When I first came out of the closet a few years ago, people started coming out of the woodwork on sharing their beliefs, experiences and thoughts about Spirits.
And while I was at first terrified to share my abilities with others, which is why I had kept them secret for so long, as it got closer and closer to my judgement day, I began to feel a lot more at ease.
Because pretty much everyone I knew had felt, heard or known someone who had, seen a ghost. And this is a place of common ground.
When you are preparing to tell anyone, anything that you feel may change how they feel about you, the relationship you two share or your level of welcomeness into the group, having common ground is important. You may have common ground with those closest to you, without even realizing it yet - and that's a good thing.
Telling your family that you’re a medium isn’t a as hard as it sounds. And if you are already thinking, wait a minute, Amanda, you didn’t grow up in a family like mine!
Believe it or not, not everyone in my family is cool with Spirits. Not everyone in my family is cool with the fact that I left my job in science to pursue the age ‘ol tradition of conjuring. Not everyone in my family is cool with this blog, how public and open I am about my experiences, the fact that I do readings, the fact that I teach other people how to do what I do, or the fact that I sometimes talk about my family on the blog.
Yes, a few members of the Romanian side of my family believe Spirit communication is possible and have many of their own stories about angels, deceased people, guides, divine guidance and receiving spirit answers. But, I’ve also got an entire section of that family who don't necessarily believe in it including members of mom’s side of my family, cousins, aunts and uncles, my own siblings and many of their friends and family.
All of whom, have varying opinions on how I have chosen to use my version of the family curse, whether or not I should use it, or if I do, how exactly I should go about it.
When I first started my website, a major hurdle of mine was,
“Omg, how do I tell my family?”
And, step by step, piece by piece, I did, eventually tell them all in varying ways and in varying degrees of detail.
How to Tell Your Family You Sense Spirit
Step 1. It’s not a requirement
Not everyone has to know what you do or what your interests are. Even though your Uncle may feel it’s his business to know exactly how you spend your time and in what order, it isn’t. If you feel like sharing with someone a personal element of your life is only going to be an invitation for trouble, you don’t have to lie about it. Simply leave it out of the conversation, unless asked directly.
Step 2. Find a piece of common ground
Pretty much everyone who has known someone to die, has sensed their presence, seen them in a dream or otherwise felt a visitation from this person. On top of that, pretty much everyone has some sort of ghostly experience from the other world, at least from their childhood. Or they know someone who has.
Find your common ground here, find a way to relate and have an ‘in’ with this person. While some members of my family believe that communicating with the dead is clearly devious, at the same time, they also believe it’s perfectly fine to be visited in dreams by their deceased mother and to be visited all the time by Angels. Yes, that’s a contradiction. No, now is not the time to point it out. Start finding a uniting thread by asking questions and fishing for common beliefs and viewpoints.
Step 3. Prepare yourself for potential misunderstanding
Thanks to television and movies, most people have a pretty skewed idea of what it means to be a medium, to see Spirits or to have anything to do with them. When you prepare to tell someone about a highly misunderstood subject, go into it, prepared for misunderstanding.
Do some research on mediumship and be ready to debunk some myths *before* they are thrown in your face. There’s tons and tons of reading on the blog here to assist you with that, but to expedite your search, check out these articles here and here.
Step 4. Just Say it
In pure medium fashion, ask your Guides and Angels to create the best opening for you to just say what you need to say and then, say it. You don’t have to say it all or share evidence of the past years experiences and revelations. You can say that you sense, see or hear Spirit, you can say that you are really into learning about Spirit Guides right now, you can say that you’ve seen Grandma after her passing. You can test the water by dipping your toes in just a bit and seeing how it feels.
With each person, your coming out story, timeline and how to tell it, may be different. You may choose to weigh who you tell, when and in what manner. You may not choose to share private and vulnerable information with someone who is known as the family gossip first, unless of course, you figure word will spread quicker that way, making the coming out process easier for you.
By and large, most people, over time, will come to learn about and understand your interests. In fact, you may even light the way for some pretty unexpected individuals to have the courage to join you in the journey.
And for those who don’t?
Their loss - communicating with Spirit, once you delve into it, is one of the most highly rewarding partnerships and decisions, I’ve ever made in my life.
Perhaps you already feel the same ~