Spiritual Boundaries: How To Set Psychic Boundaries
Updated 2025.07.14
Whether you are a long time practitioner or just identifying your abilities - establishing boundaries with Spirit is something that is going to become an essential part of your life.
Just with any relationship, new or old, you are responsible for establishing the rules on how other people treat and interact with you.
Want to be shown love by someone? You often have to describe to your partner what that means for you.
Want a different situation at work? You often have to spell that out for your team.
Desire to be treated differently? You have to define what different means to you.
When working with Spirit, you are usually interacting with a pretty excitable bunch of individuals.
Imagine…
Deceased loved ones who usually cannot communicate with people on earth, finally have found someone they can talk to.
It doesn’t matter who it was or what you had in common - you are just so thankful you have someone to talk to after all these years.
Spirit often feels this way.
Their excitement to speak to you can really explain why those in Spirit have few boundaries from when, how and in what way they will interrupt your day.
If you want boundaries with Spirit, you have to spell out what those boundaries are for yourself.
How To Set Boundaries With Spirits
Set Your Office Hours
If you were a professor, a doctor, a therapist, a tutor, or any other person that sees and meets with people one-on-one, you’d have office hours.
A list of days and times of when you would accept and see new people in your office.
A list of accepted times for when clients can come to you for help and attention.
When you are a psychic medium, or connect with the Divine for any reason, Spirit is your client.
Although they don’t have physical bodies, they are as much a part of your clientele as your physical world clients.
As a medium, you are the mediator between the two.
As you regularly work with both sides - both groups of individuals need to know when you are open and closed for business.
Otherwise, there will be some natural confusion floating around - is now a good time?
Can I talk to her if the office door is open with just a small crack or does that mean she's on the phone?
If he is in his office, with the light on, does that mean it's okay for me to knock?
When I first started working with Spirit, I didn’t set office hours and therefore, I had people (both living and deceased) calling me and waking me up at all hours of the night. Interrupting everything.
A Spirit would show up in my kitchen while I was cooking dinner.
I didn’t have office hours for Spirit at the time so they never knew when was a good time to show up, so they just showed up whenever they might be able to get a word in.
Any time I wasn’t “busy” in their opinion, they would want to get my attention.
So, I set office hours and you can too.
In your next meditation, simply share with your Spirit Team when the best time to contact you will be. This can work to keep visitations at a manageable level.
Decide What Is Allowed In An Appointment
Okay, so you’ve set office hours. Now it’s time to lay out what can happen during an appointment with you.
When your Spirit Guides, Angels and Deceased Loved Ones visit you, what do you expect from them? What is allowed to happen?
When Spirit visits you, what is off limits and what is on limits behavior during an interaction?
If you have clients and are doing readings, what information do you require from the deceased loved ones to be identified? Write this down.
Do you want them to tell you their gender, how they passed and information on what they look like or their personality?
Spell it out for them. They need to know what to have on hand to provide you.
You can do this by keeping a list of what you want to see from your Spirit interactions in terms of evidence in your meditation space.
Are you simply being visited by Spirit and perhaps not doing readings yet? If so, how can those in Spirit form appear to you?
Can they touch you?
Can they talk to you?
Can they appear to you as a full apparition?
Just think about what you would like.
Another way to look at this is how you would like them to get your attention when they need it. Think about how obvious you would like them to be.
Write all this down on the list of the rules of when they visit.
Limit Locations For Visitations
Add to your boundary list Where those in Spirit can visit you.
In public?
In your kitchen?
In your meditation area?
At parties?
At a restaurant?
Where can Spirit visit you? Put it on the list!
Since asking Spirit to appear only in my office, this is usually where I now see most of the activity, unless I am on someone else’s property - where boundaries have not yet been set.
During your next free moment, sit down and make a list of:
your spiritual office hours
your spirit visitation rules
your preferred spiritual visitation locations
Sit down and think about when you’d like to commune with the Divine, what type of mystical experiences provide the best reinforcement and confirmation for you and where you’d like to visit them most.
Most Spirit Guides and Angels do want to work with you so they will usually accept all these terms once they know and only break them on occasion, you know, when needed.
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