Many people believe that psychic mediums are fakes.
And I was once one of those people.
When I was a child, I couldn’t fathom why anyone would voluntarily want to see and hear Spirits. To me, it was a curse.
It was once my opinion that anyone who volunteered to do ‘it’ as a profession was most certainly a phony.
In my family, it was taught that you were humble. You never discussed your gifts out loud and anyone who did, was doing it for the attention. In my mind, ‘real’ mediums didn’t practice their gifts in public. Real psychic mediums were humble, secretive and ashamed of their abilities (you know because they were cursed).
No real psychic medium worth their weight would publicly get on stage to say so, let alone open up a shop. Anyone who did . . .was a pure showman.
Then I broke the family tradition.
But before I came out of the closet, I spent a lot of time identifying the tell-tale ‘signs’ that someone was a fake - a showman, not a medium.
These were my signs of a faker/scammer:
Being vague and aloof
Asking lead questions of your client
A preference for gypsy clothing and bracelets
An overly European accent
Now, after training hundreds of mediums in the practice of mediumship,
I’ve learned that many ‘tell-tale’ signs of a fake medium are actually signs that something else is going on.
Being vague and aloof is sometimes a sign that a person who is a genuine medium doesn’t know how to put what they are seeing into words. Not everything you see in the Spirit World is exactly cut and dry and easy to explain. When you see something Spiritual that catches you off guard, it is hard to nail it down with specific vocabulary.
This is a skill you must learn.
Being vague is also a protection mechanism for psychic mediums who are afraid of being too specific.
Why would a medium be afraid of being specific with that they are seeing, when this is exactly what would prove their legitimacy to a client, you ask?
Well, fear. In many new mediums minds, the more specific you are, the more chance you have to be wrong and for someone to tell you that you are wrong.
Fear of being wrong will motive new and novice mediums into vagueness, not telling you exactly what they are seeing or getting . . .thereby making them look like a fake to you, when really, their fear is hurting both themselves as being seen as legitimate and you, in getting an accurate reading.
Asking lead questions of a client is a sign of a medium who doubts their gifts.
Asking your client, “Do you know a man who died of lung cancer?,” gives you an ‘out’ in case they say no, where stating, “There’s a man here who says he died of lung cancer,” does not.
Stating what you see and get factually, goes back to the point I was making above - you are either right or you are wrong - and many mediums fear being wrong, because they fear being called a fake.
Because many mediums are fearful of being wrong, some mediums give themselves an ‘out’ by phrasing a statement as a question.
Even though it is bad practice, it's a comfort zone.
And speaking of comfort...
As an adult, I prefer gypsy clothing.
And I’m a real medium. I like patterns, colors and comfort and gypsy clothing fits all of those needs. Sadly, I still haven’t gotten over my fears of being seen as a fake when I wear this clothing, so I never buy it.
I’m working on this one.
Gypsy clothing has nothing to do with whether or not someone is a scammer - it simply has to do with personal tastes in style.
Many legitimate psychic mediums come from other countries. People from other countries tend to have accents.
My family is Romanian and for better or for worse, many of them have accents.
A native accent is no sign of a scammer, just as a native accent is no sign of someone’s intelligence level or belief system - it’s just a sign that you might have a few cultural stereotypes that you need to work out.
For myself, I needed to come to terms with my ancestry and the very real fact that many Eastern European people who are in touch with their roots, have also not lost touch with their inner sense of knowing - their inner psychic or mediumship ability.
Many people from foreign countries have real psychic ability, just as many western people also have psychic ability.
Now if you encounter someone who is clearly providing a theatrical act - either in clothing or act - it’s usually pretty obvious.
But you likely won’t find very many of those.
I’m often not found talking in an accent and wearing cultural clothing at the same time.
With that said, there are truly unscrupulous people out there. But...
You are more likely to run into a psychic medium who is:
Afraid of being wrong
Poorly trained or exhibiting bad habits
Not clear in their abilities or having an off day
Advertising a service that is not their main talent
Or simply not giving your reading the time, energy and attention it requires
Than you are to run into a scammer.