Connecting with a Spirit You've Never Met, How Autism Affects Spirit Contact, and Decoding What A Deceased's Messages Are -
Dear Amanda & Team,
I am very much confused, feel kind of weird and have a burning question. I read through your website tonight and learned about the six kinds of spirits that help humans on earth. Interesting.
A while ago, I, by accident, ran into a real live movie in where people committed suicide, but they had no idea they were filmed, though.
One person got underneath my skin really quick and really deep, I haven't been able to get him out of there. I searched on the internet to find out who he was, and it turned out he was kind of like my 'dream guy' would be.
I have been single for ages and I'm not looking for someone either.
Anyway, at night I fall asleep with this man on my mind and wake up with him on my mind again, too.
He is always there and I even did not know him when he was alive, though by what I read, and by what I heard about him it feels like I have known him.
I feel a huge regret that I was not there to avoid his suicide, as I was close by to the bridge where he fell off that day. To know this saddens me big time and I so far haven't been able to get rid of that feeling.
I wonder why his act and personality made such deep impression on me. There were more people who went off that bridge, and I don't seem to care about that like I do this particular guy.
Now, since he committed suicide at the age of 34, and the fact he was not a loved one of mine, I would like to know if I can get in contact with his spirit somehow. I don't know much about the spirit world but I have the feeling I need this person's spirit in my life nonetheless.
Your website learned me that I can get in contact myself with a spirit, though how with him?
Also, I am diagnosed with Autism, suffered from depressions throughout my life and found out that some therapy like EMDR couldn't be used because my Autism is in the way.
I tried some things to really focus on Gene's spirit but nothing seems to happen.
I may be blind for anything a spirit wants to let me know. Or maybe there are no spirits for me to get in contact with. Can it be that things do not succeed because of the autism?
I was wondering if you maybe could give me some advice and explanation to help me out or push me some further to a solution as for my problem?
I hope to hear you in advance.
It sounds like this person's spirit has already found a way to get in contact with you.
Seeing, sensing or obsessing about the presence of the dead, often, indicates the presence of someone dead attempting to get on your radar.
When that happens, if there is a message or a meaning behind it, the spirit generally won't leave someone alone until that message has been delivered.
This goes the old saying of unfinished business -
Despite the situation you describe, it is actually quite normal to have spirits whom you've never met before getting in contact with people who are technically their strangers.
These can be regular people, but the technical term is to call these people mediums.
Because of what we know already, this situation you describe indicates you have mediumistic gifts and tendencies. More on this below. In the meantime -
Spirits visiting strangers, is very common with suicides, in fact.
Because due to the pain, grief, and trauma of losing a loved one this way, many times, immediate contact with the first-hand relatives is just not going to happen - many people who lose a loved one to serious trauma like this, as much as you might think, don't want contact with the other side for quite a while after the death, in order to heal and... it could take years to do this.
So, the deceased must find their own devices to find ways to heal, deliver messages, continue on with their soul purpose on earth and also, to still communicate with the living.
Meaning, the deceased will often find other people to communicate with to get their needs met and messages across. This person they find to communicate with could be:
- Their soulmate they would've had if they had followed a certain trajectory or path. Soulmates can die and when they do, most do still attempt communication with their other, from the other side.
- A near-friend or acquaintance of those affected by their death, someone right on the outside of their social bubble at the time of their death.
- The person they were meant to guide following their death (some deceased take jobs in the afterlife to guide the living).
- And in some cases, this could just be an earthbound person making an attachment to the living - and if this is the case, what this person truly needs is to cross over and help to do that.
In any case, regardless of this person being crossed over or not, who the deceased choose to visit is usually someone the deceased finds a common bond with, enjoys being around, and would've been friends with in life.
This like versus like method is actually how the deceased finds their medium they wish to communicate through during a reading if someone should choose to book one. They find the medium they personally like to communicate through, which is why I always say the spirit chooses their medium, not the other way around.
That said, you can bring through messages from this person through automatic writing, clairvoyant visions, you can also identify if this person needs help being crossed over by evaluating how this person's energy feels around you (I talk about this my The Spirit Identification Key and also in The Transitions eGuide) -
Either way, granted what you've described, he's around you when you fall asleep and around you when you wake up and on your mind, so this means he's already getting through to you - so, Autism doesn't seem to be a factor here and generally, it's usually not - as people with Autistic gifts generally have gifts in other areas.
The next step here would just be to identify and narrow down exactly how he's popping in -
Are you seeing him, sensing him, just thinking about him when he pops in?
This could be a clue to what type of way he's communicating with you, indicating which of your intuitive gifts may be strongest (Check out the Open Your Gifts eCourse for more on identifying these patterns).
Spirits communicate through the intuitive senses, so identifying exactly how/which method he's getting through to you, will help narrow down how other spirits may be communicating with you, too - in turn, opening you up to more possible communications and perhaps onto a life path of adventure of sorts.
If you feel you have a block in communicating with him clearly, know the most common block making spirit communication far foggier than it needs to be is a Crown Chakra Block, and it's actually quite common to have one of these. Especially if one was raised to believe spirit communication was bad or that only certain types of people were allowed to communicate with spirits.
There's a Crown Chakra Opening Meditation in the Membership Program's Meditation Room if you need help with this, but also, almost any spiritual opening meditation will help - because almost all of these function, in part, by opening Crown Chakra.
Reiki healing works too and by using Reiki, you can open a Crown Chakra Block, too.
If you're familiar with Reiki, here's a process by Reiki Rays you can use to open the crown.
Then, the final step would be to determine why and what to do about it -
While I can't say for sure what his visitations mean exactly, only you can do that, or perhaps another medium, he could be showing up to help you realize your gifts, or as you said above, maybe he's coming forward to help you identify your soulmate.
Or perhaps, he needs help crossing over.
Sitting down with a series of meditations, such as The Spiritual Gateway Meditations, or the Spirit Communication Meditation, paired with a few Mediumship Attunements (I have these last in the Membership Program's Meditation Room, the first in the Online Store), could help you get a clearer picture of what exactly he needs from you, or what exactly you need from him, in order for you both to move forward.
As at the end of the day, that's usually why any spirit visits anyone, to facilitate a learning or a soul growth experience, on both sides - it's part of the soul contract you two must share.
Amanda Linette Meder
PS - Mediums are not just around for deceased people communication, this just only the method that has been popularized and scrutinized in popular culture over the last 100-150 years. One can have a connection to the other side and instead be a conduit for art, paintings, song lyrics, downloads, angel messages, inventions, equations, vaccines, etc. There are many specialties. In fact, anyone with a clear connection to the divine who has received other worldly revelation of some kind is and can be considered a medium. Deceased people contact with a medium is only one such use of the gift, and there are many.