The Opposite of What You Know To Be True Is Also True:
Thoughts on life, sisterhood, and happiness within the spiritual community
Are you happy with yourself, as a person?
People insist they can’t move, they can’t change jobs, they can’t be themselves, or they can’t be happy all for one reason or another, and that reason, regardless of what it is, simply isn’t true.
I went from living in a small flat with no furniture in an abusive relationship to a three bedroom house living in the forest with a man I love.
I had to change my career, the location I was living in, and the people I was associating myself with to do it, but I did it.
If you don’t like your life, you can change it and become happy.
If you’re poor - hustle, then go move and be poor, in a location that you love.
If you hate your job - get that same job somewhere else that you like, and at least you’ll enjoy where you are.
If you’re in a relationship where you’re not supported - leave it.
You’ll be alone for a while but at least you’ll learn how to support yourself, in the meantime.
Make the move to a nice community across town, the one with cheaper rent.
Then, stop talking badly about others in the process, as putting too much time into taking down those you love means that you’re not putting enough time into creating a quality life for yourself.
And you need to put time into that.
That’s what you need to do.
Others are trying just as hard as you, following the guidance as best they can, just as you are, and they too, are doing their best in figuring out a way to be happy.
I am a psychic medium who works with other psychic mediums to find happiness.
In addition to this, I’ve found that through my work in readings with the public - basically all people have the same problems and we’re all trying to overcome them at the same time.
And in my eyes, one of the biggest blocks to overcoming these problems is sourced from the same pond.
The Pond of Contradiction
Imagine you are someone who enjoys talking about, thinking about and sometimes meditating with and calling in your Angels. You visualize the Angels coming, healing your aura, healing your energy, swooping in and saying kind things to others about the way they can live their lives and find hope and meaning in their existence.
Isn’t that great? Angels are great.
Spirits are so good at solving other people’s problems, aren’t they? The Spirit world is so kind and loving.
They come in, they say loving, inspirational things, they heal the pain and then ::poof:: they’re gone.
What nice friends they are, those Spirits. They ask nothing from you, yet give everything to you.
An hour later, your daughter calls.
She is having problems with a professor at school, who won’t give her an extension on a paper that she needs because she had a real, honest and unforeseeable emergency that has prevented her from completing it on time.
She got home from work and found her cat is spasming, eyes rolling back in her head and she’s not breathing - she’s gurgling!
Worked up, emotionally and physically, she calls you for help while at the emergency vet anxiously awaiting the news on her best friend.
Calming her down, you hang up, and congratulate yourself for being such a good mom. Then immediately, commence a crap talking 'sesh' on the professor.
How much of a jerk this guy is! Can’t he see a real emergency when it's right in front of his face! This isn’t some frat guy who drank too much and is skirting his responsibilities, it’s a person who has a real problem! Where is his heart! Why did he ever get into teaching in the first place if he can’t be a real teacher and help where help is truly needed!
See what just happened here.
We went from love one minute... and then judgement the next.
As Timber Hawkeye says, the opposite of what you know to be true is also true.
The real key to a happy life, and to a real, genuine connection to Spirit, is to carry through the messages you receive from the Angels, into your actions in your everyday life.
It’s how to be a more loving person, that's what Spirit teaches.
In the process of becoming a more loving person, more abundance then comes your way, more loving relationships, and ultimately, more of the time is spent leading you to a life you fully love.
This is what the Angels teach us to do - to be and to seek love.
This is what a Spiritual connection is meant to do also - to sharpen our radars for love.
You can’t be a spiritual person - a person who connects to spirit, someone who says they know all the ways of reiki, the records, the crystals, the masters - and then reject that wisdom when it’s convenient or when trouble is a’brooding.
Unhappiness comes into our lives when our conscious mind is in disharmonious discord with our subconscious mind . . . . the knowledge that we all have, at the seats of our souls.
Your soul self knows what is right every minute of the day.
So listen to it.
Your job as a spiritual person, is to always be in the process of returning to that listening... to following that.
You know that talking crap about other people behind their backs doesn’t change things, and on top of that, you know that having compassion is the right thing to do.
That professor guy is probably a really nice person who is struggling with his own emotions regarding what is just and what is right. And let’s be honest, a paper turned in a day or two late often results in minor consequences, anyway - a lesson for your daughter to do things ahead of time, rather than waiting until the last minute, as emergencies can and do come up when you least expect them.
To see the lessons and the blessings in all things.
This is your job.
On Following Your Calling and Being a True Teacher
Being a true teacher is about embodiment.
It's about bringing what you’ve learned from your life, your intuition and from what your guidance has told you, time and time again about the ways of the world, into your daily intentional practice.
It’s not about going into the reading room and delivering the most accurate reading ever and then stepping out of it and washing yourself clean of all that wisdom that’s just been thrown down.
