A few months ago, I went a funeral for a friend’s mother.
Knowing how funerals usually go, I went fully expecting to see a few Spirits, especially since the funeral was taking place in a church.
In many church services, depending on the church and the way in which the service is held, there is often at least 1-2 Archangels or Ascended Masters present.
So I expected that.
I also expected the Spirit of my friend’s mother to be present.
I had seen her just a few days before her passing in the hospice room. The Light was already present and glowing in front of her bed. She talked about it and referenced to it - I was able to validate. Yes, she was indeed seeing a giant glowing light with Spirit people and Angels glowing in the center of it.
This is normal. It is also normal for a deceased person to attend their own funeral service after they leave their physical body in death.
It’s a great opportunity for them to see the people who they didn’t get to see before they crossed and to say their final goodbyes.
The Crossing Over Window
People have a window of time surrounding their impending death where their Spirit can leave their physical body and cross into the Light.
Some people leave their bodies in the moments before their physical death, before they feel any pain at all. Rather than experiencing first-hand the trauma of dying - they watch what happens as an observer on the sidelines. I have seen this happen in car accidents on the highway.
Some people leave their bodies the instant their physical body ceases to operate. Meaning, at the exact time of physical death, the spirit leaves the body and crosses-over.
Most people leave their body and depart Earth for the Light, somewhere between 24 hours and 10 days after their physical body has ceased to operate. When they are ready, they simply walk ‘into the Light’ that hovers nearby them, almost like a train door that remains open at the station for a period of time before the train actually departs. Generally, ‘the Light,’ or ‘the train door’ so to speak, closes for the final time after the ‘last rights’ surrounding this person’s death.
The Final Ceremonies
Depending on the person and what they believe is important, what qualifies as ‘last rights’ will change. The last concluding event of their life, where after which their Light door closes, will ultimately be different for everyone, depending on their perspective on what is and what is not important.
A Last Right could be:
A traditional funeral service
The burial after the funeral
When a loved one gives permission to the deceased that it’s okay for them to go
Once the processing of the physical estate commences and it’s smooth sailing
As soon as the deceased Spirit finishes visiting and saying goodbye to everyone
Once this Last Right is complete, generally, the Spirit of the person who has passed gets on the train, goes into the Light and leaves peacefully, on their own.
With that said, many people do choose go to their own funeral, because why not?
It’s kind of like the last time they get to see everyone and say goodbye before finally leaving.
A final party in their honor, if you will.
I’d attend that, for sure.
What Happens at a Funeral
The deceased person will be present and they generally shift to and from several locations throughout the service.
Here’s what you can expect:
As guests are in procession to the funeral, the deceased person generally arrives with the person or group of persons who were most affected by the death. If your funeral is in the United States, these people are usually in the head car of the funeral procession, but not always. Sometimes the person who feels the most pain or who is most affected is someone who is not even recognized by the main, immediate family members.
The person with the most sadness, who is in the most pain, is generally escorted by the deceased person to the event. If you come early and this person(s) isn’t there yet - wait - the deceased person is yet to arrive.
Once this person(s) and the deceased have arrived, as guests are arriving to the funeral, the deceased person generally stands in an inconspicuous place in the lobby.
This is so they can see who comes and effectively ‘greet’ everyone, while also avoiding being accidentally stepped on or walked through by an unsuspecting guest. Walking through a Spirit feels weird and recently deceased people are generally not comfortable with someone passing through them, just as you would not be comfortable with a random stranger entity entering your body.
I have seen the deceased stand next to or behind the picture boards commemorating their life or even right behind or next to the guestbook stand.
During the service and towards the end of the service, when people come up to the coffin and say their goodbyes, the deceased person generally stands at the foot of the coffin.
They are usually wearing whatever clothing and makeup they are wearing in the coffin itself, so many deceased people look pretty fabulous at their funerals. If you have the ability to see those in Spirit, you may be able to even see a wavy, glowy light, or a static in the air in this space. This would be the Spirit.
Following the service, where the deceased person goes, varies.
Some cross over into the Light at the close of the service or after everyone leaves. Some follow other family members to help with comforting them and tying up any loose ends which may require their input, and some, hang around with their own body for a while - seemingly reflecting on and coming to terms with their own death.
The Next Time You Are at a Funeral
Be careful what you say, how you behave and what you gossip about. Act how you would have acted if the deceased were actually present, because if you are at their funeral where they are the guest of honor, there’s a pretty good chance they actually will be present.
In the case of my friend’s mother - sure enough, she was present in the lobby and then once people were seated, she moved up to the front of the church floor for the service and the goodbyes.
While alive, she was part of the church choir, so there was a brief change in the normal affairs during her service. When the choir began to sing for her, she changed outfits and joined right in.
And after the event, I made sure to connect with her husband and offer my condolences.
There, he asked me,
“She was there, wasn’t she?”
I replied, nodding, “She was, in the choir.”
He smiled, a tear rolled down his cheek as he put a tissue up to his face, and he said to me,
“I knew I heard her voice.”
And he did.