A few years ago, I lost a child in early pregnancy. And like many women in childbearing age, this is not uncommon. Early pregnancy and infant loss among mothers is far too common and can leave women questioning,
Was I meant to be a mother?
Was I meant to have a child?
What happened to the Spirit of this Child?
If you’ve lost a child early on in its life, it’s natural to wonder about the Spirit of the baby, if he or she has connected with you and if you can still connect with your baby in the after-life.
Just like any other person who has crossed into Spirit, those who have come to earth and left quickly, perhaps even before living outside the womb, continue to live on in Spirit and you can learn to reconnect, heal and get in touch with your baby, now in Spirit.
During pregnancy, the spirit of the soul coming to earth through you, does not always stay with the mother. He or she comes and goes from you body and back to the Spiritual realm, periodically travelling between both realms, before fully committing to staying on earth in birth.
And, no matter what has caused the loss of your child early on, whether was an early infant death after leaving utero, or happened before the child ever left the womb in a physical decision (miscarriage) or a spiritual one (abortion), all children who return to Spirit go to the same place, with the Divine Light, surrounded by Loved Ones, Guides and Angels. In the case of child loss before birth, many mediums, including myself, believe that an early pregnancy loss is a ignitor of soul growth and transformation for the mother - a time of spiritual, emotional and physical reflection. And perhaps, this child came to your life, not to be born, but as a conduit of change and reflection.
And often, these children lost early on, are and do become YOUR Spirit Guides and Angels, watching over you and sticking with you throughout your life. In some cases, this child may come into your life in another way later on, such as in future pregnancies or becoming children of your friends and family.
If you would like to reconnect with your Child in Spirit, try these tips:
1. Learn how to notice your Spirit Guides and your Angels
Many young children who are lost to Spirit early on become guides and angels for you, and many mediums, including myself, also believe they may have also been acting as a guide for the mother - to assist her in her own soul transformation as growth. Loss, is an opening for release and a place to begin reflection. Viewing your spiritual child as a guide or an angel may help you connect with them in Spirit better.
2. Have a release and welcoming ceremony.
In this ceremony, set the intention that you are releasing this Spirit from yourself, so that you may continue on with their journey and they, with theirs. Also, you can also invite this child to come back to you - when you or they feel ready to come back into your life. It is like a release and welcoming home ceremony at the same time. This ceremony can involve anything that you like - a circle of stones, a small candle, a walk out into the woods.
Create a time and a place where you go out alone, to reconnect with your child, now in Spirit. Most mothers, can communicate with their children telepathically, through clairaudient and claircognizant channels. Gather some stones and light a candle, say a speech or a prayer, collect a few flowers, and invite the Spirit of your baby to attend. While there, see if you can feel a presence around you and hear a response, internally, within yourself.
3. Practice Sensing Spirit
Many children return to their mothers as a sensation. And like the tiny light that he or she was to you, he or she most likely returns to you as a tingly sensation or a flutter of light, usually near the head and shoulders and very similar to the way a Fairy is known to be felt.
Keep your awareness open for tingling sensations around your body and for lights to flash out of the corners of your eyes or in the distance. This is often how I see a child is near a mother or wanting to be born (lights around the shoulder), and it’s how you can sense the Spirit of your child when he or she comes back for a visit, too. Start here.
If someone has come into your life, no matter in what form, their Spirit is something that continues forever, even long after he or she has physically left your presence. Connecting with your baby is simply a matter of recognizing that you, will always have a special place within the heart of this Spirit, just as he or she has a special place in your heart.
I look forward to helping you connect soon,