The messages you get in your readings apply to you too, after all.
It’s not about calling out teachers you don’t agree with and telling them they are wrong.
The opposite of what you know to be true is also true.
As a spiritual person, you know that different people, have been born to different cultures with different life experiences. Just as we grow up in different physical neighborhoods, we also grow up and experience different spiritual neighborhoods.
Someone who has extensive experience with aliens, black eyed children or shadow people for example isn’t wrong, or even necessarily projecting their fears onto their environment - that’s your perspective on their experience - you, viewing their world from your box.
It’s like saying that the giraffe is an unintelligent species because they don’t know how to drive a car.
That’s viewing another species intelligence from your box of what it takes to live and be successful in your world, not theirs.
As a spiritual person, you know that everyone has boxes they live in, even you, and you know that there are people who come into your life, specifically to shake you out of your box.
While you hate on them, they are actually expanding you, making you a better, more compassionate person who is able to see other people’s points of view, without finding the need to declare your perspective wiser or better.
Being a teacher is about allowing yourself to be taught by others, and it’s about understanding that everyone you meet has something to teach you.
As Bill Nye says, everyone you will ever meet knows something you don't.
This is true no matter what field you are in.
Everyone has different life callings and in the spiritual community, this is also the same, as no two psychic mediums are ever equal in what they do, and no, I’m not talking about their abilities, I’m talking about their roles.
We hold hands across the globe, we each stand in a different spot as we pass the baton to one another.
We serve different communities, fulfill different roles, and have different missions.
If you were a professor at Ohio State talking about Ecology and Evolution, there would be no reason to attack a fellow professor at Duke University, also teaching a class about Ecology Evolution, but using Squirrels as his model, rather than Sparrows, as you use in yours.
Two professors, doing their best to reach their audiences, in the best way they know how.
Are they competing with you?
Trying to prove that Squirrels, and specifically the Squirrels they know, are better than any Sparrow anyone has ever and will ever meet?
No, of course not.
Different roles, different audiences, different life paths.
While I am not an academic professor, I am a teacher.
My calling is to assist other mediums in embracing, not fearing, and then thriving with their gifts.
Whether or not the people I help ever decide to go pro, I’m right at the threshold giving them a helping hand to cross over it, and then handing out the running shoes and wings they can use to take off and soar with.
You don't have to take my shoes or my wings, but the people who do, swear it does help.
And let me be clear:
I don’t give people their gifts - the gifts they had were always there.
I provide the assistance that makes the transition from one life into another much easier.
I walk people through their emotions surrounding their abilities, help with their orientation of the new world they’re stepping into and help people get situated with what is what, so they can succeed at it, faster, and with a community of support at their back.
When my teachings don’t resonate with you anymore - it means it’s time for you to go, as you are now ready to go on and learn about something else.
It means I and my colleagues have done our jobs well.
You moving on doesn’t necessarily mean that you have surpassed me, or that at one time I had surpassed you, it simply means I and my colleagues can now pass my baton onto the next guys, and ideally, you will go off and on to where the guidance takes and leads you.
This is how we work together.
As fellow teachers and continual students, we pass batons back and forth between each other, helping each other and others at different stages in their journey, you helping certain people at certain times with certain things, and me helping other people at other times with other things.
When you outgrow your teachers, this means they have done their job.
And it means that you have staged up to the next level on your growth.
Spitting on them when you leave, then, is not showing gratitude for all that they’ve done for you or for the work they’ve put into helping you get where you are, and it's also not showing gratitude for all of the work you have put into being where you are now.
We have to honor our teachers, because they are us and we are them, whether or not their teachings still resonate with ours, or ever have.
When we honor our teachers, we also honor ourselves and the ways in which we have been teachers for others along our path, as well.
Everyone you know has shaped who you are, helped you form your own opinions and viewpoints on things, and played a role in the path that you are leading today and they deserve our deepest thanks.
People Come Into Our Lives As Blessings And Lessons
I recently had a former client start an internet gossip group, with me, as the main focus.
In hearing about it, I was understandably heartbroken, but alas, I learned a major lesson.
Anyone who starts a group with the intent to gossip about others is hurting.
Rather than getting angry, we have to imagine what type of life situation would bring someone to talk poorly on a person who has been nothing but kind to them.
And as you, too, grow larger on your path, there will be others who take a stand against what you say and this is something you are going to have to come to terms with.
Your honest expression is going to bring out honest expression in others.
That's the great news.
Trust the expression that you see as that person’s genuine expression of self and then use those observations to make ever-more wiser decisions about your own life and how you will be interacting within it.
And as Don Miguel Ruiz says, Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you.
When you see a spiritual person acting in contradiction to the principles they preach, there’s a good chance that the very lessons they are spreading, are the lessons, they too, are still learning.
We teach that which we are learning - always.
