a Tradition of Self Love: A List of Self Indulging Rituals You Need to incorporate into Your life
Want to feel loved, supported, and cared for?
We all do – and for each of us, what it takes to feel these things is slightly different.
Not everyone feels loved through kind words, others prefer gestures, gifts, or physical touch. Some just prefer to be listened to.
And each of us, can do this for ourselves.
To Love Yourself, First...Listen To Yourself.
Are you ignoring your own needs? Not paying attention to your intuition? Avoiding processing or dealing with your own emotions? What does your gut tell you to do? Do you listen to that.
Listen to the voice of yourself, and quit silencing it.
The more you allow yourself – to speak to you openly- the more you give yourself the love it deserves.
Then Give Yourself Compliments.
Write them on the bathroom mirror, the mirror in your bedroom and on little post it notes around your office. It’s not every day someone accepts you for who you are, without judgement, and without question. Be that person for yourself.
Once you get a few compliments that you really love, post them up on sticky notes on your walls, or write them with a magic erase marker on your windows and mirrors.
Read and say them whenever you see them.
This really works and you deserve to feel good, so why stop there?
Make a List to Remind Yourself How Amazing Your Are.
Rescued a puppy? Brought someone coffee on a bad day? Changed someone’s life? Gave someone a pep talk? Scholarships, awards, grants, job offers, events, big tasks completed, graduations, hardships overcome.
Write it all down, on a list.
Have you ever helped someone when you didn’t need to? Did something simply out of the goodness of your heart? Tried your absolute best that you could, even if it didn’t turn out? Took a risk, that you were really afraid of taking but did anyway?
Put. It. On. The. List.
Get others to help you. Ask your friends and family of things that you’ve done that they really admired. They’ll have some things you didn’t think of and it’ll be pages long when you get through.
Next, rip the pages out of your notebook and fold it up in your desk drawer. Whenever you are feeling down, bust out this list and read through it. . . out loud.
Remind yourself of how awesome you are.
Devote Time To Yourself Once Per Week.
Call Sunday evening ‘self love’ night. During this time, do anything that you want. Take a warm bath with essential oils, flower petals and wine. Light candles, play music and make it all about you.
Choose something that you love to do and that makes you feel loved – and do this once per week. Then call this time your ‘self love’ or recharge time – because that’s what it is.
With these simply rituals in place, you'll bound to start feeling the love of myself all around and whenever you don’t, just briefly, return to this list, choose something on it and refill.