it open and close.
Opening them all the way up to big circles and then close down to the level you feel comfortable. I like to open up my chakras before closing them to let out any energy I’ve already absorbed.
I have a few guided meditations on how to do this in The Member Center Archives of this site.
If you are open to meditations for energy management other than chakras, I also usually have a free meditation available when you sign-up for the newsletter. This meditation is usually some variation of an energy management technique to help empaths.
So To Recap, To Better Control Your Empathic Gifts:
Know you can manage the energy you take in through psychic and physical techniques
Use observation methods to release the energy and let it work its way out of your energy field
Try a few different visualization techniques and see if they work for you
Don’t forget that essential oils can help too
Closing and opening your chakras can assist you in releasing the energy affecting you as well
Also, sometimes nothing is better than a little rest and some time away from the stress to manage your empathic gifts.
I have another article on Strengthening Empathic Gifts, which focuses on shutting out energy sources and how this can help you manage your gifts, too.
Empathy is a fantastic ability, but when we don't manage it, just like all things, it can work against us.
As sponges, when we take too much in, we have to go in and clear the field occasionally. This restores our energy to who we truly are - loving, supportive human beings. As we do this, everyone around us benefits.
If you notice yourself feeling snappy, moody or impatient, this is a sign you’re experiencing some empathetic overload. Take note when this happens, and try one or a few of the techniques above.
Self-care is essential for the empath. Even if all you can do is inhale some essential oils once in a while, little boosts like this build-up, and make all the difference.
Even the smallest actions can help you rise to be the beautiful empathic caregiver, healer, therapist or teacher you are destined to be.
For more tips on empathy and wellness, check out the links below -
Amanda Linette Meder
The statements regarding the emotional uses of essential oils in this article have not been evaluated by the FDA and represent personal experience and opinion only.