A few days ago, one of my close friends reached out to me for help.
Around 2 pm in the afternoon, I received an alert in my phone, with an new email message from a close friend.
That morning, she had taken her son to see a doctor. Her son is one of the sweetest boys on the face of the planet. He loves crystals, trucks, and also friendly chatting with strangers.
Like all of us, he enjoys talking about and discussing his daily experiences. He sees those in Spirit, and he’s not afraid to bring it up in casual conversation. In fact, no one tells him otherwise, because both his parents, happily support his budding gift and wouldn’t wish to squelch his natural ability, as they see their children as truth, honest and genuine.
Sure, kids have imagination. Sure, they get creative. But, this little body sees and hears things that even the best psychics and mediums can all verify in a double blind test.
Back to the doctor’s appointment.
In her son’s friendly chatting, he happened to share with the doctor about a Spirit he saw and heard just the other day.
In that moment, my friend froze, not knowing how the doctor would react or what would happen next.
As she watched the doctors face turn from a the expression of a friendly inquiring child’s doctor, to one of horror and disgust, she knew what was about to follow was the reason for her stomach sinking feeling. In seconds, words began to emerge from the doctor’s lips, words which, contained scolding, shaming and Spirit-squelching statements. Geared directly at her child, the Doctor went on and on how ghosts aren’t real and how awful it is that your mother encourages imagination like that.
My friend, was frozen in shock and horror as her son, sat there, with his heart, breaking.
I knew exactly what he was feeling and exactly what she was really saying, as in her rant, below the surface, the Doctor was really saying,
“Your experiences aren’t real nor are your beliefs which were built upon a collective of those experiences. What I believe is the only reality there is, and everyone in this room, must abide by it .”
As a medium, a human, and a post little girl who has previously been berated, shamed, scolded, glared at, and experienced the disgusted and in-horror facial experiences of Doctors, friends, strangers and ex-boyfriends, for sharing my real, honest and truthful experiences, as I was reading my friend and her son’s story, my heart sank and I began to see images of myself as a little girl, sitting on a Doctor’s bench, hearing the words, through laughter or dismissal,
“That’s not real, you know.”
Then, quickly into a place of ferocity.
How could an adult tell a child their experiences were fake and not real? How could any other human, feel it is their right to tell someone that what they think, believe and feel is false, based on their own experiences?
Then, I remembered.
I sometimes do that, too.
Sometimes, I have a pretty strong opinion about other people’s opinions on my belief in Spirits.
Sometimes, I get on a Spirit High-horse about a blog commenter or a random stranger who smacks down the very idea of the reality of what I do for a living and my experiences as a human. Sometimes, I get upset when I read a comment, an article or over-hear a conversation about mediums being fakers.
As a little girl, young woman and a now-adult who grew up hiding under the covers from Spirit, I could never imagine why someone would immediately discount it all.
If only, I thought, they had to spend a night in my bed. If only! Then, they would know it was real.
My beliefs and opinions are based on a collection of personal life experiences.
And rather than accepting, that plenty of other people have never consciously saw, felt, heard or experienced any Spirit in their space, I’ve decided (more than once) that it’s my business to say they're the wrong ones - not me. To say that their beliefs, their opinions and their thoughts on Spirits BASED on their own personal experiences, aren’t real.
That’s not fair.
My belief in the existence of Spirits and the capability we have not only the ability to communicate with them, but the opportunity gain valuable information and friendships with those on the Other Side, is entirely based on a collection of my personal experiences, which make up what I know as truth.
This Doctor has an opinion about Spirits, based on her collection of experiences (or non-experiences) with them.
My friend’s son has an opinion about Spirits, based on his collection of experiences with them.
And I, too, have an opinion about Spirits, based on my collection of experiences with them.
And so do you. And because each of us has a different collection of experiences, we have a different collection of beliefs. We have a different set of truths which make up and change our reality.
New experiences, unfold new truths. And I can attest to this - as I haven’t always pledged my allegiance to Spirit. I used to think they were all scary and did my best to ignore them. But I’ve changed, based on new experiences. None of these truths are wrong, bad, disgusting, shocking or even inaccurate, they just are.
Back to the Doctor and what my eventual advice was to my friend and her son.
When I received my friend’s email, I was driving home from a Doctor’s appointment myself. With a Doctor, who not only believes in those in Spirit, but actually, identifies as being a sensitive, as well (they’re out there, y’all). On the way home, reading her email aloud to my significant other, we discussed it, and I started to climb up on my Spirit high-horse.
We decide the real issue here was a difference in opinions, based on a difference of life experiences, where the problem, only arose, when one person, insisted on forcing their truth on another.
An experience like this one, while unpleasant, is a learning experience on the nature of opinion, personal truth, and belief systems . . and the best way possible way to respect others.
When someone questions your belief, your experience, and ultimately, your reality, you have a chance to ponder the nature of opinion, and where opinions originate from in the first place.
And then, you have the opportunity to ask yourself this question:
What is more important to me in my life - to be forever affected by what other people think about my truth, or to continue to find alignment with what I know to be true in my heart?
For me, it’s the second one that’s more important.
When I align myself with my own truth, I stop caring about what other people have said or might say, about my truth and belief in the existence of Spirit.