Handling Negativity and the Public Stigmas of Others

Recently on a tour of the famous Fonthill Castle in Doylestown, PA built by creator Henry Chapman Mercer.

We weren’t supposed to take any photographs of the inside, but I did take mental note of the titles of as many of the books on his bookshelves I could read.

After scanning so many rooms only to find titles, such as “The Spirits of the Woods,” and many other titles by well-known spiritualist authors on the walls, we finally spoke up and asked the question:

Was Henry Chapman Mercer a spiritualist? Did he believe in spirits?

The tour guide then went on to say to the group what I’ve been saying years:

Henry Chapman considered himself a man of the arts, and arts, musicians, and writers have, for time immortal, all considered themselves in some sense, to receive their gifts of creation from the divine.

So there you have it. Slam dunk folks.

Artists, musicians, singer-songwriters, inspirational speakers, are often highly sensitive souls and in some sense, receiving their ideas from another place.

All creation is some mix of inner spark, combined with the spark of elsewhere.

Whether you're giving readings to the public or writing songs -

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Releasing the fear of your gifts is the big first step in starting to use them, and starting to feel comfortable in using them.

When I meet with people, they often have one of two things going on:

#1 The spirits they sense scare or are bothering them (substitute spirits for dreams)

#2 The perceptions of the public about who they are as people scares them

Of course, it hurts me when I find an article online claiming all mediums, psychics and empaths frauds because I deal with them on a daily basis and I know most of them as genuine, loving human beings, many of whom are just trying to make lemonade out of some lemons they've been given.

If you don't know a medium personally, the movie Hereafter with Matt Damon is the most accurate representations of the inner struggle of the medium that has been done thus far to date.

In my article on What to Know to Prepare for a Mediumship Reading, also I talk about the fact that a medium never has a to give a reading in his or her whole life if they don't want and many… don’t.

What prevents a person from doing so is largely the public stigmas and stigmas about the gift that person has that is coming from within the medium’s own family, and preventing that person from fully coming out of the closet or from fully being and accepting themselves.

Boyfriends and girlfriends can be a problem, too, as they tend to either fall into the category of being the most supportive or the most oppressive and skeptical of one’s gifts and talents.

There is rarely any neutrality there - either your romantic partner supports you, or he or she doesn’t, and this remains a primary factor in any psychic, medium or empath path to fully embracing themselves - yes guys, spousal acceptance really matters.

Second, existing mediums can be a problem in preventing the development of new mediums, empaths, and sensitives.

Katy Perry’s recent interview (external link) highlights this notion exactly - the strange race she noticed regarding who is more woke than whom.

If you aren't woke enough net, you get slammed.

The woke race affects people because it prevents people from stepping out creatively for fear of being shamed for doing so.

Everyone encourages you to be yourself and step out, and then when you do, oh my goodness, the wrath.

Intellectual battles have long existed among artists, public speakers, musicians and yes, also mediums, many of whom are also artists, musicians, and singer-songwriters. Though as Katy Perry mentions, in recent years, with the internet being what it is, it has given people the opportunity to critique on a flash, exacerbating the problem, sending mixed messages to everyone.

Flash judgment of others isn’t necessarily helpful or useful.

In the empath community, one would argue that it’s neither.

In my eCourse, Releasing Your Fears, we talk about how to release your fears of both things - fear of the things unseen and fear what other people think of you thinking about the things hidden and having new ideas.

Then in Gavin de Becker’s book, The Gift of Fear, he talks about the importance of the apprehension for our survival, so fear isn't all bad, and in Leah Guy's new book, The Fearless Path, she talks more about how to move through fear to live a more peaceful life.

Fear does play a role in our development and in our culture.

It prevents us from doing risky things, but it can also inhibit us.

Once you’ve already moved through the fear, though, what happens?

Do you become fearless?

Well, yes, and generally what happens is also, that other things start to come up.

Like when you heal one overarching medical condition that affected your whole life previously, and now that the healed condition is pushed aside and taken care of, it gives light for other things previously hidden factors to emerge and come forward.

