Psychic Etiquette: When To Share Intuitive Information (And When To Keep It To Yourself)
As an intuitive, I have occasionally found myself receiving intuitive impressions or messages for or about others that catch me by surprise.
While this doesn’t happen very often, perhaps every month or two, this is a more common occurrence than you might think - especially for individuals with intuitive abilities, regardless of the level of skill.
Aside from sharpening your gaze and learning how to bat out distractions, of the main skills in intuition is knowing when (and when not) to shoot.
First, you have got to learn how to read a room.
This is one of the biggest tips I can give anyone who is getting out and public and thinking of sharing their impressions.
Sharing your intuitions in some circles will always be well-received, in others, it could get someone inadvertently fired from their job, or even worse, killed.
So going into your intuitive sharing process, know that discernment in what to say, as well as where to say it, can be as important as life or death.
Yes, I am serious here. Moreover, while I am serious on that, on a scale of lesser evils, sharing your intuitions at the wrong place, at the wrong time, amongst the wrong crowd, can help you lose friends, alienate family members and dissolve sacred bonds etched in trust. On the right side of things, intuition sharing can help you gain friends, strengthen relationships with family members, and form lasting friendships.
What I'm saying is that intuition and your ability to hold your tongue about it when a necessary is an amazingly valuable tool for anyone's back right pocket.
You might see that job your friend applied for isn’t going to work out, or you might discover the real reason why a male co-worker of yours is having trouble with his wife, or you might be out to dinner and see a Spirit near the table of strangers.
Maybe you hear a message in your head you feel you absolutely have to deliver, or you pick up information on troubles someone is experiencing in his or her serial relationships.
With a one-on-one friend or family member, it’s completely natural to share what you are getting in a private conversation.
But what if you're in public in a social situation?
What’s the cultural etiquette here? Do you share what you get or do you keep it to yourself?
To best answer this question, I have a few guiding questions that I ask myself, before delivering any information to someone who has not explicitly asked for a reading or my advice.
- #1. Is now the right time?
In other words, my question here is really, is this the most compassionate and loving time to do this?
If the information could be startling, throw off someone’s day, cause complete chaos, or direct attention away from something more meaningful happening - I try to decide whether or not it’s essential for me to share the information at all. If I sense a person may already know, and I can't get a word in, I let it pass.
Alternatively, I wait to do so at a more private, calm, and safe time for the person receiving the information. If that moment comes and the time arises, then it is shared.
So, think about the timing of you passing the message along - is right now the right time? If it’s not, wait until it is.
- #2. Is this a life-threatening message?
In my experience, unexpected or even, unwanted psychic information is not met with welcome or gratitude. Instead, it is more common met with a reaction such as shock, surprise, fear, disgust, or anger from the person to which you are sharing the information.
So keep in mind that occasionally, you may receive information that is simply for you to know - to help you understand someone better, to assist you with that person’s scenario, or perhaps for you to have more compassionate understanding for that person's situation. Some intuitives receive danger signals from others that helps them keep their family safe, but sharing it could cause a contrary situation.
So rather than delivering the information, you might find that some information you keep and act on yourself in the ways you see fit for the best of everyone involved.
Ask, could they die or be injured if I withheld this information?
Is this information essential to their healing?
If no one is going to die immediately, you have some time.
- #3. Can an opening be created for me to deliver this information?
If I absolutely feel this person needs to know the information, I attempt to deliver the messages in the most peacefully natural and least awkward way possible. To accomplish this, I ask my Spirit Guides to assist.
I ask my guides, guardian angels, or whoever may be wanting the information to be delivered - to help me create an opening in the conversation if the information is necessary to be heard.
Then, if an opening comes, if the person I received information on starts talking about a job they’re applying for, a partner, or a loved one on the other side (openings change depending on the message), you have your opening and go for it.
You’ll know and feel it, should the opportunity present itself.
And remember - it may not.
In addition to asking myself these questions when determining whether to share or not, I also try to be mindful of these two guidelines when deciding what to do with insights -
1. Be very watchful of boundaries
If someone wants to be read, if he or she wants your advice and your opinion, he or she generally will ask you for this service. If this person is in your social group, and most often it's these people we want to breach boundaries the most with, I implore you to resist even more.
Allow others to come to you, just embrace the mystique - it will help the message sink in more when they can ask you on their own sacred terms.
To offer assistance without being asked can be considered a violation of personal privacy, space, and boundaries. It is generally seen as a violation amongst other psychics, again, it really depends on the culture of a person’s community.
But, since psychic and intuitive information can facilitate life-changing events, you do want that person to be ready and so does Spirit. So rather than pounce on them like a Panther, invite them to your den and just wait until it’s time.
If you deliver information that has not been asked for, this person may not be ready to use it and integrate it into their lives, and therefore, it may not be helpful to them anyway. They don't really care or use it - and therefore the energy has been wasted. This isn’t cynical, this is just the truth. If it’s non-life threatening, and they haven’t come to you, try to let it go if the moment doesn’t come.
Seeing everyone’s life issue is a lot like the curse of a plastic surgeon or the curse of a therapist, you are trained to see what needs to be fixed. In your off hours, it can be hard to get out of this mode, but you have to try for your own sanity and everyone else’s sanity around you.
2. Watch who is listening
Okay, if someone does ask you and it’s at a gathering and you just absolutely must, no shame in indulging in an intuitive dialogue if you so feel called, but try to pay attention to who is listening to any conversation. Most importantly, when sensitive information is being traded.
Sharing intuitive information may as well be exchanging state secrets - because it is.
It is the discussion of hidden information that isn’t yet visible, so often you are discussing book ideas, inventions, plot and piolet ideas and so on - other things that have not yet been patented or put into deals. So aside from family traumas, psychic discussions often cover people’s livelihoods so you must be careful. If your new client friend isn’t watching who’s listening, you have to be. If you don’t feel like watching, don’t get into it. Reserve a time and space at another date if you feel a conversation may be going a certain way.
Psychics have to know that they are often dealing with sensitive information and it is vital that it be treated this way. So keep in mind if sharing psychic information, whose husband, father, or mother-in-law may be lurking in the next room - otherwise, the whole thing could turn into quite a debacle or worse, turn out in a barrage of questions for the person you were trying to protect, later on.
Then again, sometimes, yes, it is life or death. This is why it’s important to think about and cover all your bases (and at least some of the potential rat holes) before just jumping in there to save the day with some psychic thoughts.
You will thank yourself, and most importantly, your rescuee will thank you too - even if they didn’t intend to be rescued that day.
So when it comes to sharing intuitive information, you really want to think of these five things:
Is this the compassionate thing to do?
Is this life or death?
Is this the right time to talk?
Am I violating boundaries?
And is a potential threat to this person or to myself listening?
If you have not made an appointment with someone, there is no clear black and white yes or no for every case since it's all different, so what I recommend is tailoring what you do, to every situation.
In sharing psychic or intuitive information, I believe the most important thing to consider in making your decision, is to focus on what action would be the most loving and compassionate thing to do. Then, to proceed.
Amanda Linette Meder
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Last Updated 13 Nov 2018