How To Release Negativity In The Home Or Workplace
As you read this, you may be sitting at your work desk wondering why you have to experience such a negative environment.
Perhaps a few of your co-workers are cranky, easy to anger, or just energy downers in general.
Or perhaps you're dealing with someone who you may consider emotionally unreasonable or somehow, finds a way to spin a tale of sadness, anger, or judgment into every story.
Or perhaps things are just taking longer than expected and you're feeling a little disappointed.
While you may have read books on energy vampires (this one from Amazon is my favorite mass-market book on the topic right now) - energy vampires are individuals who zap and draw on the energy of others and whom you feel energetically drained and exhausted when you're around them -
It’s hard to avoid these individuals if they exist in a place where you frequent nearly every day, and the energy that the other humans in our environment put out can have a tremendous effect on our overall mood.
Just like an energy diffuser filled with pollution would have an effect on our respiratory health, a person filled with negative comments would affect our mental health over time.
We’ve all had people in our lives that for some reason or another - we couldn’t merely avoid, instead, we had to learn how to manage their emotions in a way that does not impact our own.
This could be a spouse who's going through a rough career change, or it could be a co-worker who's son just got thrown in jail. When people are faced with distressing conditions they can't change or control; sometimes these alert signals get spewed into the environment in the form of misplaced negativity.
Are the people who misplace negativity terrible people? Only if you consider someone is suffering a bad person, which most of us wouldn't.
So shy of cutting out every suffering person from your life, which would be impossible, especially if you're looking to cultivate long-term, trusting relationships, here are a few ways you deal with a negative person in the home or workplace without eradicating yourself from the situation entirely, such as quitting a job or leaving a marriage.
Want to make it work? Read on -
Start Philosophically - Understand Pain Energy As Negativity
The best way to deal with negativity is through understanding, mercy, and compassion.
While you certainly don't have to condone bad behavior, understand that this person who is creating negativity, is likely dealing with something that I call ‘pain energy.’
Pain energy is a type of emotional category that many of us carry and it deals with the unprocessed emotions from the past.
In readings, pain energy appears to be a swirling, black cloud of smoke, sometimes trapped in the stomach, behind the heart, over the whole body, and occasionally surrounding the entire person.
If the negative person you are dealing with shows a lot of anger or anxiety, their pain energy is generally bottled up and stored behind a wall. Usually, behind their heart, waiting to be unleashed at any moment, typically triggered by a hot-button comment related to the thing they carry pain energy about.
If your environment is negative, most likely a person is involved in creating this, and if the person you're dealing with feels down or grumpy all the time, their pain energy may be externally swirling around them.
So before reacting to someone else's lack of compassion, take a moment to pull yourself back and out of the situation and visualize their energy field. Pull yourself out of the smoke, so to speak and change your appearance. Some people like to wash their hands, change their lipstick color, or change their hair to symbolize they are now out of this energy - and once you're out of someone else's energy swirl - then you can have even more compassion and mercy, because you can see their pain much more clearly, without you in the picture.
In most cases, how someone else feels, has nothing to do with you and is not a reflection of you so you may as well pull yourself out of it, to begin with.
Negativity clouds are only a reflection of the painful emotions a person is experiencing and understand that their negativity is pain or discomfort on some level rather than a purposeful attempt to make you miserable - and suddenly, it seems a lot easier to deal with and understand.
embrace your inner god or goddess of mercy - Send Love and Compassion
The person(s) who is being negative and creating this environment for themselves as well as others are likely dealing with some pain energy that needs to be healed. While it is not your responsibility to cure anyone of their issues and deep-seated emotional traumas, when someone is in pain, it’s always your responsibility to ask, “How can I be more compassionate in this situation?"
Tap into your inner Mother Mary or Goddess of Mercy here. To deflect negativity, instead of fueling the fire and sending more negativity - try to send compassion to them. Sending compassion could come in the form of a positive, loving thought, a genuine prayer, or by visualizing them behind surrounded by a warm, cloud of pink energy. The more in pain, the more negative, a person is, the less likely it is they'll listen to words, but the more likely it is they'll listen to open body language or even a soft energy being sent to them.
The more love, even passive love, through open and accepting body language, that this person receives, from others over time, the more this person will be able to open up and to release some of the pain energy that is shielding them from experiencing that which they genuinely want to receive, which is love.
As more love is sent in their direction, the more opportunities this person has to be able to feel it - and this begins the process of shedding their defense layers, which are made of pain and fear energy. Because these defense layers (often interpreted as negativity, or closed unreceptive energy), are generally built over time, the process of reversing it will also take some time. To speed up the process of changing the type of energy you receive from others. I like this book, The Like Switch on Amazon that which goes over how to mirror and set an example of positive, receptive body language which in turn makes others nicer to you by reflecting you over time.
See Any Emotion as a Gift - That You Can Accept or Reject
Then choose to accept. When someone shares their emotions, their tone of voice, or even their posture and body language with you or with the world, they are offering a gift of themselves. They are showing you where they are in that moment in their journey.
Any emotion that anyone is feeling is showcasing piece of what they are experiencing, and the bit they are choosing to share with you.
Often, when someone displays or exhibits a lot of pain energy or negativity, I’ll merely observe it and say to myself, “Wow, this person is releasing a lot of fears/pain/anger right now.”
This keeps me out of it personally, and it is hardest to do with those we are closet with. I choose to accept the emotions into my energy field and then watch them be cleansed and burned up in my aura. Imagining myself as the sun, any vapors that come into it, dissolve. Doing this visualization keeps my energy open but also cleanses the negativity as it hits me, rejecting emotions tends to beget more rejection feelings in the person presenting them to you, creating even more negativity, so doing this provides the best of both worlds.
After you allow yourself to step out of the pain energy, imagine this person being surrounded in love and compassion and clearing any pain energy that comes into your energy field, if the negativity is still impacting you it may help to cut your cords, learn how by checking out this article here.
Next, once you've started clearing the energy on an emotional and energetic level, by making these small psychic changes above, then it's time to clear it on a physical level, with saging, music or any other type of space clearing, which I discuss in this ebook here.
Amanda Linette Meder
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Last updated 23 October 2018