It’s no secret that I talk to deceased people and often consider them to be my friends.
I talk about it to my friends and family, to strangers that I meet in interesting places and to the whole wide world. . . on the blog.
I talk to living people, deceased people, living teachers, deceased teachers and those in Spirit who were once human, but now, we call them Guides.
Sometimes I meet with Angels right here on Earth and sometimes, I see them in my living room.
When I connect with Spirit, I know that those without bodies have just as much valuable, helpful and compassionate advice to give me as those with bodies. I treat advice from Spirit as just as valuable as the advice I might get from a living friend or my living sister.
I treat Spirit guidance the same way I treat People guidance - as great advice for me to weigh with a grain of salt or fairly heavily, depending on the source, and compare it to my own opinions and ideas.
When you begin developing a friendly relationship with those on the other side, you may become eager for their companionship, and they are likely eager for yours. In this excitement, you may begin to ask those in Spirit to do things for you or to help you with things that you need to get done.
The same way you ask good friends for help, you can ask Spirit for help.
Treat those in Spirit and their guidance as guidance from a friend and always consider your own as equally valuable and valid as thoughts and opinions from another.
If you start connecting with your Spirit Guide, Angel or Loved One and have already begun to sense their presence, receive signs and communicate with them, you may be wondering, how can I maximize this relationship, as it’s happening now.
And I’m glad you are.
Working with Spirit is a Partnership and when you begin to treat your connection with the Other Side with the compassion and care to cultivating a healthy spiritual bond, you can improve not only the information you receive, but increase the frequency and the level of presence of your new found Spirit friends.
How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Spirit
1. Follow their guidance, then consider your own
People in Spirit (and other Spiritual beings) can be your friends, teachers, mentors, saviors and guidance counsellors. No matter what role they have within your life, they are individuals with thoughts, opinions and ideas. As are you.
Following your own guidance, intuition and feelings of direction are just as important, if not more important, than following the guidance of Spirit. Spirits can help, friends can help - but it is you who lives your life. It is you who must live and grow to accept your choices.
If you were swimming across the ocean in a race, think of yourself as the swimmer and your Spiritual friends (and Physical world friends) as the people, the team, in the boat cheering you on, providing assistance when needed. Each of your team specialists play a special role in assisting you in optimizing your swim, but it is you, who must swim the race.
Trust your own judgement - in equality - to the offerings of others.
2. Ask them to do things for you, and then also, ask yourself to do things for you
When I wake up each morning, I give myself a list of things to do. The list may include small tasks like making the bed, researching new appliances and insurance plans or big things, like writing business proposals. There are physical world things that I do, to stay on top of the world.
There are also things on my list that are specifically spiritual. I might add to my list to develop a meditation, or figure out what is going on with so-and-so’s deceased brother. Your physical world friends can assist you with tasks that are out of your hands and require more of a team effort, they can provide networking connections for new opportunities, they can help with doing the laundry or taking your kids to school. And your Spiritual world friends can help with things too.
They can create happenstance meetings and findings between yourself and a new friend, partner or teacher - or between yourself and an illuminating new book, musician or event. They can draw things to you. They can help provide ideas for new projects, ways to make money and insight on avenues for growth.
In any partnership, when you ask for help with something - you are also providing yourself a helping hand, in addition to your friends. With your spiritual friends, when you ask for assistance, if possible, also take one step in the direction of assisting yourself, too.
Make a to-do list for yourself, and a to-do list for the Universe.
When the workload is balanced and shared, only then, can the most abundant amount of change can be created. When teammates work together, more can be accomplished, together.
3. Don’t disregard, be thankful
There is really no reason for those in Spirit to lie to you. Most who have crossed over have already released all of their fears and their preventatives for speaking their truth. No matter what someone in Spirit shows you, shares with you or tells you - there is a reason for it.
If you receive a symbol in a dream or meditation that doesn’t quite make sense, look it up or wait until later - often, wisdom from a friend is something that comes in handy far after it was originally received.
Even if you don’t use the guidance, try not to brush it off and thank those in Spirit for communicating with you in the best way they knew how.
I often write thank you letters to my loved ones, guides and angels, to let them know that even if I don’t always listen to what they have to say, I’m grateful for their friendship!
When connecting with your Spirit Guides, Angels and Loved Ones, remember that your relationship with them is like any physical world friendship. As you communicate and connect more and more, the bond grows stronger, deeper and much more rewarding.
Commitment, trust, gratitude and listening are all key factors of a beneficial relationship with those on the Other Side. When you listen to yourself, communicate with your team and be thankful for their helpfulness, only beautiful things can happen.
Amanda Linette Meder