As many of you reading this already know - relationships are meant to be reciprocal. You give some, and then you get some in return. Yes, occasionally you give more for a while, before receiving anything in return - but eventually, the scales balance out.
Any relationship - long - term, short term, casual social, close personal, romantic, acquaintance, they are all meant to be relationships of balance - relationships of giving and receiving. If you are a giver of love energy (like me), you may be totally fine giving and giving - to a point - and then you are about ready to start receiving. Thus, you sense the imbalance. Conversely, people who are accustomed to receiving and receiving from others, can tend to get ‘used to’ this continual flow of energy in their direction, and how good it feels - they may never notice or care to change the imbalance.
Receiving loving and giving energy non-stop is great.
Why would anyone want it to end?
Imagine receiving massage from your partner. Eventually, you realize, you’ll have to return the massage, but you secretly don’t want to - even though you know it would complete the scale of balance to do so. Thus, even if you are someone who is used to ‘giving energy’ or used to receiving energy - everyone one can agree that all relationships require a balancing of the scale.
As an intuitive, psychic, medium, reiki practitioner, massage therapist, or any other type of energetic healer - you may get asked for ‘healings’ or ‘readings’ more often than you would like. Perhaps someone asks you to pull a card. Or look at their energetic state. Or to rub their shoulder. As an intuitive, I am often asked for free readings from friends, family, or other readers - to just ‘look’ at something for a moment. And while I do have this ability, continuously placing my energy into mini readings, can be very draining.
In fact, for each and every session, a psychic, medium, or healer has to energetically, emotionally, and spiritually prepare - clear the space, ground the energy, invite in Divine energy, calm their mind, stop what they are doing or working on - to look into anything at all or even to simply pull a card. Then, the reader must clear out the space, do a closing meditation, and get back to what they were doing. And over time, because I always want to help and assist in any way I can - I often honored these requests to ‘just look’ for friends and family, but I found myself giving energy away in these sessions, far more often than I was receiving. And I was getting drained.
Now, when I am asked for a free reading, I asked my guides and Angels, if this reading is necessary and if any exchange of energy can occur, as I began to realize that the more balanced the energetic exchange - the more equal the session, and the more energetically balanced the interaction. In other words, the more I felt good about offering readings at all. As for most intuitives, only 1-3 sessions are possible each day, before the reader themselves feels far too drained energetically (one of the reasons why sessions cost so much!).
Thus, I’ve found a few things that can help ‘restore the balance’ when you are asked to give a free reading or trade.
Energetic Exchange is Essential
Any time you enter into a conversation, connection, or interaction with someone, there is an exchange of energy. While conducting a psychic reading or healing, it just so happens that most of the energy that is offered is on the case of the reader - in obtaining the information, adjusting their energy to connect with spirit, focusing on offering the best possible answers and insight - and many times, the person being read, simply listens and absorbs all the information being sent their direction. Thus, as readings take time, practice and energy - many psychic readers charge for their sessions - in order to, of course, pay their bills - but also to balance the exchange of energy. Receiving something in return for their work. If you are on the receiving end of an energetic exchange, in this case, a mediumship session, a card reading, an energy healing, offering something in return for the session does energetically balance the scales. In many cases, the fastest and easiest way to balance the scales is by paying for the service monetarily.
While I do offer free sessions, I find it valuable that as a psychic medium, whoever I am reading, exchanges the energy in some way - either by providing financial compensation, trading a session, exchanging a good or service that is of their speciality. In this way, your work is rewarded as valuable in some way, the scale is balanced. And while providing free services is sometimes essential, to do this all the time, especially on your ‘off time’ for friends and family - can be highly draining!
Equal Energy Exchange is Best
In order to feel that as a psychic reader, you are receiving an equal exchange for your work, it's best that the exchange is something that you feel is of equal value. For example, say you are asked for a reading trade, but you feel that the person who is asking for a trade is not as advanced in skill, or not as able to provide you with an equal trade, equal in value - you have to ask if doing a trade with this person would be equal in energetic exchange. If the answer is no, it may not be in your best interest to agree to a trade. In other cases, you may be asked to trade a session, and after providing your service, you may never hear from that person again! Or, they may always avoid you - to avoid fulfilling their part of the trade. Thus, prior to agreeing to a trade or barter, ask yourself - would this be an equal energy exchange? If you intuitively feel as though you would not be getting back as much as you are giving, do not agree to the trade.
While you may be more than happy to provide free readings to any one at any time, as I often do find myself more giving than may be best, if you are someone that tends to give too much, or over extend your energy, it may be essential for you to set boundaries for readings trades or barters - and only do so if you are certain there is an energetic balance.
Balancing the energy in all relationships, including those in psychic readings, is essential to maintaining a healthy and stable well being, and allows you to feel fulfilled, complete, and valued in the work that you do.