When you start opening up to be vulnerable - sharing your gifts and your true interests with others, it's important to have people around who value you and who have earned the right to hear your story.
Having a network of support is one of the most important thing that we all need to feel loved, accepted and OK to be ourselves.
As a psychic medium dealing with all the public stigmas and stereotypes swirling around about my authenticity and worthiness as a human - I know that finding this can be hard.
All this time absorbing what the public says about you and psychics at large, can make you feel like you aren’t worthy of acceptance if you aren't careful.
I’ve felt that. Many of my medium friends have felt that. And there’s likely not one medium on this Earth who hasn’t. When we question our own worth, this can lead us into building relationships with people who also doubt our worth.
A personal story:
In my 20s, I was in a relationship with a man who I thought I wanted to marry.
Three to four years into the relationship, I took a major chance.
I was starting to come to a place where I felt safe enough to share my true self, I figured it was a good time to start treading the water by sneaking in hints to him that I could see spirits (if you've read my blogs, you'll know I hid my abilities from everyone from teenage years on in an effort to be accepted - not healthy, but I did it).
After several really cool experiences with a Coyote, I told him one evening that I believed Coyotes to be my Spirit Animal.
Later that night, we got into a small argument about the trash.
During the fight, he pulled up an image on his computer. He turned to show me a Coyote, bloodied, mutilated and hanging upside down, turning to me to hiss and said, "This is what I think of your Spirit Animal!"
That was the day I nail-in-coffin made the decision to leave - but it wasn't until months later and tons of planning that I finally did it.
Something that I valued, had been deeply undervalued by another person - and I just couldn’t anymore. I couldn’t allow myself to stay in a relationship one more instant with someone who doubted the worth of the things I cared about.
It was 4 years later before I found someone who did value me.
Today, I have a beautiful man in my life who recently after a trip to a local Garden center where I bought a Gnome to represent one of my Spirit Guides, later that evening he said to me, "So, show me all your Spirit Guides!"
I proudly went around the home pointing out other figures I had purchased to represent different Guides. He genuinely wanted to know and I genuinely glad someone had finally asked.
I felt accepted. I felt loved. And I knew I had finally met the person that valued me the way that I had learned to value myself.
They’re out there - these people.
There are people who support you and deserve to hear your story - but they don't always have the room to come into your life until you walk away from those who don't.