Psychic Medium Culture
The Answer to Why Psychic Mediums Are So Reclusive and other Insights On the Secretive Nature of the Psychic Medium Community
by amanda linette meder
First things first, mediums are professionally trained sensitives.
Mediums are intensively trained (yes, all professional mediums, like all professional athletes, receive training), to feel.
Our senses are heightened intentionally because the more sensitive we get, the better become at our jobs.
I say and have always said that I have one just fatal flaw...
And it’s how sensitive I am.
When I apply this flaw to my job though, it’s what makes me great.
But when I apply it virtually any other area of my life - a romantic relationship, a friendship or working relationship, watching tv... and well, that’s why we call it a flaw.
I feel too much.
We, as mediums, feel too much.
But as a professional psychic medium, that’s actually a good thing - it's my job to feel.
Talking to the deceased, my job is to sense, perceive, hear and see all the things that the majority of people don't.
Unfortunately, you can't just apply certain aspects of who you are to one area of your life, and then partition them off from all the rest.
As a whole, mediums are feelers with big hearts.
In fact, if I didn’t feel for people, there’s no way I’d be doing what I was doing now.
If I couldn't sense the needs of others and then found myself drive to want to help, I would have just kept all my crazy gifts to my 'lil ol self, and just kept right on with my life.
But in my 20s, a friend suggested that my gifts could help people - and that's when everything changed.
Choosing to be a medium, just as with any career choice, is a decision that comes with its ups and downs.
The medium community is small
On top of that, the mediumship community, like any community once you get down in there, is a small one.
Whenever you really get into any field - like, really get into it - whether it be in math or in academia, there is really only ever like 4-5 people, doing the same thing you're doing. And in mediumship it's the same way. Likewise, akin to any job, there are days you're high flying. You're making differences in people’s lives, making people cry real happy tears, and healing relationships that we once thought unhealable - all through the magic of Spirit.
Then there are other days. Days when a client you took a risk on, yells at you, and spits in your face. There are days, when you learn that a client you really loved, cancels an appointment with you, to book with one of your friends instead. And then there are days, when someone you thought a friend, publicly belittles your teaching program, in order to sell more seats, in their own.
The day and life of a medium.
As a medium and as a living, breathing woman...who has a heart, a conscience, and a whole lotta lessons still yet to learn - this can really hurt. But as a spiritual practitioner, taught to feel and think otherwise, you're caught in a real contradiction, because those feelings, oh those feeling, they can really get to you.
and It can feel locked and guarded from an outside perspective
Some mediums have even become so sensitive to public interaction, that they are guarded even against their own kin - other mediums. And then because of this, many mediums have found a hard time making friends with others in their field - a point illustrated clearly in an email sent over the weekend, from a psychic medium colleague in New Jersey:
Mediums are a tough group to network with. Very guarded and paranoid! I wish they would realize that we can all live next door to each other and we would still see who we were supposed to see! But sadly, that is not the case.
But the tides are changing now
Thankfully, friends, more and more mediums seem to be coming out of their shells these days.
And because of this, the social stigmas on mediums are changing, and this is making it a safer place for mediums to be.
This is in part thanks to many of the brave mediums who have come before us (I’m looking at you, Theresa Caputo and others) and many of the New Wave Mediums who have begun to take to the internet to change the way mediums are being perceived.
The braveness of our peers will help newer, more under-the-cover mediums feel less worried about rejection, public ridicule from people who have never met, had a reading with, or personally gotten to know any medium in his life at any point, yet, is somehow the world’s expert on them.
Mediums are now, more than ever, feeling more comfortable with sharing. They're coming out of their shells. And as more and more people do, it will open even more doors for others, who come later.
And the way I see it is: the more, the merrier.
As our community grows larger and gets more vocal, the social atmosphere becomes for us becomes a safer and friendlier place, too - moreso, than it ever has been before.
Amanda Linette Meder