During my first official year of business, I moved across country twice, changed places of living four times, and started a podcast, from a a motel room.
I really lived on the edge.
There's this vagabond streak in me that says if it's not exciting and if it's not happening fast, it's not happening all.
Being a medium professionally now, and being able to connect with Spirit for so many people afforded me so many things, but primarily... it afforded me distance.
I was able to work at my own pace, at my own schedule, and in my own space, with no one else around while I figured allllll my stuff out.
And I had a lot to figure out. Permanent living arrangements, for one.
This is all part of how I found myself giving an evening reading one night in a friend's loaned, unfinished basement, when a winged creature flew out from a crevice in the wall, and straight towards my face.
It was a bat.
And this was my life now.
Yet, I knew there had to be a better way.
I knew that finding stability as a professional intuitive was possible, but taking clients day in and day out and spending all my hours on the phone helping other people figure out their problems, left me little emotional energy to figure out my own.
The thing is, intuitive professionals, they don't make as much as you think they do.
There are rent fees, website fees, software fees, business expenses and miscellaneous overhead, 30% taxes if you're single, and then after that, you make your income.
On top of that, for every hour of client time, it's 2-3 hours of email back and forth scheduling, planning for your session, preparing for your session doing any complimentary post-session follow up that you do and other administrative stuff.
For most intuitive professionals (IPs) of any kind, coaches to healers to mediums, then, a single hour-long session includes 4-5 hours of behind the scenes work that you don't see.
Plus, because they're big-hearted, IPs give a lot of stuff away for free. Stuff meaning their time, their services and their help - all to people who never pay them. So that cuts into the income, as well. Because if they're giving away things (like time) for free to people who don't pay, they're not having that time to make income elsewhere.
I did the math once -
As an intuitive professional working on the phone lines *just* taking single clients one-on-one all day, I was actually making less than I had per hour, than I had been, as a grad student.
And that's saying something.
Grad students make nothing.
So, while I loved readings, with two degrees under my belt, I knew I could have a life better than the grad student hustle.
I devised a plan, and that plan was to learn everything I could from a dear friend of mine and who was also a music business expert.
While not ~ technically ~ the same industry, music people were creative people, and to me, creative people are people who get their ideas from spirit, to deliver mass messages that are healing in the form of sound and lyrics.
So, um, basically the same thing.
I picked this guy's brain on everything from business strategy to licensing to copyrighting and even branding.
And his stake in the game - he thought I needed to get out of readings.
Too much like a brothel, he said, being handed money for intimacy, whether it was emotional intimacy or sexual intimacy, gave him a weird feeling.
Furthermore, readings, he thought, were such a variable product - they were all different by nature and because they were so different, there was no way to guarantee mass success happiness - and then, not to mention all the customer service issues that go with along with that variability.
Even if it was the client who made the product variable in nature and not the medium herself, the medium, was still the one to get blamed. Too much trouble, too much hassle he thought.
Why not do what music artists do, and channel those downloads into mass messages and use your gifts to elevate the masses instead? He said.
The thing is, I agreed with him to an extent.
Readings were draining. They were intimate. It was kind of, well, brothel-y.
Trading my most special gifts for money, with a stranger, who could very well be a child predator.
Yet, they offered the deep healing work that so many needed.
But to do them all the time? As the main bread and butter? I could see his point.
Because, as much as most psychic mediums love client one-on-one time, it is emotionally draining, spiritually stressful and all around, a heavy weight that you carry around.
You carry those readings home.
Especially the most difficult ones.
Even the mediums that say they don't. Even the healers that de-cord til the cows come home. Even the spiritual coaches who tout their times vacationing in Rome. They all carry your stuff home.
You spend so much time deep in someone else's emotions, pains and grievances, that you can forget where you end and where all those other people begin.
You do lose your sense of identity a little bit.
I didn't fully understand the full weight of what I was taking on, or what my friend was really saying (tbh, he offended me at first) until I experienced my first psychic burnout.
Burst into tears, crumpled on the floor, I couldn't get words out of my mouth.