Things you didn't notice before, suddenly become noticeable.

One of those unnoticed aspects being the feelings, emotions, and thoughts of others that affect us.

This month in The Membership Program, we’re talking about Handling Negativity, which discusses how to navigate all the opposing opinions, energy, and emotions that come at all us on a daily basis.

It's a topic for empaths, psychics, healers, and mediums - regardless of what they’re bringing through.

Whether it be song lyrics, messages from the dead, or malas.

As sensitives, this is important to do - handle the outside perceptions and their impact on your energy field, your creativity, and your productivity.

Sensitives should be able to live comfortably in the world without judgment and most importantly with acceptance.

They make an incredible impact on the communities around them, and the true shame is not their fraudulent acts (most being so honest and loving to the point of extreme honestness and lovingness that they get taken advantage of by others), but the fact that they are scapegoated, labeled deceptive, and largely not credited for the differences in the communities they make.

The days of magicians discrediting the mystical are over.

Magicians, you are part of the mystical.

And if we look at all the progress the LGBT community has made over the past 30 years, that’s the growth we’re looking at that’s possible for the psychic community as well.

Acceptance is on the rise.

As author Colin Dickey states nearly 30% of the American Public claims to have seen, felt, or received something they can’t explain and this number, too, is on the rise.

So whether you’re on TV, on the Internet, or floating around in your local community, out of the closet or still in the closet, remember: we’re an interconnected community and we’re all subject to the beliefs of others. Beliefs and stigmas permeate everything we do, how much business people makes, and how people feel about themselves.

Beliefs, negative or positive, about the sensitive’s gifts, are affecting a sister, colleague or friend of yours right now.

It's our responsibility collectively to put a solid effort forward in changing these beliefs and shifting these perspectives and in helping those people around us who bring through the sacred to feel loved.

We can change the way the world perceives this starting with ourselves.

Take one step today and make it not about you - because it’s not.

Even if someone laughs in your face, it’s not about you.

Laughing is a sign of nervousness, and good for you then - you made someone nervous.

In a small part, you just made a great impact in someone by taking that small bullet.

That's bringing someone out of their comfort zone. You're providing the community with a little healthy and needed consciousness stretching. Bless you. Go get an iced coffee treat for yourself and a friend now.

But going back to the point.

Other people’s beliefs about the afterlife and what exists beyond are their business, not yours and likely stepped deep into their ancestral line, going far beyond themselves, you, space, time, the continuum, it’s deep.

If you meet someone who is unwilling to look at you and see you as a rational, loving human being but instead, they see you someone to poke at, prod at, or make fun of and taunt, run.

That’s the old thinking.

You can try to encourage someone to understand, and we have videos in The Membership Center on for how to do that respectfully, but it’s not your responsibility to educate all the time.

Sometimes it’s just your responsibility to be, to exist and to create.

To be medium. To be conduit. To bring through love and let that be the proof.

This weekend I'm releasing three new videos in The Member Center for techniques you can use for Handling Negativity - these are psychic techniques and also practical techniques, techniques you can use privately and also on the spot. I don't leave anything out.

Photo: Unklar Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

And finally, if you're feeling a bit down this weekend, recall the courageous acts of one great Madame Blavatsky, a Russian Woman who came to the United States at the height of the spiritual and intellectual revolution of the late 1800's.

A professor known was Dr. Beard was taking on the side hobby of attacking mediums publicly.

He had little to no expertise in the field.

To defend her friends, Madame stepped up.

She published her first paper, as a woman in an 1874 journal called About Spiritualism (external link), which was featured in a prominent New York paper and it was so sensational that it was republished in Boston a few days later.

And it wasn’t about spiritualism at all. It was a roast. Of all her critics.

And, it was a slam dunk.

So sometimes, what we need more than anything is an attack so strong that it lights a fire under us that we do something about it which then does something for all of us. Psychics and sensitives, you hear me. Take action.

Amanda Linette Meder

www.amandalinettemeder.com