How to Connect with Your Loved Ones During the Holidays
Think of someone special to you now, someone who has crossed. Someone you love and miss more than anyone in the world.
Who do you so badly wish was there with you this Thanksgiving? Who do you wish would get in the car with you, and on your drive home, make fun of how ridiculous everyone was with you? Who do you wish would help you make all the food, or prepare things so they were just right? Who do you wish would hold you in their arms and go to sleep with you?
Ask this person to be with you.
On your special holiday, your loved one will be there.
Here's how to make sure they feel included.
5 Ways to Honor Your Loved Ones This Holiday Season
1. Talk about them openly at gatherings
You have so many memories with this person, the person that you love. You shared your life with them, experiences with them, happy experiences, awful experiences, experiences that were so terrible they were almost funny.
Your loved ones often ask you to do one thing – if you want to talk about them, talk about them. Who cares who gets uncomfortable? Who cares who can’t deal with it? Your experience is real and the person you love is real (and still is, by the way), so it’s ridiculous to pretend like they never existed. Even still, they WANT to be remembered. They want to be talked about. They want you to retell all of the funny stories!
2. Have a toast in their honor
Initiate a toast to this person. Invite everyone in the room to tell their stories of remembrance of this person.
Your loved one, the person you will be remembering – will be there – and beaming with joy. Who doesn’t feel awesome when they are, ever briefly, the center of attention?
3. Make something the loved or participate in something they enjoyed
Did your loved one have a special tradition that they loved – a special food, ritual, or drink? Make the dish, and let everyone know it was your loved ones favorite.
Or, embody a little bit of the ritual they loved. Hate football, but your husband loved it? Turn on the game, just for an hour. Hear it in the background, go into the room and sit down, next to where he would have sat. He’ll be sitting there and you won’t be imagining it.
Did you wife love to go out shopping, to a certain store, or made a certain mulled cider? Why not prepare it, or simply browse through the shop she enjoyed? Did you always go Christmas tree hunting together? Picking them out in the snow, carting them home? Why not still do this? In fact, invite your loved one along – they’d love to come in Spirit!
After all, their tradition, when they were living, was your tradition too. No need to forget all about it now.
4. Talk to them
Let’s be honest here for a minute – if you’ve lost someone very close to you – you miss talking to them and having their input on things more than you expected.
And now that they are gone, you’ve been talking to your loved one in your mind. Asking questions, telling them you missing them, imagining what they would say about something, laughing about how they might have bantered back with you. Sometimes you feel like you can just hear what they would have said.
Consider for a moment that this ‘imaginary’ conversation you are having isn’t something you imagined at all. In fact, clairaudience, or the ability to hear and converse with those in spirit happens in just this way. You don’t have to be a medium to hear your loved ones at all. Keep up the good work – and remember to give them a chance to respond. What you imagine as their response – it really is. You didn’t make that up.
5. Make an altar
It helps to have a specific way to remember someone. A place where you can go, something that you can look at, an object you can hold – where you can always remember this person. Often times, your loved ones will suggest finding a necklace to wear, or a photograph to keep, or a place to go for you to remember them. Find something like this.
Whether you already have something that you use to remember this person, or you are about to go on a shopping trip later today – find something tangible to have and hold that you can use to remember them. Every time you look at this object, or go in the space where the object sits (whether it’s on your chest or on your nightstand), you can think of and remember your loved one.
You aren’t alone on the holidays.
Those in Spirit that you love will be surrounding you.
With much love,