As an intuitive, I occasionally find myself receiving intuitive impressions or messages for or about others that catch me by surprise.
While this doesn’t happen very often, perhaps every month or two, this is a more common occurrence than you might think - especially for individuals with intuitive abilities, regardless of level of ability. You might know that job your friend applied for isn’t going to work out, or you might discover the real reason why a male co-worker of yours is having trouble with his wife, or you might be out to dinner and see a Spirit near the table of complete strangers. Maybe you hear a message in your head you feel you absolutely have to deliver, or you pick up information on troubles someone is experiencing in their serial relationships.
With a one-on-one friend or family member, it’s completely natural to share what you are getting in a private conversation. But what if you are in public in a social situation? What’s the cultural etiquette here?
In all of these cases, I’m describing a situation in which I saw, knew, felt, or heard information concerning another person, whom I may or may not have known, and the information obtained may or may not be useful to this person, if shared. In other words, in the ‘grey zone’. Normally, when asked for my opinion, assistance, or guidance, I share it - psychically or not, but what happens when you, or I, haven’t been asked at all? Should you deliver a message from their deceased grandmother? Should you enlighten a dear stranger, over her eggplant parmesan, that her partner is unfaithful? Is it important for your friend, who desperately wants the job to which he is interviewing, to know he’s not going to get it or that it’s not in his ‘greatest good’?
In all of these instances the main question here is:
When should you share psychically or spiritually received information and when should you keep it to yourself?
To best answer this question, I have a few guiding questions that I ask myself, before delivering any information to someone who has not specifically asked for a reading.
-Is now the right time?
In other words, my question here is really, is this the most compassionate and loving time?
If the information could be startling, throw off someone’s day, create complete chaos, or direct attention away from something more meaningful happening - I try to decide whether or not it’s essential for me to share the information at all. Or perhaps, wait to do so at a more private, calm, and safe time for the person receiving the information. Before doing anything, I try to ask with the intention, what is the most compassionate and loving way for me to be in this moment? If that action is refraining from calling attention to psychic or spiritual information, so be it.
You may be called to wait to deliver the message, not do so at all, or gather the courage and speak what you know.
- Is it the most compassionate and loving act?
- Is this information essential to their well-being?
Could they die or be terribly injured if I withheld this information? Is this information essential to their healing? Is it mandatory to know right now? In my experience, unexpected or even, unwanted psychic information is not met with welcome and gratitude. Rather, it is more common to be met with a reaction such as shock, surprise, fear, disgust, or anger from the person to which you are sharing the information. Thus, I try to really consider if the information is essential, in order to maintain peace in my own life.
Occasionally, you may receive information that is simply for you to know - to understand someone better, to assist you with that person’s scenario, or perhaps for you to have more compassion for that person. And rather than delivering the information, you might find that it’s actually information for you to share at another time, whenever that time may come along.
Can an opening be created for me to deliver this information?
If I absolutely feel this person needs to know the information, I attempt to deliver the messages in the most peacefully natural and least awkward way possible. To accomplish this, I simply ask my Spirit Guides to assist! Simply, I ask my guides, guardian angels, or whomever may be wanting the information to be delivered - to help me create an opening in the conversation, if the information is necessary to be heard.
Then, if an opening comes, if the person I received information on starts talking about a job they’re applying for, a partner, or a loved one on the other side (openings change depending on the message), you may have your opening! You’ll know and feel it, should the opportunity present itself. Remember ~ it may not.
In addition to these questions, I also try to be mindful of these two considerations - being mindful of personal boundaries, and perhaps, leaving things open to the interpretation of divine will. Depending on the situation, I tend to go back and forth between leaning on either one or the other of these ‘schools of thought’.
1. Be watchful of boundaries
If someone wants to be read, if they want your advice and your opinion, they generally will ask you for this service. To offer assistance without being asked, can be considered a violation of personal privacy, space, and boundaries. Since psychic and intuitive information can facilitate life changing events, and if someone is ready for that change to occur, then this person will ask for and seek out a reading. If you deliver information that has not been asked for, this person may not be ready to use it and integrate it into their lives, and therefore, it may not be helpful to them - they won’t really care or use it - or you - the energy you give may not be valued.
Additionally, since psychic information can be extremely personal and vulnerable, it’s simply a matter of respecting the boundaries and privacy of others - not to ‘read’ them without their permission. Obtaining consent of a ‘readee’ has even become common practice among practicing mediums or intuitives - to assure that everyone’s rights are respected and wishes are honored.
While it is always essential to consider the personal space of others, it is also necessary for you to consider your own personal boundaries. If you are uncomfortable receiving psychic information on the fly, or when you can’t share the information - consider developing your own personal boundaries. Receiving psychic information, as an antenna, can be very exhausting on your mind, body, and spirit - if it’s always going, turning, and on at full blast. Thus, you may find it helpful to learn how to shut down or lower the volume on your abilities on command (more on this here).
2. Who are we to decide what someone is and is not ready to hear?
Those in Spirit, in the Divine Light, have the vast perspective to know what is best for our greatest and highest good, even if we may not be aware. Your guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side are continually transmitting information to you to assist you on your soul’s journey. Thus, if information is coming to you for another person, who are you to say it is not been made available to be shared at that moment? As with all things, we receive information on something when it is time to use it - who is to say this is any different here? Perhaps the fact that you are receiving information spontaneously - or at all - is a sign that it must be shared!
When sharing intuitive information, and understanding psychic etiquette, it appears that the answer on when to share or not share information is entirely subjective - and depends on your personal beliefs, the situation you are in, and the receptivity of the person for which the information is meant.
In sharing psychic or intuitive information, I believe the most important thing to consider in making your decision, is to focus on what action would be the most loving and compassionate thing to do. Then, proceed.
With much love,