How Not To Absorb Everything
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Why You Take On So Much — And How To Let It Go
We catch what others miss.
The quiet shifts. The held breath. The space between words.
Long before anything is said, we’re already feeling it.
The Sensitives
There are some of us who move through the world tuned into things most people don’t notice.
We feel the tension before a word is spoken. We read the room before the lights even settle. We sense the undercurrents, what’s being held back, what’s not being said, what’s quietly unraveling beneath someone’s smile.
Maybe you’ve always known what someone needed without them having to say it. Maybe you’ve walked into spaces and felt yourself shrink, soften, adjust, before your mind could even catch up.
It’s not that you’re fragile. Or dramatic. Or “too sensitive.” It’s that you’re wired to feel.
You’ve been absorbing everything because no one teaches us to hold our own field.
What We Don't Talk About
We don’t talk enough about that.
How your body tenses when someone’s anger enters the room. How your chest tightens when someone you love is in pain. How you instinctively reach to fill in the space, energetically, emotionally, so no one else has to carry it.
But here’s the truth: absorbing isn’t the only way to care.
You can be deeply compassionate without carrying what’s not yours. You can hold space for someone else’s experience without letting it live in your body. You can stop matching, mirroring, and merging, and start coming home to your own energy.
The Real Work
That’s the real work.
Not shutting down. Not numbing out. Not pretending you don’t feel.
But choosing what gets to stay - and gently releasing what never belonged to you in the first place.
Because you’re not here to absorb the world.
You’re here to meet it, steady, aware, and rooted in who you are.
How To Start Holding Your Own Energy
This isn’t about cutting people off.
It’s about remembering that you’re allowed to be in your own body. Your own experience. Your own field.
Instead of merging with everyone around you, practice:
Noticing what’s yours and what’s not. Pause and ask, “Did I feel this way five minutes ago?”
Taking a breath before responding. Give your nervous system a moment to come back to you.
Grounding your body. Touch your feet to the floor, feel your feet inside your shoes, place your hand on your chest, and call yourself home.
You don’t have to stop feeling. You just get to choose what you carry.
An Intention to Work With
“I release what’s not mine. I return to my own center. I trust what belongs to me will stay, and what doesn’t will go.”
If this speaks to you, you’re not alone.
So many of us have been carrying things we were never meant to hold.
And the shift doesn’t have to be dramatic; it starts with awareness, a few steady tools, and the willingness to come back to yourself.
You’re allowed to take up space. To feel everything. And to choose what stays.
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