Tips for Coming Out of the Psychic Closet
Coming out as an intuitive, medium, psychic, or energetic healer can be a vulnerable experience, but once it's done, it's liberating. So you're thinking of finally letting others see the real you, but want to know the best way to do it?
When I was coming out of the psychic closet, my biggest fear was, of course, psychic rejection. Meaning, that I feared that those around me would reject my deepest beliefs created by some of my most profound experiences.
As I was coming out of the closest, I learned who in my circle was willing to love and appreciate me for who I was. And I also learned who, at that point in their soul journey, was unwilling or unable to accept me.
Learning who is unable to accept you for who you are can be a difficult pill to swallow. But typically, it guides you and your soul towards places with greater acceptance because the soul is continually seeking union.
So as you come out, whether professionally or personally, think of it as a journey to finding where your soul is supported the best.
Like finding our kindred spirits or soulmates, we may not always hit the mark on the first try. But as we honor our soul more and more, our manifesting power will become greater, and our ability to attract those more gentle on our spirits as we share our true essence will increase.
In the meantime, while coming out to your current social circle may not be a reflection of where things will be forever, here are a few tips to make that journey a bit softer -
9 Tips on How to Come Out of the Closet with Ease
1. Wait until you are confident in your abilities Before beginning to casting them Out to the world.
When you are first 'coming out' and testing the waters, any negative or doubting comment can cause you to go running back inside. People can sense your uncertainty, which triggers uncertainty within themselves.
Give yourself time to become more confident in what you know and believe, and then, come out of the closet when you really know that your gift is real.
2. watch others who have come out before you.
As I was coming out of the closet, my sister, watched me carefully.
Was I being harshly judged? Rejected for who I was? Laughed at or ridiculed? Would I be successful? Could I support myself? Would I be forced to live in exile, homeless, and outcasted from society? Would I be stoned to death?
Observe those who come out of the closet before you, and see what happens.
Were they okay? Did it all work out alright?
If you watch long enough - you'll see that, yes, it did work out alright and that'll give you the comfort you need to come out when it's your time - even if you do have to loose a few friends in the process.
3. Share yourself gifts first with others who already appreciate and love you.
Those who love you, care about you deeply on a soul level - whether or not you have shared with them any hints or tidbits to the intuitive side of who you are - they already know.
Come out to only those who really know you, first.
After that starting sharing with others - New Age Hipster writes a fantastic piece on the types of people you'll meet coming out and how to respond to each. I highly encourage this read!
4. Understand that for others, accepting your 'abilities' would force certain people to reorganize their entire lives. and some are simply unwilling to do that.
In order to accept your gifts, and turn, accept you as a person, there are people that would have to reorder everything that they have ever learned and know, everything that they have ever experienced, the situation of their current lives, and the outcomes of their future.
This prospect is scary and daunting. Rather than restructure an entire belief system, it is much easier to reject a single person. For many, the easy route is not only safer, but it is all their soul can handle right now.
If someone refuses to accept who you are, simply understand their soul is not ready for this kind of information. Insisting that others accept you, too, is a non-acceptance of their belief system.
Have peace with the fact that you'll simply never vibe with everyone - whether you're a psychic or a carpenter.
5. Explore different ways to define what you do.
The way you describe something to someone can have a profound impact on how they receive the information. Come up with a variety of more gentle and compassionate ways to say what you do to soften the blow.
Sometimes I say that I counsel those who are grieving, or that I'm a 'translator', occasionally I will say that I teach others how to open up their intuitive gifts, or that I connect individuals with their loved ones on the other side.
Generally, I've found that flat-out sharing with someone I've never met that I'm a medium gets widely varying reviews. Thus, I've learned that it's easier for others to swallow if I describe what I do, rather than using just the label "medium."
6. Forget death (at least in the western world).
This isn't the 1600s anymore. And chances are high that you won't be burned at the stake, killed, maimed, or even put in jail for your gifts. Sure, others might question the reality of your experiences, but whatever. These same people would've questioned you regardless of what path you took.
Whenever someone calls me crazy, or declares I'm a fake, I just smile, silently bless them and their path of growth, and walk away. There's no need to argue.
The very nature of your gift is a gift to others. The more you have confidence in this - the less non-compassionate judgment will matter to you.
7. Get a journal for validations
Get a notebook. Make it fancy and personalized. Designate this journal for one thing and one thing only - to record all the times when you were right. Each time you felt something that was accurate, saw something that was perfectly on target - write it down. Carry it with you.
Coming out of the closet is partially being strong enough to brave the potential doubts and questioning of others. And sometimes, even the strongest people can be affected by what or who I around them.
Absorbing other people's doubt is part of what is so scary about coming out - we don't want to feel that. So, you can safeguard yourself from potential self-esteem affecting emotional waves by doing this:
Whenever you feel doubt, go back through this book and raise your confidence back up - you are good at what you do, remind yourself of it. Doing so will help you weather the storm.
8. Have Compassion with yourself
Some days you are going to feel amazing, and know in your heart that sharing your intuitive gift with the world is truly and honestly serving your greatest and highest good, and beneficial for those who you work with.
Other days, you are going to feel down and a little sorry for yourself.
Remember the days before you came out of the closet? Yea, those days - the very same thing happened all the time.
You are an emotional being who rides a roller coaster of feelings, and when you first make a big decision - the hills will be higher and steeper, but eventually, the drops will be less extreme and the highs will be less fear-ridden.
9. Use argument enthusiasts and blatant public questions as opportunities to refine your message and learn more about what you do.
In The Membership Program, for months after months, we've gone through lesson after lesson on how to explain your gifts to skeptics, non-believers, and those who aren't necessarily against what you do, but do enjoy a lively debate.
Many of the videos, meditations, and articles from these previous lessons are still available in the center's archives.
To help you come out of the closet with more ease, I encourage joining the program to take advantage of many of these resources, or simply taking some time to study the counter-argument any skeptics or challengers may have, so that you're better informed and better versed, when asked to potentially provide an educated answer on the topic.
As you become more confident in your gifts and get more comfortable with explaining yourself in confidence, your doubts will subside, and your confidence will grow.
Just have compassion with your new venture into a new way of being. Coming out is a huge leap of faith, a learning experience, and a giant step forward in the path towards self acceptance. So, congratulate yourself in pursuing this journey!
Because coming out of ‘the psychic closet’ is a delicate time for anyone, give yourself patience and time, and experiment with what helps you feel comfortable.
The most important thing is to feel proud of your abilities, and as you continue to develop them, your confidence and secureness of yourself will grow, too -
Amanda Linette Meder
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