Thankfully, my significant other had walked in the front door right at that exact time, and he was there to catch me, in a giant heap.
Told you so, was written all over his face.
He'd decided that then and there, full time readings weren't best for my or anyone's mental health, and he forced me to cancel all of my clients.
For the next three weeks.
Panicking at the thought of losing all that money, and not even thinking of my health, I freaked out.
He then took away my cell phone and my computer and told my twin sister that I needed a break from all people.
On a soul level, I knew he was right. I did need a break.
In three years, I hadn't taken one day off.
I'd been giving readings round the clock for almost a year and because readings were my bread and butter, I had always feared cancelling them or stopping them, because that meant lost income that I would never make up.
On top of that, what if someone needed me? I mean, really needdddded me. What if there was a message that needed to be delivered or in taking my break, I was preventing someone from hearing something that would save their life?
I had a job to do. A people to serve. A message to deliver.
If I didn't do readings anymore, what did I do?
Who was I even?
A medium who didn't give readings - is that a medium at all?
During my breakdown week, it occurred to me that what had had me so exasperated, was that I was basically repeating the same messages to the same people with the same problems in all of my sessions for years.
Round and round and round - it was like I was beating the same dead horse - and quite frankly, I was getting bored and getting aggravated.
Have you ever felt like that?
Like you were just going round and round in circles, but with different people, saying different things?
So on my week of bedrest, I devised a plan of attack - one that wouldn't include readings.
I wrote out all of the repeating problems - and organized them all into free blogs. Edu-marketing.
I wrote out all the bigger issues - and created eBooks. People love books.
I recorded all of the guided meditations I'd been hand-holding people through individually in my coaching sessions - into something people could buy, without ever having to book a more expensive service, directly with me.
And it was all of these creations, that finally set me free.
You see, people are shy.
Not everyone wants to work directly with you to hear what they need to know.
By simply sharing my 'repeating wisdom' chunks into things my clients could go through on their own, I'd killed two birds with one stone.
I'd created a system where my clients didn't need me to get the information they needed. Meaning, no one had to wait 4-6 weeks to get the answers on anything anymore because most of the things I am asked, I've already answered in some form or another on my website, or made available to people in other ways. This serves both Spirit's mission of getting the message out there and people's own drive, to get things done on their own, as quickly as possible.
Then, I'd given myself space to create the business model of my dreams - where I can think about how I want to do things, rather than doing things just because it's the way it's always been done. Meaning, just because readings or one on one coaching is the way information has been typically been done in the past, doesn't mean that's the way it has to be now.
Like I said, not everyone needs or wants a reading.
And you can give your message, your healing modality, your information in other, less stressful ways - in ways where you have boundaries and space and aren't having mental breakdowns.
I know because I have done it.
Mediums, and other intuitive professionals just like me, are now using and spreading the light of their gifts in incredibly unique ways - ways that don't drain them or drive them straight to breakdown city USA.
So... if you are drowning and clients, ready to explode and still aren't making enough, I encourage you to do what I did - but maybe not in the way I did. Like, you don't have to have a breakdown.
But do give some thought to some of the repeating messages you have been delivering in your one on ones lately. These are wisdom chunks that can be streamlined for the masses - helping them...while taking the immediate daily weight of other people's emergencies off your shoulders.
You don't have to be directly working with people one-on-one to still be helping them, in fact, in some cases that's not even what's best for anyone - including you.
So remember that bat from earlier?
The one who flew at my face, while working late one night in the loaned basement?
Well, he's gone now and this weekend, I got to spend some time having a nice dinner, in another kind of cave, but this time, just for fun.
See, Lightworkers can get a break.
Give it up with me.
Quit hustling to the bone, and I'm serious - stop losing yourself in savior of your clients.
Take Transcendence, it's my brand new audio program, designed and destined to lift you out of that rut and get you back on board with the A Team.
We need you out there.
Amanda Linette Meder
Photos: Amanda Linette Meder Location: Bube's Brewery & Catacombs, Mount Joy, PA