How To Cut Cords With Someone
Release Your Energetic and Emotional Attachments
amanda linette meder
Can't stop thinking about someone? Find yourself in the middle of doing nothing when the image and the energy of another person suddenly flood into your space? Need to disconnect?
These are just a few of the signs you've potentially got some energy cords to cut and may benefit by spiritually disconnecting from someone.
Energy cords are the emotions, thoughts, and ideas exchanged between you and another person. They are strands of information which can linger in the ethers between you and your exchanger long after you’ve left each other’s physical space.
When you connect with another person, and they connect with you, it can activate an energetic connection between the two of you.
Anytime we connect with someone in thought or with emotions, there is an energy exchange that happens, and this exchange is called a cord. Energetic connections can last lifetimes.
Though more often, a brief, energetic connection created by the meeting of two people only lasts a couple of hours to days, depending on the strength of the interaction.
Two main types of energetic cords can occur between people:
Heart cords - are created in moments of an emotional connection, negative or positive. They develop whenever we send heart signals to another person, such as in times of let down, frustration, and loss or in times of passion, love, and excitement.
Heart cords are typically long-standing and form between lovers, mothers, children, and when new potential soul connections are made.
Stomach cords - these cords usually form due to power struggle scenarios, such as those at work, in traffic, or through situations involving envy, jealousy, or character attack. They can also be activated when we're comparing ourselves to someone else.
These cords typically form in work-based relationships or momentary competitive-style relationships with passing strangers, such as those at customer service counters, in food areas, in traffic, or in line at the store.
Both cords can form at a distance.
For example, someone viewing you or thinking about you from afar and getting envious, emotional, jealous, fearful, and so on.
Most people typically only notice negative energy cords being sent to them because it makes them feel worse. But positive energy cords exist too, and people can send you love, excitement, joy, and hope from a distance, also.
The easiest of the two main types of cords to identify is the heart cord. Because of how long-standing it is and due to its nature of being formed by very close bonds, it’s the most painful and noticeable when it gets activated.
Are energy cords bad for your health?
They can affect you emotionally. They can also be beneficial for you, such as when people send you love energy through the thoughts they have and the emotions they feel in exchange with you.
Because of this, you don’t and won’t necessarily need to cut all the cords you could have with other people. Some of the energy cords you have and share with others are beneficial - such as healthy, loving cords to your angels, guides, ancestors, spouse, children, fans, friends, etc.
Cords can share energy and transmit a high frequency of communication between people.
When the cord is positive, it can create an uplifting flow and a beneficial exchange.
For this reason, typically, the only type of cord you would want to remove is a negative cord, also called a cord of attachment.
These are cords that are unhealthy for you to maintain and keep. They can create a distraction and loss of focus, and they can cause you not to speak your truth and resulting in a physical and emotional drain.
Negative cords decrease your feelings of stability, and positive cords increase it.
Removing cords can be beneficial, for other reasons, too.
As you grow, you’ll want to:
Completely end some relationships
Disassociate with lower vibrations
Prevent yourself from repeating the same lesson
Release karmic ties with people you no longer need in your life
- from Chicks with Spiritual Gifts, Article: Cutting Cords Energetically
And releasing and cutting your energy cords can help you do all of this.
Most cords that have come to the end of their cycle will drop naturally from your energy body, when it is time, without any intervention from you.
However, there are some cords, usually negative cords, which may need your assistance to release them from your energy body fully.
So to fully release energy cords, here’s what you do:
How To Remove A Stubborn Cord in 3 Easy Steps
#1 First Identify the Location of the Cord
To remove the thorn, we first have to know where it is. There are all types of cords, but most connect to certain chakras.
Start by determining the location of the cord, use your clairsentience to tell you what hurts or consider what chakra could be affected by the cord. Some people feel physical pains associated with cords.
For example, if the energy cord is affecting the third chakra, and you identify a cord there, you may notice yourself feeling a little more insecure than usual. If the cord is affecting your crown chakra, you might be unable to soothe your thoughts.
All cords have an origin point, and it is usually a singular person or entity.
Now identify the source of the cord you want to remove. Usually, it’s one that is affecting you adversely. Scan your close relationships, people with whom you’ve been in recent arguments, who keeps popping up?
The person on your mind is usually the source of the energy cord, the person sending energy or to whom you’re sending energy.
The first feeling that you get that you’ve found your draw spot, you’ve found it - so start there.
