The Gift of Presence: How to Sense a Deceased Loved One When They Visit
One of the most common methods of visitation by your deceased loved ones is actually one of the most difficult to interpret and notice - sensing their presence in a physical visit.
But that's what we're here to talk about today, ways to make it easier to sense them.
Without a physical body and now residing primarily in Spiritual form, your loved ones aren’t restricted by financial resources, train or plane schedules or physical distance. It doesn’t matter what time it is because, in the Spiritual world, time is continuous and doesn’t exist.
Your loved ones can visit you for important events, in dreams and just simply to stop by over morning coffee. And they delight in doing so.
In fact, your loved ones will visit you so long as you feel emotionally stable and comfortable with them visiting. In the first few weeks to months following a loved ones or pet's passing, it is reasonable to cry when you sense their presence or see an image of them. For this reason, they may back off for a bit and try another time again.
In readings, your loved ones often proclaim that having the liberty of visiting more often is one of their favorite parts of being in Spirit now.
In fact, spiritual visitations are so regular and happen so frequently, I’ve written about the 4 most common times and occasions that your loved ones stop by before and that article is linked below.
Even if you never notice at all, they’ll still visit you and their favorite grandchildren, they don’t mind popping by and being incognito.
But you know what would be more delightful? If you actually knew when they were around and stopping by.
With this knowledge, you may be able to say at least hello, thank them for coming and enjoy the fact that they are still making an effort to go to all the soccer games. Or your wedding. Or that big presentation you had last week. They were there, smiling in the back of the room by the coffee and danish table. Most certainly.
If you had a free plane ticket to anywhere and endless amounts of time, would you miss anything at all?
While your loved ones can certainly send you signs and signals like coins, birds, and feathers - it is so much easier and more enjoyable to visit you for real. It’s like sending a card to your daughter every year for her birthday. Yea, it’s nice, but wouldn’t it be better if you could just be with each other? It sure would. Nothing, in my opinion, is better than a visit from a loved one. And while I know that they’ve been visiting you all along, it’s about time you were able to pick up their presence, too.
In this post, we’re going to learn how you can sense the presence of your loved ones easily and without playing a guessing game. No longer will you simply assume your mother was there - you’ll know. The tips below also work for pets, so let's not count them out.
Let’s get started -
4 Steps to Learning to Sense your Loved Ones in Spirit
1. Get relaxed.
Go for a walk. Lay down in bed and take some deep breaths. Do some exercise. Settle in for meditation. Whatever it is that you do to take a load off, loosen up your muscles, relax your Spirit and quiet your mind - do that.
Get as relaxed and cozy as you possibly can without being at risk for falling asleep. And if you do, you really needed to relax. You can always start this exercise another time. There are no time constraints - your loved ones will wait patiently for you to notice them for as long as necessary.
2. Take a Trip Down Memory Lane.
Once you are relaxed, think of the loved one that you have in mind and want to begin to start sensing and noticing.
Start with one person or pet for now and if you have others in mind, let’s work on sensing them after you’ve mastered your ability to sense your first loved one. It’s like learning jump rope - master one trick at a time - not all at once. It could get confusing otherwise.
Now close your eyes and imagine yourself standing in your kitchen with your back turned to the open doorway behind you. Just take a moment to imagine this scene.
Next, imagine that your deceased loved one has just stepped in behind you.
What does your loved one feel like to you? What did they feel like when they were alive when you were with them? What does it feel like with them there?
If you can’t think of a good description with words - it doesn’t matter - so long as you can feel it. When your grandfather entered a family gathering, what did his presence feel like?
If they were alive right now, you would know if the person who entered the room was your husband, dog, 5-yr old daughter, or brother. You would just know. You would be able to feel their energy and sense who it was. This energy, the essence of who they are is still the same - it hasn’t changed at all - we just need you to remember it.
It’s okay if you can’t think of the words. Remember the feeling.
Now, go back to yourself standing in the kitchen with your eyes closed.
What does this person feel like to you?
This is the feeling you'll want to notice and pay attention to when out and about, or at your next family gathering.
3. Recall your favorite moments and times with your loved one.
Now that you remember what this person feels like, start thinking of your most memorable moments with your loved one.
Think of at least three happy memories you have with them and then actually feel the memories in your body.
Your most precious moments with this person are their most cherished moments, too. They do not want to miss out on these small and big events, either. So, they don’t. They make a point to have coffee still with you. They still want to give your advice on your newest professional photos. They would not miss your first international presentation. Not for a second.
When you feel this energy in your body, spontaneously, this is when they will be visiting you.
And yes, sometimes your deceased loved ones do show up randomly on a Tuesday afternoon, and why not?
So now you have two ways to sense them - with their soul energy and through the emotions they give you in love.
Over time, you’ll start to notice these energies around at times when you wouldn’t have expected along with all the usual instances, too.
But for now, let’s stick with the moments that you both cherish and love - the moments you want them visiting and the moments they are taking the next Spirit flight over to visit you.
4. Bring it all together and practice.
Once you have practiced remembering what your loved one feels like to you - the standing in the kitchen with your eyes closed exercise - take a moment to try this exercise more than once. Call them in and feel how they feel to you. Try to remember what they feel like as often as you need - to make sure you have it down pact.
It feels good to remember, too. So please, practice, practice, practice away.
Next, take your loved one sensing abilities to the big stage and try it out for a test run.
Think of the cherished moments and moments you wish for this person to be there and start to test your spirit-sensing abilities in one of these moments.
Do you miss your grandmother when you are rocking your newborn to sleep?
Okay, go. The next time you are rocking your newborn to sleep and are alone in the nursery without any interruption, say to your grandmother “I'm ready to practice with you now!”
Then wait, and see if you can sense her energy, feeling the emotions of her happiness with you.
Most of the time, we become mirrors of the people that we love, reflecting in ourselves aspects of them that we both honored and admired so that when this person or pet passes over, we actually don't lose their most cherished points because we are them. The more that you can think of being at one with the energy of your loved one, also, the easier it will be to carry their heart and soul with you, wherever you go, and miss them less.
Have more questions about sensing the presence of your loved one? Want more practice?
From Crossing Over to Connection:
A Guide to Life After Death
I answer the most commonly asked questions on how you can really sense your loved one, recognize signs and get them, and many more! Over 50+ answered in this comprehensive eBook. When you purchase the book, there is also an optional free meditation for sensing a loved one. Learn more here.
Also, for those looking to dig deeper, in the Member Center section of the website, there is an eCourse for Talking to Spirits that releases the fear and walks you through the process, and several meditations for connecting with a loved one, who actually may become more like a spirit guide to you after their crossing.
Amanda Linette Meder
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