Is It Right To Tell Someone Their Loved One Hasn't Crossed Over?
A few years ago, I was listening to a psychic radio show.
On the show, there were two psychics bantering back and forth about what had happened with their clients the previous week. One of the psychics, who was also a medium, had a client that week tell them that they once went to a medium - and the medium told the client her mother was not fully crossed over.
Both of the psychics on the show gasped, talked in length about how horrible it was for a medium to do something so awful, and how a medium should never tell a client if their loved one is not crossed over.
Not everyone who dies immediately crosses over into the Light.
Crossing over is a choice and some people choose not to make that choice right away, or at all. They could choose not to cross immediately because they wish to go to their own funeral, because they are worried about who is going to care for their 10-year-old/best friend/granny/Pomeranian, or because they don’t believe in the Light existing, or being of benefit to them in any way.
There are a million reasons as to why a loved one may not cross over immediately.
But, there is a truth that not everyone goes immediately into the Light.
Given all of the people who pass away every year, a small percentage of these people will not immediately choose to go to the Other Side. Some will meander, some will hang back, some will procrastinate as they worry whether or not it's a good idea.
Staying on Earth after passing is a personal choice, not a punishment for something anyone has done.
From time to time, for me, this very topic will come up in a reading.
I can tell someone has not crossed over because when I see them, either with my physical eyes or in my mind's eye - there is no Light around them.
A person still connected to earth (not crossed over) after death has not gone to the light so this means they can appear:
Darker in tone
This is the way I can tell - but there are many other signs that a Spirit will give to show you they are not yet crossed, if, in fact, they are not.
When you realize a Loved One isn't crossed-over, what do you do?
It is my belief that when you are asked to connect with Spirit for another, you are asked to become a conduit of truth. You are asked to deliver the truth of what you are given to the physical world - no matter what that truth may illuminate. The truth is always healing, even if it is not what you think you want to hear. You never know what will happen as a result of the truth, and it’s generally not a medium's business. As a medium, my business is to be a conduit of truth, free from fear of consequence and doubt. While it may not always be pleasant or comfortable to share the truth, Spirit always gives you information that is intended for the highest and greatest good and the highest and greatest healing of all - regardless of how that healing first feels.
In fact, many of my own clients, who upon learning a particular loved one has not crossed, have found so much healing in holding a ceremony, helping their own mother or father cross-over.