What Is It Like To Be a Medium?
When I was first starting out, I would frequently get asked the question,
“What is it like for... someone like you?”
People have interesting perceptions of what it means to be a medium - someone who claims to be able to see, hear, and communicate with the deceased. And in fact, when someone uses the word 'claims,' it often irks me, as it symbolizes a lack of trust that you're telling the truth.
Many mediums feel that because they've had to hide their gifts their entire life, and that their gifts generally make their lives more complex, so there's really no point to claim to be something that only makes your life and your relationships more complicated.
So here are a few things that I like to say about what it's like to be someone like me.
~ Life is generally more confusing not less with your gifts, though the gifts can make life more interesting.
~ It's more difficult to explain your gifts to the people in your life than it is to embrace them yourself.
~ Once you embrace your gifts, the gifts seem to bother you less overall.
~ You'll go back and forth all the time about whether or not you "should be" afraid of your gifts until eventually, you decide to settle on the fact that other people's fears need not affect your own.
~ You do need understanding people in your life in order to make it work.
~ People may treat you, look at you, or talk to you like you're vaudeville act, most people are really trying their best, so try not to take offense.
~ Once people find out what you do, they either become part of your life or they walk away, so having this gift and getting it out of the way that that's what you do, can be a great gauge of finding good friends, faster.
~ Life with these abilities can be more fun, though the gifts do make things more complex, it makes going to historical sites, doing research, and talking with friends more interesting.
~ If someone does say something offensive, it hurts at first until you realize that it's usually due to a lack of information or a piece of misinformation they've obtained from somewhere, so you take it as an opportunity to educate, rather than get angry.
~ Knowing something about someone you wished you didn't is one part of the gift you'll wish you could send back, but in some cases, it can be life-saving, so you'll decide to keep it.
~ Having these abilities does lend itself to a lot of interesting conversations and meeting a lot of fascinating, interesting folks, so if you're opening to learning new things and kind of a nerd, it could be a good job for you.
~ Being a psychic medium isn't necessarily a job, though it can be. It's like being a good listener, you could turn that into a job, but you could also weave that gift into many jobs and have it make a difference.
~ Your life generally changes for the better when you embrace your gifts because in being a psychic medium people judge you, often before ever having met you, so you start caring less about what other people think of you, and you live more freely.
So there you have it. Lots of people are psychic mediums though many go undiagnosed and instead keep their visions, feelings, and thoughts to themselves. If you are one of those people there is a community of us out there that is growing, supportive, and friendly, so you don't have to go it alone.
Amanda Linette Meder