On Saturday night, me and my significant other went out for a date. There’s a bunch of neighborhood restaurants and bars in our area and we’re always looking for an excuse to go out and try each one. This weekend’s excuse - it was nice outside.
We like to date and go out in public, you know, like a regular couple.
And if you’re a medium, or someone with mediumistic abilities to see, sense and hear those in Spirit, you already know that going out in public can sometimes be an invitation for trouble.
And by trouble, I mean an inundation of psychic and spiritual activity. With lots of other people around, especially in crowd and lots of loved ones, Guides and Angels that are trying to get their attention- being the only translator in the area is kind of like being a spirit celebrity - everyone wants you to deliver their messages. This often explains the social ‘anxiety’ a lot of extra sensitive friends and family members of mine face when in large crowds - lots of psychic information coming in all at once.
Of course, you can set up boundaries (and I highly suggest you learn how to do this here), and learn how to turn down your abilities - but it’s hard to stop yourself from simply seeing, hearing and feeling who and what is in your surroundings. Turning down is possible, but completely off can be difficult.
Thankfully, by this time in my life, I’ve mostly mastered my, “Don’t Let Anyone Know You’ve Just Seen a Ghost Face”. And by that I mean, I’ve gotten really good at making sure other people don’t know and can’t tell that I see something they can't see. As a teenager, I never wanted to stand out or be called names, so I’ve done everything I can to NOT call attention to myself in an awkward moment with a question I know well, “What are you looking at over there?”.
For much of my life and if you are currently opening and experiencing your gifts, you may know exactly what I’m talking about. You, too, may have found yourself distracted in a social situation due to incoming and unexpected psychic or spiritual information, and perhaps come up with another way to deal with it. If so, please share your techniques below!
But this weekend, when out with my partner, when I saw someone in Spirit from across the room, my attention was caught. Which is when, my significant other touched me on the arm and goes, “Hey Amanda, what are you looking at? You look like you’ve just seen a ghost!”.
I was caught.
Ghosts, also known as earthbound Spirits, are those in Spirit who have not yet crossed into the Light and for whatever reason, have chosen to stay here on Earth. They tend to be easier to see, feel and sense than those who have crossed over - and perhaps it’s because they reside primarily in the physical realm - they’re still on Earth with us and not on the Other Side of the Veil.
Whether or not we’re discussing Loved Ones in Spirit, Spirit Guides, Angels or those who haven’t crossed into the Light - I want to tell you something.
It’s OK to feel scared of Spirits.
Even if you’re a medium, a psychic, an empath, a holistic health practitioner or in another intuitive field. For years, as a medium, I was afraid of those in Spirit. And here’s why:
1. Spirits are portrayed as scary in all types of media
Whether you are an avid reader, used book shopper, out for a coffee on a cool fall morning, breezing through cable television, or looking for something to watch on Netflix, you’re bound to come across at least one of these things:
A book of somewhere’s complete tale of ghost and haunting stories
The such and such Old Hotel’s haunted halloween ghost tour
This group of guy’s ghost hunting tale and overly dramatized mostly night vision television series
A story of something spooky and unexplainable that once happened in the woods at night
Someone who believes a ghost in their house is possessed by everything and ruining their life
A completely normal family who somehow welcomed a demon into their house
When scanning media sources looking to understand my abilities as a young girl and teenager, everything that I was able to find didn’t necessarily make me feel positively about the Spiritual World. Actually, it made me feel terrified.
Which is strange, because now that I work with the Spiritual world, though scary things do happen, it’s extremely rare and few and far between. Like, really rare. Scary experiences in the paranormal and spiritual world are far less common than positively uplifting ones.
Unfortunately, a positive experience with a deceased loved one isn’t really that sensational. Someone who feels warm and tingly for feeling their deceased mother visit them in a dream one night doesn’t make headline news all that often. However, what is more exciting and would sell more copies and receive more ratings? Something with fear. Something with dramatic music. Something possibly involving a demon but with no evidence of that.
You can reprogram yourself from believing scary is commonplace in the world of Spirit. Start today. Start by immediately stopping watching those shows or paying attention to those books. Remind yourself - it’s just a person. Because for the most part, it is.
When working in the world of Spirit, it’s important to remind yourself that most Spirits who you encounter will be just like you and me - regular people.
2. Spirits can come on real Strong
The world of Spirit, while right alongside the world of the physical, is higher in energy. Full of higher frequency, higher vibration, and less densely packed molecules than the world of the physical. In the physical world, we can see tables, chairs and other people, because their molecules are so densely packed enough, that light reflects off of them - making physical objects visible to the human eye. To learn more about this, check out my article on orbs.
And, when Spirit wants to connect with you, they will often be more than happy to help you in creating the ‘link’ to connect with them. That is, throwing to you a rope of their higher vibrational energy to pull you up to their level.
I often think of Spirit on a hovercraft (or a hummingbird) and when they come to connect with me, they are lowering their hovercraft energy, close enough to my level to connect, however, not fully dropping to the ground to be stationary. Thus, when their ‘hovercraft’ energy comes close, it’s still fast moving energy. And often, I can’t see it right away, but I can certainly feel that swift breeze. You can too.
Thus, when a Spirit wants to connect with you, and you can sense this fast-moving energy, it is often misinterpreted as sudden anxiety, feelings of being flustered and overwhelmed, a raise in body temperature, or otherwise a raise in your own energy. This rise in energy can feel very similar to the adrenaline feelings you may receive when you feel scared of something. And, really it’s simply a high vibrational Spirit (these are the positive ones).
So, without being aware of what Spirit “feels like”, it can often be a scary-sudden anxiety-fear that you sense, when really, it is only that you are in the presence of high and fast moving Spiritual Energy.
Spirit can come on strong, but, it’s in an effort to help you connect by extending their rope out to you.
Thankfully, instead of having to deal with all the anxiety and fear of a very excited Spirit who wants to connect with you, you can train Spirit in how to funnel their energy to connect with you in a manageable way. This is called channelling Spirit. It’s easy to do, once you learn how and can help you manage and control your abilities, especially when Spirit wants to connect. Learning how work with Spirit starts by knowing what Spirit feels like to you, and then learning how you can funnel their Spiritual Energy to deliver their messages clearly. And, begin to understand why they want to connect with you more accurately and clearly.
The good news is that those in Spirit are open to helping you learn to connect with them, as they’re already throwing you a rope to get started! Start here.
Step by step and by slowing reminding yourself that mostly, Spirit is simply a person just like you and mean, you can begin to walk yourself off a ledge. And go out in public again.
With much love,