Cut Straight To The Chase
A Story of Finding Love and Giving Readings in the Life of a Psychic Medium
When someone really loves you, they see you in a more expansive way, than the way you see yourself.
Back before I was ever working as a professional psychic medium, back before my website got as big as it has, back before I even started taking as many clients for readings as I do now, my blonde bombshell of a honey repeatedly encouraged me to view myself as a creative artist, first and foremost.
We both agree that all great artists are first mediums -
Mediums, in the original sense of the word, that is:
conduits for bringing through universal truths from one plane, into another plane
Whether it's through song, through mural, through word, through psychic reading -
an artist is an artist is an artist - a waypoint for conveying a truth
Having someone in your life that sees your expansive potential, is not only hugely helpful when it comes to your career growth, but also when it comes to your soul's growth.
When someone sees you as more expansive than you see yourself, it gives you freedom to expand. That's what we all truly need in our relationships: the freedom to expand.
Sheryl Sandberg said it true: one of the most important decisions we make in our lives is who we spend our lives with.
If you haven't already found him or her, look for someone that makes you, challenges you, and sees you, as a greater version than how you see yourself.
I've chosen to spend my life with someone who not only sees me as my greatest version, but he also happens to be the total anti-thesis of mermaida culture altogether, someone who, is just about as masculine as you could get.
Sports, wings, guns, cut off tees and cars.
My protector. My guardian of the home. My lion of the land.
That's my guy.
If I describe myself as the sea goddess known as Ariel, I'd describe him as Prince Erik.
This duality doesn't bother me at all now, though at one time I thought I wanted someone a little more mermaid-y.
But now, I don't.
Being a psychic medium, having given readings to thousands of people - who all ask the same baseline questions,
Who is my soulmate? How can I find him? When will I meet him?
The truth has finally come through.
It doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, what type of job you have or where you live, everything we want on the inside, is the same.
While soulmates come in many shapes and sizes and not all soulmates are soulmates who are meant to last forever in your life, your most ideal soulmate isn't your mirror self, it's your opposite self.
To end the debate right here, right now on soulmates:
Look for yourself in a partner, opposite, but equal.
You'll have to do a little soul searching yourself to find out what you want as a soul before you find him or her, and I'm not saying that when you do, you'll agree on everything. Or do everything the same way. Or even have the same opinions on the best way to tackle any given problem.
But what I am saying is this- this is who your soulmate is.
Your opposite but equal is the person who is going to challenge you the most to expand.
I'm telling you this answer right now, because if you booked a reading with me, chances are, you wouldn't ask me this gritty question right up front.
To be fair, when I had the chance to ask all those years ago, I didn't ask the question I wanted to know right up front either - it was the second question I asked.
It's simply small talk ...when given the option, most people ask the more minor questions that mask what they really want to know, to start their readings.
Money questions, relationship fight question, and questions about which house you should buy, or if that Florida investment property is worth it.
In readings, most experienced psychic mediums know better and this is why I don't, and many mediums don't take questions up front.
It has a little to do with evidence and validation, but it has even more to do with people and their bullsh*t.
Most people don't ask what they really want to know up front.
So, why waste my time and yours time, when we could just cut to the chase?
Further more, it doesn't matter what type of questions you ask, because your Spirits, will do a damn great job of cutting right through your bullshit, for us, anyway.
When we listen to them, we'll get straight to the vulnerable, most hard to hear points, regardless of whether or not you book a 15 minute reading or a 60 minute one.
This is truly why some people walk away unhappy from readings.
Because the truth motherf*cking hurts.
And not everyone is ready to hear it.
As a conduit of truth, I don't shy away from it.
Being born in New Jersey helps with this. It helps with my medium skills.
Why do you think so many successful mediums are true East Coasters at heart?
You need to be straight forward. And New Jersians are good at this.
I was born to cut straight to the chase.
And whether it comes to truth-telling, psychic-mediuming, or art making- this is the exact skill you need be good at your job.
The true measure of a medium - is not how well you can see spirits or how well you can hear them - because we're all about the same there.
It's how willing you are to cut through someone's bullshit for them - regardless of whether or not you know they'll like it or want it.
You need to be not afraid of what someone is going to say when you start spitting out the hard stuff. That's my mediumship tip #1. My mediumship tip #2:
You need to not stutter because...the good medicine doesn't always taste so good.
But it's what's needed to heal.
Giving out the good medicine is why many psychic mediums, try not to give readings to their friends and family members.
We love you and we don't want to see you hurt, even if you are healing.
In readings, you check your aura colors at the door.
Because it gets deep. It gets dirty. And yup, we get into your childhood sh*t.
When asking for a reading with a psychic medium, it's serious biz.
And we're not gonna water our load for our mothers, our aunts or for our boyfriend's coworker's boss. Conflict of interests fly right out the window sitting down in the reading room.
When asking for a reading from your best friend, your daughter, or your childhood friend's girlfriend remember: you are selecting them to be your dark horse therapist.
Do you want that?
Do you really want us to know your deepest, darkest secret? That thing, the thing, you haven't even admitted to *yourself* yet?
If the answer is no, which is probably is, then ask your psychic friend for a referral, not for a reading. Because you can't ever massage yourself in the way someone else could, all psychic mediums have their own trusted medium they go to for help (this is mine) in solving their own life problems. So we definitely know someone who knows someone.
We can't unknow something once we know it and you can't unknow that we know it, either. And while we rarely judge (because we've seen a lot worse than the visions of someone cheating), knowing what we know - you knowing that we know, can make things awkward between us.
If I give you a reading at a family and friend gathering, and I see that a massive relationship explosion is about to happen with you and your boyfriend (inevitable), and that very boyfriend, is waiting downstairs for us, anxiously and eagerly wanting to know how the reading went...
Things are gonna get weird.
And theres' honestly no way we can go back after that.
So as much as I love you, please don't ask me for a reading.
You probably really don't want me to know, and I probably don't want to know, either.
You'll listen to the candid advice of a stranger more, more than you'll listen to the advice of your best friend, and for me, well, it'll make get-togethers less weird if we just... if we just don't.
So friends, here are my referrals:
A psychic medium yourself?
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Amanda Linette Meder
Photography credits: Amanda Linette Meder on location in Asbury Park, NJ and Amish Country, PA. Murals by Art of Pork Chop.