When someone is mean to you for no reason, it can catch you off guard and throw off your whole day. However, you don’t have to let it.
While it’s often just displaced aggression, there are ways to respond and process a negative interaction with someone without causing further damage to your psyche or soul or theirs.
Whenever someone feels out of his or her comfort zone, has just been attacked by another person, feels threatened, feels vulnerable or is hungry and has low blood sugar, these are all potential reasons why someone may have acted out of his or her true character.
People often feel bad about their snaps.
Even so when someone is mean to you for no reason, snaps at a stranger, or otherwise displaces their negative energy onto you, it’s natural to feel shocked or take it personally, as though you’ve done something wrong but usually you haven’t, and most people will notice the error of their ways only if given a little bit of time.
In the meantime, you can respond by sending a little compassion their way, which is what people in negative moods often need most, and try a few of these mental activities to help cope with it emotionally:
Imagine meeting this person in another circumstance. Start over the interaction in your mind’s eye and imagine them inviting you over for dinner and welcoming you into their home. This one can reset and start over the interaction, even if only mentally, and is especially helpful if someone was mean to you at a street fair, or in a public place, where he or she may have felt vulnerable or threatened. After all, they may want to have a re-do too so you’ll be doing everyone a favor just by imagining it.
Think of one nice thing you admire about this person. Yes, think of a compliment. Did you admire their passion for life? Did their tie look nice? Did you like their lipstick? Thinking positive thoughts about a person is sometimes all that is needed to help calm the situation, and contribute to bringing them back to their true state of self - a loving, caring being. This one works even if you do it remotely and even if you never tell them out loud. Hours later, you can think of a positive thing about this person, and you’ll slowly notice them moving out of your energy field; meaning, they’ve stopped the hostile attack from afar. *yes, this one is great for releasing cords, too
Resist engaging. You don’t have to attend every brawl you’re invited to participate in, even if it's just a verbal one. If someone is actively spewing hate or negative energy, the best thing you can often do is not to engage the situation and either smile, say something kind or if you can imagine a glass wall between you and them, which all the hate speech hits, none of it getting onto your beautiful energy field.
The majority of humans want to be loved, accepted and to feel joy.
Aside from these activities, if you feel sensitive to other people’s words, emotions or thoughts, a shielding meditation (such as those found here) can help prevent you from absorbing harsh words, as can wearing protection crystals, a few of which are mentioned here: 4 Best Crystals to Repel Negativity.
If you’re in The Membership Center, any protection meditation, cord cutting meditation, or releasing/energy clearing meditation in The Meditation Room can promote replacing any negativity you’ve absorbed, resetting it into positive energy and mood. My favorites for this circumstance are the Solar Plexus De-cording Meditation, the Psychic Attack Relief Meditation and the Call Back Your Energy Meditation. All of these are found in The Membership Center.
So even if someone snaps in the moment, this doesn’t suddenly make the above untrue (that most people want to be loved), and instead of continuing to feed the harsh words, try a few of the things above to soothe the situation from a distance or from close by, and you’ll get back to a place of peace in your heart and help them get there as quickly as possible, too.
No need to continue harsh energy. Someone has to be the leader and demonstrate the new way to get there, so why not you?
Watch a video on this topic here:
Amanda Linette Meder