Psychics, healers, and intuitives tend to have difficulty in love. I've written this article to help shed insight on what has healed this issue for me.
Highly sensitive people tend to attract people who are much more yang than they are.
It balances out all their yin.
When you are dealing with someone who lives, works, and breathes what they do, like I do, then it's a whole lotta yin that's gonna need balancing. It's going to take a lot of yang in a person to equalize everything.
In other words: a very masculine person.
Before I did spiritual work for a living, I thought I wanted someone a lot like me for my soulmate: someone more emotional, more sensitive, perhaps someone who sensed spirits themselves so we could talk all about it.
Then I kept choosing the wrong guy. The wrong guy. After the wrong guy.
Psychic mediums are on one end of the spiritual spectrum - the far right.
To balance that out, they need is someone on the other pole, someone to help them lighten up when they get too emotional or introspective, and help them come back to earth sometimes.
Someone to remind them to enjoy their physical body while they're here. Someone to help organize their life.
They need someone on the far left.
But don't worry, you're sending out unconscious signals for this person all the time.
The person who will help you heal, help you become a better person, and help expand their worldview. The person who will help you grow.
This is your soulmate.
Highly right brain and highly left brain people coming together to help each other grow doesn't mean they will show love to each other in the same way, or respond to situations in the way each other would, but they do show love and do respond in their own way.
Whenever I clash on an issue with my soulmate now, which happens less frequently now because we've been together a while, we have to always remember why we were attracted to each other in the first place:
because we loved and respected the other person's worldview
If we forget this, which we can, things can get pretty polarizing, pretty fast.
But when we remember, we can understand and respect the other person's process a little better, and make better decisions together, as a unified cross-spectrum team.
He's got the logistics and the safety covered, I've got the foresight and the feeling covered.
When you are in a relationship, one of the benefits is that not everyone has to hold all the hats anymore. When it was just you, this is the case, but in a relationship, no more are you the jack of all trades.
You can specialize and get extra good at your speciality.
Wouldn't it be great if someone else (who really enjoyed it, actually) could plan your trips, if that gives you anxiety to even think about?
And you if could be the one who helped relieve the stress for everyone by explaining the greater meaning of a family conflict?
Choosing a yang partner, if you are a yin person, will do this for you and it's what many intuitive people have consciously done to find true love.
I've met other psychics, channels, and mediums who've made the same choice as I (chosen someone uber yang to match up to their uber yin) and within a few short weeks, there it was.
The Perfect Balance. The Unity. The Respect. The Soulmate.
Just simply decide to walk away from the old path of seeking, because it isn't working. Give seeking the other a try.
This is how it worked for me, and that's how it has worked for other intuitives. I stopped having trouble in love when I decided to try dating someone a bit more of a yang-focused.
And by a bit, I mean really yang.
At the time I met my soulmate, I was living in the woods in an isolated cabin in the Sierra Nevadas, giving psychic readings all day, and otherwise floating around the woods with just the belongings in my car and my dog.
My soulmate was living in center city Philadelphia, going to work via subway for his daily 9-to-5 and working in the media industry managing high-level projects.
Were we opposites? Absolutely, yes. Two fireballs crashing together, him and I.
But these days, our lives are a lot different.
We both work from home now. We live right on the edge of town backing up to a woodlands. We both do a little project managing, and we both do our fair share of floating around.
Will my soulmate channel spirits with me at my next seance, though? Probably not, no. But I've got girlfriends for that.
But what he will do is help me decorate my channeling room with the coolest, one-of-a-kind vintage art pieces he can find, barter for me for the lowest price on rare mediumship books at local flea markets, and listen to my spirit drama for the entirety of a 5-hour road trip.
And that's love. In his own way.
Amanda Linette Meder
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