How To Deal Fair Weather Friendships In Business
by amanda linette meder
So at this winery near my house, there's a sign right when you walk in that reads,
"We don't pay the bills on tastings, so please, buy a bottle!"
And I have to say, this always makes me laugh out loud because if every business entrepreneur, freelance engineer, life coach, tarot reader, or photographer I know could have one of these at their place of business, I bet they probably would!
When you run your own business, it can be hard to manage all the requests that come in for your attention. And with emails ever increasing, social media platforms growing, and the ways people can reach you just expanding - I've found that one of the most difficult things in business is making friends with others in my network.
Because others have questions about this sort of thing, too, today, I wanted to answer a reader submission about it. So shall we?
I have a question. I’m a practicing psychic medium and I recently moved to a new area. After I settled in, I reached out to all the other intuitive practitioners (other healers, mediums, psychics, readers and so on) in the area to introduce myself and make friends. No one responded.
Fast forward to now. My website is way bigger and my social media numbers are much higher than they were before. Now, I’m seeing a few of these names pop back up again, reaching out to ask me to share their blog, mention their article, or even to collaborate on something. They didn’t want to be my friend then, so why now?
Amanda - What I want to know is this: why did no one in my field want to be my friend before, but now that I’m bigger, I can’t seem to keep them away?
Thanks for all your help! Look forward to hearing what you have to say!
Hey Anonymous, and thank you for writing.
I can understand how this hurts. When I was first opening up my business, I can’t say I experienced it all too much differently. While I believe this is changing now, it is true that most psychic folks are guarded.
Many dealing with boundary issues themselves, chances are, you may not have even gotten through to them personally when you tried that first time.
Your e-mails/calls may have gone to a forwarding system or even to an outsourcing assistant.
So . . . it’s possible this isn’t a personal rejection thing - maybe more of a they just didn’t get the email thing.
However, if you have a suspicion they definitely did get the email/call and instead, just chose not to reply to you, I’m not gonna de-validate you there, because this is also possible.
But let me explain first.
Many psychics, especially those with online websites, spend so much of their time fending off inquiries for their attention to:
- solve this crime or that
- can you help me find my lost dog
- tell me what you see in this photograph
- scan this video or camera setting for me pro bono also right now please
- what can you tell me about my house omgomgomg its an emergency rn thx
. . . that it can be hard for them to recognize a true friendship request when one is being made.
Think of it like this.
Someone holding a tennis racket on a court.
They’re sweating, bouncing back and forth on their toes, batting off balls left and right, as fast as they come.
The ball throwing machine is shooting tennis balls at them at rapid speed, and it's not stopping anytime soon.
Then, something unexpected happens.
A gold one, worth $1 million dollars, finally comes though that never ending fancy auto-ball-thrower machine, but it hits their racket and they react so fast, and so out of pattern really, that they don’t even know what they did!
Perhaps they do, and oh, do they regret it!
So yep, sometimes the psychic themselves, the staff, or the powers that be will just freak out and delete everything. Or maybe the messages you sent bounced to a box that never got checked, because forgetfulness, or because there simply wasn't enough hours in that day to do it all (is there ever?).
On top of that, if we're talking psychics here, most psychics, readers, and intuitives man their own offices, and these are largely under-staffed offices, to boot. So perhaps your note is still sitting wherever you left it, and no one has even seen it still.
Or maybe your email hit them when they weren't feeling good, or their harried, possibly over-caffed assistant accidentally deleted it, then never said anything about it, or the faulty email system they were using at the time (now fixed, hopefully) error coded your message by some weird mistake, all without even thinking about how much your message was potentially worth.
These things happen way more often than you might think.
So duh, to them and their system back then. They really missed out on a good thing coming through.
Perhaps you'd been great friends, or at least better friends than you are now, but either way, in the end, here's what I suggest - try to think about it like this:
Maybe it just wasn’t a good time for either of you to connect back then, but the Universe says it is now, so perhaps it’s worth giving the relationship a new try.
You coming back up into their energy field (you know, from being famous an all) was perhaps the reminder they needed to get back on the train of making friends with you, if it's still not too late.
Just make sure to touch base with how it feels for you first.
Amanda Linette Meder
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Amanda Linette Meder is a professional educator and writer, and a donor mom to three wild cats and a 12-yr old dog, whom she loves dearly. She writes about the spiritual world and the natural world, and helps others like her self lead happy, healthy lives.