When being contacted for sessions, this is one of the most common questions asked by clients,
When is the best time to schedule a session? Is it going to be too soon?
And while I used to suggest a flat time period of ‘waiting’ after your Loved Ones cross over to connect with them in Spirit - I don’t do this anymore and let me explain why.
When my own father passed away, it took me approximately 5 years to see a medium to connect with him after his passing. I needed time and a lot of it. I didn’t think I was ready enough until that point. While it’s not that I doubted he would ‘come through’ (he had mediumship abilities, too ~ so if anyone was going to make it, it was going to be him!), I doubted my own emotional state and my own sensitivity in the process of transitioning to a world without him in it.
Each and every one of us has a unique way and length of time for grieving the loss of a Loved One. Where you may be ready to connect with your grandfather right now, your mother may need a few more months. You may be ready sooner than others in your family, or vice versa.
Meeting with a medium often is a unique experience and before even making an appointment, you may need to feel yourself evaluating your own thoughts on eternity, life after death and the possibility of an existence of Spirit. Before meeting with a medium for the first time, this re-evaluation is completely normal. You may find yourself having thoughts and questions like,
- Is this even possible?
- I never thought I’d do this, but it’s worth a shot, right?
- What is he/she is a fake? What if I’ll be scammed?
- What if they don’t come to a session? I just wasted all that money!
All of these thoughts are normal and completely understandable. After all, I'm in no place to judge. It’s exactly what I thought before I went to my first mediumship session.
Think it through. But when you do, also ask yourself,
- Am I ready to connect with my Loved One in Spirit?
- What if it is possible and we can actually talk again? That would be something beautiful.
- What if I can receive closure, answers and say goodbye?
- What if I can learn how to communicate with my Loved One on my own terms after the session?
- What if they are already communicating with me and I can find out how to notice it?
All of these things are also possibilities when connecting with Spirit through a medium. And if you are worried about fakers taking your money, please check out this article here.
After all, the right time to see a medium is whenever you are ready to connect and feel emotionally up to it.
Private readings, for many, trigger an emotional release and healing ~ thus, it’s important that you feel emotionally and spiritually ready. But there’s no flat time length that works for everyone. For some, the time is never - as in, they will never meet with a medium. For others, the time is right within the year or month of the crossing of their Loved One.
Rather than making a flat time recommendation, as I used to, I now ask that you decide for you what is best for you. When do you feel ready to connect?
Don’t worry about Spirit. Spirit will wait ~ they have eternity and your Loved Ones are very patient and understanding. They've got all the time in the world and are more than happy to wait until you are ready - they aren't going anywhere anytime soon.
Nervous about seeing medium privately? Want a second set of ears and eyes to support you and listen? If you are nervous to see a medium privately, many mediums offer join or small group readings, where you can connect with Spirit in the comfort and support of friends and family - which can often help ease nerves and soothe your Spirit as you connect with someone special on the Other Side. Plus, witnessing miracles in a group is fun, rewarding and so joyous.
Now, we ask, when will your Loved Ones be ready to see a medium?
Just as you much be ready to connect with Spirit, your Loved Ones in Spirit must also be ready to connect.
After your Loved One crosses into Spirit, there is somewhat of a transitioning period. I often think of it cycling in time where they are adjusting to their return to Spirit, connecting with their Angels and Guides to learn about their time on earth, gathering new perspectives, getting used to their new surroundings. If your Loved One was feeling any physical, emotional or spiritual distress upon crossing - this time also allows them a period of rest and rejuvenation - a period of healing for their Spirit. Learn more about this life after death process here.
During this time, which many mediums and Loved Ones alike refer to as the ‘Life Review’, your Loved Ones often are unable to reach via a mediumship session - busy re-adjusting, getting used to their new situation.
In a way, it’s like the first day of summer camp - you are registering for classes, learning the lay of land and where all the cabins are, having all sorts of group and solo orientations with counsellors and reuniting with old friends - you are just so busy!
For Spirit though, this ‘first day of summer camp’ can last a period of days to even years after they cross-over. Thankfully, once complete, your Loved Ones are free to come back and visit Earth whenever they please - and this includes being present for a medium in a session. Just as the transitioning process you have after their death is unique, as is their transitioning process to Spirit. There is no ‘flat’ time amount that is the same for all - both those in human form and those in Spirit body.
Thus, if you do book a session with a medium and for some reason, your desired Loved One isn’t present, please know it has nothing to do with their love for you or desire to reconnect - often, it is related to timing, for both you and them. And, rather than feeling upset, please know that perhaps another very special Loved One may wish to join your session instead and is making a very special effort to do so. In addition to this, there are things you can do to assure the best reading experience possible and that your Loved One is indeed present.
All those who join us for a mediumship session really do have the most important and valuable messages for you now, and, I always suggest we hear them out ~ no matter who it may be that joins us!