In fact, this is one of the main ways people identify their purposes - by asking themselves, what am I teaching? What am I learning? What has given me so much pain, that I want to change it for others?
We teach that which we are learning for ourselves.
Teachers are far from perfect beings because they are human beings.
They are people themselves, incarnating on their earth and learning lessons just like the rest of us and they deserve our compassion, just as they have given it to us, in our own learning.
Dehumanizing a person, spiritual or not, is still dehumanizing them - and alas, a contradiction on what we know to be true.
What A Plant Fossil Dealer Taught Me About Community
At a fossil show this last weekend, my significant other and I spent the majority of the time talking to a long time friend and dealer.
On the way out, another dealer who had been watching our conversation, stopped us at the exit to tell us that what our vendor friend actually sold was nowhere near as valuable as the price tag showed, and here, come look at some of what he had for sale.
This dealer, approaching two strangers, talking down on his own colleague in benefit of himself.
Why is it first human instinct to insult a colleague to attract another, rather than to support a friend?
We owe our colleagues the utmost respect and regardless of industry, we should be able to speak highly of our peers.
As people with similar paths, interests and hobbies in life to ours, sharing identical objectives and goals, we actually have a lot in common with each other.
Hardly competitors, they are also friends, sources of insider knowledge trading, and people we’re going to see often. It makes sense to be kind, when you have to see someone on a daily basis, does it not?
In my own industry, when I hear other psychic mediums talk poorly about their peers, it puts an equally bad taste in my mouth, as to what happened at the plant fossil show.
We're all here to spread the same message and we are all passing the batons back and forth to each other.
And, as I said in my recent post about the psychic medium community, it is a small community, so lest we be careful what we say.
- As spiritually evolved people, can we not find ways to be more respectful and inclusive of those with similar interests to us?
- Can we learn about each other’s products and offerings, come to understand why they do what they do, learn to see the value in their offering of it or acknowledge how their presence supports and validates our own?
- Can we support each other, and in doing so, make the environment for ourselves as dealers, more friendly?
I believe we can.
When we learn about and from others in our industry, we can then speak more highly of the very gifted people within our community, and in turn, we put a positive taste back in our customer's mouths, creating a more positive atmosphere for our entire industry and those working within it, all around.
We owe our sisters our support and complete loyalty, for they have done nothing to hurt us.
They work with us.
We work together for the same cause.
To close, I want to end this post with a vision:
The Sisterhood Vision
There is a place where we are all connected by a river of flowing water.
We meet there at the banks and are surrounded by jungle on all sides and it is here we learn that we are not alone.
The sisters come from all borders, all cultures and all tribes that scatter throughout and within these woods, yet, together they come at their banks, to discuss their purposes, to support each other's work, and learn from and with each other's cultures.
Sisters support the visions of their sisters, they share each other's stories, and know they are part of a greater collective working to spread the messages of Spirit.
When apart, they are connected eternally through their lifetimes by a woven web of ideas, soul histories and paths. Flowing, fluid and pulsing through their many multiple connections on the map, their connections made more numerous by the ever more small threads that are woven within the web of life itself.
- The Sisterhood Vision, Nicole Hannan of Spirit Mountain Medium
The Sisterhood is something that is happening right now and you can be a part of it.
As a member of the Global Sisterhood, you have a supportive network that you can choose to work with.
Sisters are lightworkers of similar vibration and intent, and naturally they are friends, that naturally help and support each other.
Interwoven and interconnected despite their distance, Sisters stand up for and support other Sisters.
- They use their powers for love (and not for things like this).
- Inherently they understand that we are all on our own journey with no journey more or less spiritual than the next.
- They support and reference the work of their peers, colleagues, and former associates.
- They understand that there is no need to be competitive, as we are each serving a different community and passing the batons back and forth to one another.
Being a Sister is about having rock solid ethics.
It's about living in the light and with integrity.
No one profits off one another, but rather, Sisters work co-creatively to network and support the offerings of the other sisters they connect most closely with.
The Sisterhood is already happening, do you want to be a part of it?
Do you support your community, are you willingly step into a life free from contradiction, in nothing but support for your peers?
Share the work of your peers, cheer them on, and find happiness in their successes?
And that’s what Spirit teaches us to do, too.
The world is a crazy place, and we can’t win in it, when we can’t support one another through it.
So, shall we do it?
Amanda Linette Meder
Evidence of the Sisterhood can be found within the Global Sisterhood Day Movement, where in March of every year, sisters in small groups get together to honor each other. It can be found in the International Council of Grandmothers, who come together annually to share their (intuitive) visions, prophecies and spiritual wisdom with the world. The Sisterhood has been written about by award-winning blogger, Glennon Doyle Melton and has been echoed in the article, Sisterhood Creates a Movement in the Making. For more information about the Sisterhood, I suggest this article.