Spiritual Insights From My Brother, the Economist
Recently, I was having a conversation with my brother, who is currently getting his PhD in microeconomics. For those who aren’t familiar with this field (as I wasn’t before the conversation began), microeconomics isn’t the study of money as most people think.
Microeconomics is the study of commerce and behavior: why people do what they do, in the interactions and decisions that make up their lives, and in their exchanges with one another.
he was looking at interactions among online communities
and I have an online business
On that particular day, he was in the process of peer-reviewing a journal article that was up for publication. The authors behind the study, other economists in his field, were studying social media and the motivating reason behind why people comment in online forums.
Spiritual people - like all people - are heavily interactive online, so this study was interesting to me.
the reason why we act the way we do
We assume people interact online for two predominant reasons and these are either:
To to be right, to win, to be the best/better answer
To be helpful, supportive, and kind
Researchers, however, believe that people online interact with each other more because they want to right, and not so much that they want to be supportive. In other words, people are primarily driven more by reason a, than they are by reason b.
examining our spiritual interactions online
And as a spiritual worker with an online presence, I’ve found this to be true.
However, in working with my own guides, I have been, told time and time again:
it is more important to be loving . . . than it is to be right
When I started my online business, I wanted to believe that most people who commented online, commented to be supportive, validating and helpful.
. . . but most of what I see online is still reason B
Even among those in the spiritual community, there is a drive to be more right than someone else; to be told by another THAT another is more correct in their process, than you are in yours.
This needs to stop. We need to be nicer to each other (and here's a beautiful article explaining why).
Further more, my guides state that everyone’s process is the correct process.
Everything is right because it was meant to serve us for where we were at that moment.
What is true, is that each and everyone of us can grow, expand and develop. We can learn new, innovative methods and processes that can serve us more, and on a higher level, than our old ones did. But - this doesn't mean that what we or you or anyone was doing before was necessarily wrong.
And yet, even if it did, what people really need in from their online community is not more correction . . . it's support.
So for me, after hearing of this study, I’ve made a pact.
From now on, when interacting in online forums, I'll be striving to be more of love, to be more Reason B.
that's what we need in our spiritual community
What this could look like . . . rather than swooping in to correct another spiritual person's method, do what you can to provide more support or insight on their own process, or share your own process.
If it fits where they are at that time, they'll take you up on it.
If not, don't worry - the thousands others who are reading on, will surely benefit.