Social Acceptance and Psychic Mediums
When I first came out as a medium and as a sister, friend and coworker who sees spirit, few people stood by and supported me along my journey.
While this is mostly because each person's journey is almost always a solitary one, this is also because most people around you, aren't walking your same path. With everyone walking differing paths, at some point, paths diverge at points of change.
In deciding to walk in the shoes of who you are, you are choosing to walk a path of change. In this, there will be some who do not wish to walk with you.
This isn't necessarily rejection based, some people are just going other directions.
The journey to self-acceptance is also the journey of social acceptance.
As I was beginning to open up the truth of my own abilities, I was on a journey of figuring out what it meant to understand and accept myself.
Every few months, few days or few steps of the journey, I continually picked up stones, stories, and ideas along the path, and asked,
"Does this stone fit? What about here? Does this one work well for me to carry?"
If it didn't fit into the puzzle I was trying to uncover, I tossed it out.
If I didn't yet know if it fit into the puzzle I was trying to uncover, I also tossed it out.
In the past, I have 'un-accepted' certain stones of my life because they didn't fit, or because I wasn't sure what did or did not fit.
Each person, interest, passion, career, or object is a stone.
On your own journey of accepting, you'll make decisions between what gets thrown out and what gets to stay.
And sometimes, to decide which stones you need on your path, the stones that really help you chart the trail, you have to get rid of all the stones and start from square one.
To find out what it is you accept, sometimes you have to remove all of the ingredients and start over.
Think of it this way...
When you are adding spices to a pot, and you come upon an allergen, you sometimes have to remove all the ingredients of the pot - to pinpoint what is the allergen.
In most cases, perfectly good, beneficial ingredients, are removed, only as a process of narrowing down that one allergen.
You'll do this naturally in your own life and in openly admitting that you see and hear those in Spirit, or sharing any other quality about yourself, you may be a foreign, exotic spice now.
In someone else's pot.
Do you make the pot more delicious?
Are you the special ingredient no one can identify but somehow pulls it all together?
Do the elements within your nature draw even the most particular chefs to enjoy your dish?
But there may be some people, that when they encounter such a glorious exotic spice and expression of flavor, decide haphazardly that you may be an allergen, and decide to err on the side of caution and toss you, out of their pot.
For the same reasons that you may have feared 'coming out' of your psychic closet, are the same reasons that others may fear coming out of theirs. And in that whittling down of what they accept, things may get tossed out only to be brought back later on.
The fear of social acceptance is one of the most significant issues that many intuitives and spirit communicators struggle with. And that's because it's a real concern, but not for long.
Whenever you enter someone's life and add a new element, there will be some who love what you've done and others, who disagree.
When I first 'came out' as a medium, my fear of social acceptance of what it meant to be a medium, was on some days, much bigger than my fear of seeing Spirits at night. And I had to decide that the fear of 'what if I'm not accepted?' was less important than experiencing the potential opposite - of finding love, being loved, and feeling loved.
To accept someone, wholeheartedly and unconditionally, you have to have come to a place where you release the fear of what the worst potential of adding that spice to your life may be.
Then, you move to a place of compassion and understanding for another person and begin considering what benefits their spice might add to the dish.
You have to choose to accept and understand the other.
Some people aren't ready to do that yet.
Some people fear taking in a new perspective, new person or new element as something scary, rather than something beautiful and interesting. Doing so asks for contemplation, which may lead to change a belief or a collection of ideas from their own life's experiences.
If others do not accept you immediately, does this mean you stop existing as a spice?
No, because you're as normal as Nutmeg, and if they ever dared to travel to Costa Rica, they'd see you were so delightful, you were a favorite of all the birds in the forest.
You don't change who you are because a person in a foreign country doesn't appreciate the Nutmeg, but rather, you have the opportunity to take your exotic spices back to your home country, to be enjoyed. To the place where the inhabitants know and understand the value of someone like you.
You continue to be you until you find a community, wherever that might be, as they are out there, of those who accept you.
If you fear social acceptance, stop hanging out with the people who think Nutmeg is weird. Find a group of people who love you, your cooking, and the flavor that you can bring to their life. They exist. Please don't give up if you haven't found them yet. After doing this work for five years, I've found that over time, most people do come to accept your gifts if they hang around long enough and if you do, too.
Amanda Linette Meder