Most mediums will tell you that they can create the clearest channel possible, prepare for your session in the best way they know how and do everything necessary to assure you have the absolute best psychic mediumship reading you can have.
But they’ll also tell you they can’t guarantee that the person you want to connect with will come through in your session.
Which is probably not what you want to hear, considering 99% of all clients book a session with a medium specifically to talk to and hear from just one specific person.
We will tell you that we can create the best opportunity for your Loved One to come through, but it is they who choose when to come through, for how long, to whom and at what time.
Your Loved Ones, Spirit Guides and Angels choose when they come through, not us. And while some mediums specialize ‘getting that one person’, most others specialize in delivering to you the best message from the Spirit who wants most to speak with you now.
And sometimes, the person who really wants and needs to talk to you from the Other Side, is not the person you expect.
Sometimes the message you need to hear, is not the message you think you need to hear.
Humans are funny beings. When we feel like we need something, it is really not the thing we need. The thing we need for our own healing and growth may be the exact opposite of what we want it to be.
If you go to a mediumship reading to speak to your best friend and your absentee father who abandoned you and your mother when you were 2, comes though - it is perhaps more important for you to hear an apology from your biological father, with an explanation from him about why he left, as soon as possible, than perhaps it is to immediately hear from a friend.
Spirit gets to decide what is most important and would facilitate the most healing, growth and learning for you at this time. Readings are about bonding, healing relationships and re-connecting with those you love. This is why sometimes, loved ones you have in Spirit, who were distant, whose relationships you had with them were tense and unfinished, and who really need to apologize or talk to you about something essential - come through.
If you go to a medium to connect with someone on the Other Side, and, you have an unhealed relationship with someone on the Other Side or a message you need to hear only they can deliver, don’t be surprised if this is the Spirit who comes instead.
How do you resolve this?
Go into a reading with an open heart and be willing to hear from anyone on the Other Side who has a message to deliver to you - no matter who it is. It is always the message you need to hear now.
The Spirit chooses their medium, not us
Every single medium on this earth has a slightly different speciality. Just as not all lawyers, specialize in the same kind of style of law, not all mediumship specialize in the same kind of mediumship. You wouldn’t go to an intellectual property lawyer and ask for representation on a civil lawsuit, so you wouldn’t go to a medium who specializes in child loss to solve a murder.
While the medium who specializes in solving murders could likely bring through your Loved One just as clearly as a one who specializes in representing children in Spirit, it is really the person who will be represented by the medium, who chooses the medium.
If someone were speaking on your behalf and acting as a body double for you, even for just an hour - if it was a really important scene, you would want to select that body double yourself. You’d want a say in who is going to deliver your message.
How do you resolve this?
To further improve your chances of having your Loved One come through when you go to a medium, ask your Loved One to help you choose their preferred body-double, their preferred speaker. Next time you sense their presence, ask them to help you choose a medium for them, and then begin your search. Allow yourself to look around until you find the one that feels the most ‘right’ to you.
The life review can take a while
After everyone crosses over, they go through something called a life review. This life review is a chance to review their time on earth, gain perspective on it and to understand the lessons, growth and learning from their experience. This is much like a long conference held with their Guides, Angels and other Loved Ones on the Other Side, which depending on each person, can take between 2 weeks and 8 months on average. However, Life Reviews can sometimes last years.
This is a period time where they also re-learn the communication methods of being a Spirit, and it’s a period time where they are separate from you so that you may both healthfully adjust to this new shift and change in your relationship with each other.
If you go to a medium, and your Loved One doesn’t come, and they have crossed over within the year, this is likely where they are.
How do you resolve this?
Give yourself and your loved one time to adjust to this relationship change and when you feel ready, and think they might be ready, that’s the right time to go. There’s no need to rush a reading, as your loved one has all the time in the world to reconnect with you.
These are just three of the possible scenarios going on, that could explain why the person you wanted to connect with is not present at a reading.
Thankfully, when you go into a reading with an open heart, choose your medium with your loved one helping to nudge you to find the ‘right’ one, and remain mindful of the life review period, you’ll be able to connect with exactly who you want to and need to connect with.