If You Truly Had a Gift, You Wouldn't Be Charging People
As a psychic medium, I've heard this comment more times than I can count. . . and it kinda disgusts me.
It's an ugly finger to point because when you do, you're shaming someone into devaluing their services and doubting their worth.
And that's totally unfair.
because the very premise of every job on earth is related people getting paid for their gifts.
Time + Skills = Someone Values It = You Get Paid
People who have gifts deserve to make a reasonable income based on those gifts.
And a few months ago, I was visiting an old friend of mine who is a very talented musician.
He has a gift for music and songwriting that's 100% natural and it's a gift I personally don't have and likely never will.
I knew him when he first started gaining the confidence to share his gift of music with others, and during this time he would bring his guitar with him to house parties. When he got enough courage and enough people chanted and cheered him on, he would play his guitar for us.
We loved it. And we benefited from his gift of music for free.
Over time, as he practiced, his abilities to write and synthesize lyrics transformed and evolved. The complexity of the strings he would play increased. And just this last year, he published his first CD.
Did I mention to you that he's also homeless?
My friend is one of the most talented music artists I know and yet, he doesn't have running water. Or a bathroom. Or a reliable heat source.
This is because he doesn't believe in the value of his gifts - or anyone's gifts for that matter. And he doesn't believe he deserves a return of monetary value for his skills.
Which is totally backwards because the premise of all workforces is what I mentioned above:
Time + Skills + Sharing Those Skills With Others = Income
When we met again for the first time in 5 years, he turned to me and said,
"You have a gift, Amanda, how dare you charge money for it? Isn't that a little selfish? Don't you feel like you're taking advantage of people?"
Because time + skills + practice = an expertise that's worthy of value exchange.
Offended and also saddened, this mindset is the exact reason why he's homeless right now and the exact reason why I used to be homeless, too.
Uh-huh dear reader, I used to live in my car.
Then one day I woke up, and decided that my gifts had value and . . .
- the more I practiced and enhanced my skills
- the better my skills became
- the more people demanded those skills
And then, I had to give up my eventual full time job in order to meet the demand.
Now I offer my skills to the world in an equal value exchange system.
But I don't do it for free. Because I can't. We are born God-given gifts so that we may not only share them with others, but so that we may afford ourselves a life of dignity.
Charging money for my gifts allows me to offer my gifts to Others.
My gifts are true, but so are my needs and my basic human rights to housing, shelter, food and water.
Unless you were born yesterday, you know those things cost dolla - dolla bills. As a psychic medium, I'm also a human who spends time perfecting her gifts and offering them to you - dear reader - with the every day costs associated with running a business.
This blog alone has administration costs.
It costs me a computer to write the material on. An internet connection to post it. And a website address hosting service to share it with you. To keep myself doing it, it costs the food, the water, and the shelter I need to continue to provide these beautiful teachings and services to you at a fair price.
Mediums are not Money Hungry Animals
They are humans with bills who have natural gifts that they've honed, developed and practiced to a place where they can now offer you their expertise in a safe, loving environment. No different than a therapist, a lawyer or any other service professional who gets paid for their work.
A person cannot offer you their gifts fully if they do not have a dignified space to do that in.
Where is my friend and his music today?
He's not performing, he's not touring and he's not actively playing. He's not using his gifts. Because he's still homeless.
Why? Because without getting money he needs to obtain suitable housing, electricity or food - he doesn't have the mental or physical space available to be offering his gifts to anyone. And neither does your nearest medium.
The next time someone says "if you really had gifts, you wouldn't charge:"
Remember that they too, are getting paid in return for their skills at the office they work at.
And the main reason someone will say this to you, is not because they believe YOUR gifts don't have value, it's because they personally don't value their own innate gifts. My friend the musician, case and point. He would have never said that to me, if he valued himself and his own gifts.
How do you reply then?
Try something like this:
Thank you for sharing that perspective. I happen to disagree. My charging for my gifts allows me to offer them to the world abundantly and provide my family with the life they deserve.
If you don't agree in paying for my services, then don't. While I may do spiritual work, this work occurs in a physical world where bills must be paid and time and/or skills are commonly exchanged for value.
Best wishes on your journey,
Don't you let someone who doesn't understand you shame you into not living the life you deserve.
A comment such as this is only evidence of another person's perception of the worth of their own gifts, not the worth of yours.
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