6 Essential Tips for Finding Your Soulmate
My significant other is my soulmate and my best friend and just an all around fun and a goofy guy that I like to hang out with, he makes me laugh, and in this business, it's nice to have someone like that in your life.
We met just weeks after I publicly announced my psychic business and a little more than two years after I experienced one of the most devastating break-ups of my life.
In those two years before meeting him, I was mostly single. I lived in a Bachelorette pad, pursued my dreams, dabbled in OKCupid and figured out who I was - all the while, wallowing about not having someone whom I could at least share all of my fun Bachelorette experiences.
Since I’ve found my soulmate and I've found myself in a spot regularly consults others people on how to meet theirs. It's fun to talk about love and to reflect on what works. In doing so, I learn about what works for others, so the examples below will include some of that.
6 Essential Tips for Finding Your Soulmate
don’t prove why you are lovable to anyone
If someone loves you, he or she loves you.
If you find yourself convincing your partner why you are a good partner, if they can’t see your beauty that’s a red flag, over time, people will showcase their love in different ways and reflect it to you in their manner.
realize you are given ‘bad’ partners for a reason
We learn what we want in life, primarily by learning what we don’t want - first. We learn by experiencing the contrast of what we want.
Having a string of poor partners doesn’t mean you’re bad at finding the right one or a failure at relationships (been there) - it could simply mean that you needed to identify all the things you didn’t want first, so that when the right one does come along - you know, your soulmate is more easily spotted.
look for who resolves the fight
Are you always offering the first olive branch of peace?
Always being the first to make-up is a tell-tale sign the relationship is imbalanced, and you are giving far more than you are actually receiving.
If your partner routinely waits for you to do the mending, it is time to move along; soulmate connections are often about equal balance, giving and receiving.
look for equality in a mate
Love is about an equal balance of giving and receiving. All circumstances may not be equal, but over time, the amount that you are receiving from your partner should be equal to how much you give.
Always helping your partner out with money while they sit on the couch?
Continually offering creative ideas for their business, while no input or interest is offered on your endeavors?
Finding your soulmate is about locating the person who balances you out - gives where you need to receive and receives where you need to give. If you’re doing it all - get out.
take on some soul searching
Your soulmate is the person who is a match to your most authentic self.
Are you living in alignment with who that person is? Alternatively, are you working a job you don't like, pretending to be a person you’re not, or wishing to be someone else? It wasn’t until I took a cold hard look at who I was and realized I didn’t know that person, that I indeed began my journey to meet my real soulmate.
Want to meet the person who matches your soul? Start finding out who you are as a soul, and as you unpeel the layers, you align closer and closer to the date of actually meet him/her.
ask the cards to help you stay on track
One of the things I have found that helps is consulting oracle cards. An oracle deck that can be used to connect you to Divine Guidance. Checking-in with a card deck on a daily basis on what you need to be doing to move closer and closer to meeting your soulmate - can help and it can even be fun.
Working with cards can help keep you in alignment with your true mission - finding the one who loves you back.
When it finally came time for me to meet my soulmate, I had done a weekly card reading for myself and for the first time - I pulled the soulmate card.
In disbelief, I pulled cards every morning that week - and each time - the soulmate card appeared.
It was after about a week of pulling soulmate cards before I interacted with my soulmate for the first time, and though I didn't realize it right away, it didn’t take me long to figure out what was happening and the oracle cards cued me in.
Finding your soulmate is the #1 question asked in readings, healings and energy healings, the wishing, the seeking to find someone to be an object of our love is a universal wish and desire.
Taking these steps, which have likely validated some of the things you are already doing, will lead you closer to things, people and experiencing a world that loves you and in turn, you'll become a person who loves the world and attracts someone specific in the world to be the funnel of that love. After you attract one, it gets easier and easier, you can use these steps to be a beacon for anything, perhaps even more soulmates.
Amanda Linette Meder