As a medium, I spend a lot of time connecting people on Earth with their Loved Ones on the Other Side, passing messages of inspiration, hope and guidance. Just as we on Earth use our own personal life experiences to provide others with guidance in their lives, your loved ones in Spirit, use their own lives as an example, as they reflect and offer information to you.
In all readings, your Loved Ones want to deliver one main message to you -
“Live the best life you can, have the most happiness possible, and don’t regret anything - we love you, and are supporting you from across the veil.”
Sounds simple, right? Have an amazing life? Sure, you can do that. . . and then you think for a minute, wait, what kind of vague advice is this? Have they ever been human?
And since your loved ones have crossed, they’ve had time to reflect, and think about their lives.
WANT TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE STARTING TODAY?
I’ve compiled the most common tips from your Loved Ones on the Other Side.
These are not regrets, but rather, suggestions for how they, and you, could live better.
1. IF YOU’VE ALWAYS LOVED SOMEONE, TELL THEM SO.
One of the most common themes in readings is your loved ones, coming through to tell you how much they value, cherish, and love you. We don’t always do this when we’re alive. We’re afraid. We’re scared. We feel vulnerable and, think, we’ll wait until there is a better time. Or we think, they already know - I don’t have to tell them out loud.
You do have to tell them out loud.
If you just realized you love someone right in this moment, say it 1,000 times, and whenever you feel it. The people that you love and care for don’t know unless you tell them. They aren’t you, and they can’t speculate, unless it’s stated as fact. After death, the last thing you want, is someone you loved so deeply, wondering, did my mother love me?
If you aren’t very expressive, talkative, or have troubles saying how you feel out loud, you won’t always have the opportunity to “some day” muster the courage. Your daughter may not know that you love her, just because you happen to be her father. Tell her so.
That tight hug doesn’t tell the whole story, and neither do those butterflies in your chest.
Make the opportunity - now.
2. IF YOU FEEL SOMETHING STRONGLY, WHETHER IT BE SADNESS, NERVOUSNESS, OR JOY, SAY IT OUT LOUD.
One of the main causes of illnesses and isolation among your Loved Ones coming through in readings - is that they always kept their feelings locked up inside. They never told anyone how they really felt. And it ate them up. You didn't know. . .because they never told you.
And you know, what you’re feeling? Right now, someone else feels it, too. If not now, they’ve certainly felt it before. And neither you, nor this other person, need to feel isolated or alone in your feelings, your wonderings, or your questions. A lot of misunderstandings are solved by just saying how you feel. In honesty, we are ALL people, we ALL have feelings. So, there’s nothing to be afraid of. Chances are, if you shared the way you really felt with someone else - you’d find understanding in their response, not, rejection or further isolation.
The first step in connection with your friends, family, and loved ones is sharing yourself with them. Many of your Loved Ones on the Other Side feel they never did this . . .not enough anyway, and sometimes, not at all. And they want to encourage you to share your heart - your whole heart. And stop feeling so alone. Sharing is courageous. You are courageous.
No matter what you feel, someone you know personally, has felt it. The good news is, this means you aren’t alone. The bad news is, this means you aren’t alone. Share it, and feel alone, together. It’ll be a bonding experience. And you need more of those, way more of those.
It’s better to feel connected while you have people to connect with than feel disconnected from those who love you, for no reason other than fear of sharing who you are with another.
Solve some misunderstandings. Let someone know how you really feel. This alone - is the most courageous act you can ever do - sharing of yourself, honestly, with another.
3. QUIT BEING STUBBORN. APOLOGIZE.
Going to the grave with a bunch of regrets is NOT what you want to do. Take it from your loved ones in Spirit. You may not have a chance to apologize once you get over there. Do you want to spend 100 years wishing you could say you’re really, really sorry? No!
We have all done something we need to apologize for, and there is no shame in messing up. If you are messing up, you are trying, and that’s the point of it all. To try. You don’t mean to hurt anyone in the process, no matter what you have done, you’re a good person at heart.
Got something you need to apologize for? Yes? We all do. To start, just say you’re sorry and what for. And remember, “for everything”, is not IT. Really, we’re wiping the slate clean here - fully and finally - you’re ready to say it in words - word for word.
Your Loved Ones in Spirit will often explain why they behaved the way they did, and their thought processes behind their actions (or in-actions, in many cases), but you don’t have to - simply say, “I’m sorry”. Then, release yourself from the guilt that you’ve been carrying. It’s heavy, and you are a being of Light!
4. WORRY LESS.
We can’t control the future, and though we can often predict it, you, I and your Loved Ones know one thing well:
Worrying about what hasn’t happened yet doesn’t fix how you feel right now.Right now, you are comfortable, secure, and taken care of - and it’s important, to remind yourself of this.
Worrying about the future doesn’t change the future - but it does affect your current state of mind, health conditions, and well-being. The most important thing for you to do is to change what you can to ensure a beautiful future and release what you can’t change.
Often, your Loved Ones will suggest you make a list on a sheet of paper of all the things that worry you. Then get out another sheet of paper. On one side, write, “Things I can change”, and on the other side, write, “Things I have no control over”. Categorize your worries this way. . . . and watch, as you see many of your concerns are things you can’t change right now - even if you wanted to.
If the things you can’t change still upset you, simply ask your Loved Ones in Spirit to help you make sure it will turn out okay. They will. But worrying about what you can’t control won’t make anything turn out okay,in fact, it makes how you feel right now, worse.
And the most important thing is that you always focus on feeling good and how you can feel better - that’s what’s most important - that you actually enjoy your life, while you still have it.
Take a deep breath. Settle down, and then review #2 - tell someone how you feel, let it out, release it.
5. FOCUS ON YOURSELF, FOR ONCE . . .
You’re a helper, a supporter, and a lover of people. Your Loved Ones know that about you, and they also know, that you’ve spent a lot of time in service to others. Maybe TOO much time.
Wanting to show others the bright light of hope, you are the support system and shoulder to cry on. You are always ready to lend a hand, and a shovel, to help dig someone else out of a hole. You’ve help others re-build themselves. . . and you’ve neglected yourself in the process.
It’s time to Relax. You can’t fix anyone else’s problems. Not at all. No way. If you keep this up, you’ll burn yourself out - and then how will you enjoy anything? Spending all your time helping someone else out of a jam, throwing out life rafts, and pulling people from their unhappiness - and you need a break. No good lifeguard worth their weight would refuse a vacation. Even if it's just closing up shop for the day, and coming back tomorrow.
To save yourself trouble and stress, wait. . . until someone asks for your guidance and support, and they really need it. Until then, relax. You can give others the map, but only they can walk their own trails. It’s time for you to go have a lemonade and enjoy some self-love time.
And PSST! You Loved Ones want you to know something:
You don’t cater to yourself enough! Spend some time, a lot of time, on doing what you love and what you enjoy - rather than helping someone else find out how they can love what they do. Take a warm bath, have a glass of wine, go to the gym, invest in an art class. Then decorate your house in the art you’ve made. Make your life beautiful.
Want to live a life with no regrets and cross into Spirit leaving behind you a full, happy life? The solution is simple:
LOVE. SHARE. APOLOGIZE. RELEASE WORRIES. CATER TO YOURSELF.