How to Deal with Public Criticism
As a psychic medium, actively working with clients in readings, writing blog posts, and books - I get a lot of feedback.
And on the journey of putting myself out there publicly, I've learned a lot about how to take the criticism and suggestions of others on how to be 'me'. So, I wanted to share with you all my thoughts on how you can deal with public feedback.
How I Deal with Public Feedback (as a Psychic Medium)
1. You can learn a lot about the constructive nature of the criticism based on the person giving it
Does the person giving you criticism personally know you? Do they care about you? Understand your values and ethical belief systems? Is it delivered with respect and kindness? Is it an effort to shame you or attack your character? Does it come from the idea that you are flawed and need to be fixed?
Genuine criticism is an act of love for your well-being and the well-being of others around you. Rather than opening and accepting into your energetic, spiritual, and emotional field just any person's opinion of you - you can consciously decide whose opinions of you are worth your time to devote your energy and emotions.
2. It's not personal - so i don't take it that way
I'm a fan of the book, The Four Agreements, and I use it's teachings as the premise of my life.
I'm a natural peacekeeper. And before I walked this path, whenever anyone was upset in my life, I traditionally changed everything about my behavior and myself to end the conflict and please the other person. Usually, this meant listening to all criticism and changing everything about myself to suit the needs of others. I never ended up pleasing anyone doing this, by the way, and this is completely unhealthy. I don't do that anymore.
I just be myself.
The more attention you attract, the more attention you will get - both good and bad. However a person responds to who or what you are is on them. And sadly, there will always be someone cynical and mean. It's up to you to chose what to you listen to.
3. who do you spend your time listening to?
Someone gets to decide the type of people you are around - that person is you. This is why I have chosen not to be around anyone who is critical, mean, or shaming of who I am. Yes, this list may include family members, if necessary.
Okay, so perhaps you have already done this, and one day you get a nasty email or phone call - out of the blue!
It happens. And when it does, it stings.
For this reason, I have another person, a VA, filter my emails to help the energetic burn out of what I see, before it reaches my heart - and it has really helped.
4. when you get criticism, take some time to reflect on the times when you know you've genuinely helped someone.
When I receive a particularly cutting remark, I sit down, and try to remember, to the best of my knowledge, all of the people who I have helped along the way of my life.
Can I please everyone? No, I sure can't.
But I do the best I can and it's important for you, too, to remember that.
If you get something critical, remember the times in which you've been of service to others. If you're in the dark, ask your friends. Real friends standby to remind you why you are so dang fabulous.
Real friends accept you for exactly who you are at this moment, they aren't trying to make you a better person all the time or fit you into a role that they have for you in their life. They are willing to accept that you, like themselves, are learning, and that no one is without flaws.
Just because someone else judges you harshly, doesn't mean you have a permission slip to judge yourself that way, too.
Be gentle with yourself.
If there is anything you need to be doing at any moment - it's not listening to the criticism of total strangers- it's consciously remembering to love and accept yourself exactly as you are, and wish that others are doing the same.
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