Chances are, you’ve already met a psychic medium in public. In fact, there isn’t that much that externally distinguishes us from anyone else - even if the movies would have you believe otherwise.
While I wholeheartedly enjoy my fair share of flowy skirts and wrap bracelets, as I write this, I’m wearing espadrille sandals from DSW shoe warehouse, stretch jeans from Target, a green ribbed tank top from Old Navy clothing store. My hair is tied back in a tortoise claw clip from CVS pharmacy. I’m sitting at a Panera Bread chain cafe with a decaf coffee. As far as anyone knows, I’m a college student, or a freelance writer or someone getting a head start on my work emails for Monday morning (which, I was actually just doing).
Meeting a psychic medium is something you’ve probably already done. But, for some reason, whenever someone finds out what I do for a living, they usually exclaim, “I’ve never met someone like you before!” or, they try to walk away slowly - before I cast a spell or conjure someone or something. Which is awkward, because I’m not someone to be scared of. I weigh just 125 lbs and my height is a grand total of 5 feet and 3 inches. I haven’t gotten any bigger since the seventh grade.
When people meet me and find out what I do for a living, they do, generally make three main assumptions that affect our interaction. And I’d like to clear those up.
The 3 Major Assumptions You Might Make When Meeting a Psychic Medium
1. I’m not reading you.
When people first meet me, even if they don’t say it to my face, they often get fearful that if they continue to talk to me, I’ll read into their life. That I know all about their personality flaws, that affair they had two years ago and the fact that they don’t really love their boyfriend after all. There’s the belief that before ever booking a session with me, I know all about their worst fears and their entire future. I may even know the date of their death. Or, when they’ll get married or how many children they have.
And actually, I don’t. Because, I’m an ethical human being and digging for your secrets and into your life isn’t fair. While I can pick up on just about anything, anywhere at any time, that’s overwhelming. Really. It’s like being naked all the time. Sometimes, you just want to cover up and go out in public without worrying about knowing, feeling or getting things about other people.
One of first things I teach all new mediums, psychics and intuitives is how to turn down and shut off their abilities - so they aren’t accidentally violating anyone’s privacy.
And if I were being honest, it’s one of the #1 things new clients seek me out for.
That’s right. Most new psychics, mediums and intuitives want to know -
How can I be more respectful of people’s privacy and NOT know things without permission to know them?
I consider connecting with Spirit and connecting with your Spirit a very sacred, vulnerable thing and when I’m out in public, I’m off duty. I’m not reading people. On purpose. Out of respect for the privacy of others. I never read anyone without their permission. Not even my boyfriend.
So, new friends, I don’t know any of your secrets. It’s none of my business, unless you want it to be. If I ask you what you do for a living, I’m not a bad medium or a bad psychic, I’m just making small talk. Just like everyone else :).
2. I probably don’t see Spirits around you.
A few weeks ago, I was at a wedding, enjoying a small selection of cakes. Sitting at my reception table with my significant other we were helping ourselves to one small cutting of cake from each layer of the wedding cake - a different flavor for every level. At some time during our indulgence fest, we decided we needed another slice of german chocolate cake, so I took a walk up to the cake table to grab one of the many pieces that were sitting there, un-touched.
While on my way up to the table, someone ran up behind me and pulled hard on my dress. Thinking it was him, I turned instantly around - to see a woman in her early 30s, whom I’d never met before. Shouting over the music, she screams,
“Tell me what spirits you see around me!”
Completely off-guard, I replied, “....What?”
Again, she shouts, “Tell me who you see around me! Tell me if you see my cousin, he died five years ago! Are there any Angels? What color is my aura!”
And, after figuring out that there must have been gossip floating around somewhere, that she surely heard by word of mouth what I do for a living, I calmly and gently told her that I was off work at the time and didn’t see anyone. Then, what followed, was a rant about how I must not be very good at my job.
Seeing Spirits since childhood, I’ve actually become an expert in learning how to block out and ignore those in Spirit, especially when in public. Family memorable events, such as a wedding, anniversary party, birthday or family picnic are usually flooded with Spirits, especially those in Spirit, such as Loved Ones, wanting to pass messages or just be around and enjoy time with their family still on earth. Thus, before I enter such a space, I’ve learned from experience it’s best to set some ground rules and boundaries- so I can enjoy my time and not be bombarded by request and pleading from the deceased.
While I generally put on my ‘spirit blinders’ in public, before going to a family gathering, one that I know Spirit (and plenty of them will attend), I also say a few words with my Guides and Angels before going inside.
I ask, if they can, as a courtesy, take away my ability to see Spirit - temporarily.
And they do. And then, I can enjoy my array of dessert cakes in peace. Most mediums and psychics, I know, also have a way of turning down their abilities in public, too, so that they can have some regular fun ‘off the clock’.
However, from time to time, there is an incredibly persistent brother, mother or father - one who, has no other opportunity to speak to his Loved Ones. And, in those cases, I always deliver their messages.
Thus, if I see a Spirit around you - don’t worry. I’ll come to you. They won’t let me have it any other way.
3. I have other interests.
Most psychic mediums, including myself, had another career prior to devoting their time to intuitive pursuits. They likely have many other hobbies, skills and loves. If you meet me and you don’t want to talk about Crystals and Dreamcatchers - fine - we can talk about the best hiking trails in the Pocono Mountains, really fun dog parks in the area, gardening and flowers, sports, the new book you’re reading, anything about you, engineering and mechanics, environmental topics or politics. We can literally talk about anything. I have two traditional college and advanced degrees that have nothing to do with Spirits. I’m certified in wilderness survival and backcountry first aid. I love bird watching, especially waterfowl. Today, I went shopping for pruning shears and now know all about different lawn care equipment brands. We can talk about that.
But, if you have questions about your Angels, a visitation dream you had a few years ago, or advice on the shadows you saw in your house last week - we can talk about that, too. I’m completely open.
Just like you, I’m a multifaceted person. I have dreams, hopes, desires and gasp, fears about my future. I sometimes worry if it’s worth the bother to pick up more sour cream in rush hour traffic, if having homemade burritos for dinner two nights in a row is overkill, and wonder whether or not it’s a bad thing to like Dunkin' Donuts as much as I do.
See you soon, at a local grocery store near you!