Now you identified the area where the energy is attached and can visualize it, we move to the next step and call your energy back from them.
#2 Disentangle Your Energy from the Cord Source Person
Prepare to remove the cord and call all your energy back from this person by doing these two things:
Step 1. Disengage from them entirely in the physical.
Unfollow all social accounts, if possible, empty emails, remove and release belongs, put all photos away. Close the computer and stop looking at their website. Make sure to release from your space, anything that affects you from them.
Step 2. If you’ve already physically separated yourself from their person, next, disentangle your spiritual body from theirs.
Close your eyes and visualize them holding a ball of your energy in their hands. Watch a stream of it coming back to you, directly pouring into the affected chakra.
If this is a solar plexus cord, visualize them holding a ball of yellow light in their hands. Imagine that light slowly starting to slip away from them, creating a stream of light in the air between you and returning to a spot in your stomach.
Continue this visualization until it's complete.
There may be more than one cord - if there is, repeat this step for each cord and person.
#3. Do Your Final Chop
Once the last stream of light has come back to you, scan your energy body. See if you are holding onto any balls of light from the other person's energy.
If you are, return it to them, using the same energy process above, but in reverse.
Then, visualize a large sheet of steel metal coming down between you and they and slamming to the ground. Hear the sound it makes. This etheric layer will chop any last threads. Imagine yourself between surrounded in a metal aura.
Breathe, inhale, and exhale, and slowly see your spirit self-turning around, and exiting the metal egg through a rear door.
Okay, now you’re free.
That's the exercise you could do to complete a cord-cutting fully. Give this practice a try the next time you notice someone in your energy field.
now A few commonly asked questions about cord-cutting:
How should you feel after a cord-cutting?
Once you are free of energy cords, you may feel lighter, it may feel more comfortable to breathe, and you may want to have a snack and get a drink of water.
You will likely want to avoid triggers to record this person emotionally for as long as you feel necessary. Some people wait one minute; some people wait for 72-hours; some people wait 21-days.
Can you do cord-cutting with Reiki?
Yes, when you are calling your energy back from the source of the energy cord, you can add Reiki Symbols to this to seal and charge the energy.
You can also use Reiki techniques instead of the metal egg visualization at the end for sealing the energy after the chop/cord removal is complete.
Are there any side effects to cord-cutting?
There are very few negative symptoms after a cord-cutting. You may feel more energized.
The other person may reach out and attempt to re-energy connect to you if they enjoyed it or miss having your energy around. It’s up to you whether you choose to engage or rejoin the connection.
If you cut a negative energy cord between you and another person, this does not mean that the next cord formed between the two of you will be negative.
Anytime you open a new energy link, it has the chance to be infused with new ideas and emotions. You could create a new energy cord in a more positive vibration.
For example, you get in a fight with your spouse and cut the flow of the negative energy exchange between you two.
The next energetic interaction does have the potential to be loving, since both parties have now cleared their energy, rather than just exchanged it back and forth.
When is the best time to do a cord-cutting?
After you speak at a major public event
After you attend a speaking event
After an interaction with a person, if you keep feeling/seeing someone’s astral in your energy
At the close of a relationship
After any healing work you do with someone
After any interaction where you can feel the person thinking about you
These are all signs/potential occasions that you’d experience an intense energy exchange with someone, or have the type of exchange that would create a cord.
Energy cords form whenever a charge is sent out into the atmosphere with thoughts and emotions attached, and someone connects to it.
Cord-cutting is a practice that will release ties and energetic attachments, return your power to you and restore your confidence, usually by giving you a much-needed energy boost.
I like this practice and find it helpful, which is why I’m sharing it here, though I admit other healers have to sometimes remind me to do it. So once you learn this technique and notice someone you love could use this practice, don’t be afraid to remind them, too.
I’m always grateful when someone does that for me.
To start having healthier relationships today, practice the technique above a few times and see if you notice a difference,
Amanda Linette Meder
For those who would like to go deeper:
In The Membership Program on the site, there is the document, A Quick & Easy Exercise To Clear Your Energy Field, and six meditations available:
Cord Cutting Meditation
Energy Cleanse Meditation
Psychic Attack Relief Meditation
Quick Fix Vibration Raising Meditation
Solar Scoop Meditation
Chakra Clearing Meditation
All in the Member Center Archives. These are all additional resources available in The Membership Program’s Archives that specifically tailor to cord-cutting and techniques to release energy, emotions or thoughts from you -
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Last Updated: 2019.08.07