When you first start opening up your intuitive abilities and taking the steps to be ready to receive from Spirit, it can be hard to know when you are actually receiving.
What does *seeing* look like?
What am I *supposed to be* feeling?
Wait, is this it? Did I make that up?
Aligning to receive messages from Spirit and intuitive guidance is a process.
During this process, there are a series of attunements that you have to undergo to learn what it IS, and what it is NOT really authentic connection.
You need these attunements in order to know if you are truly going in the right direction.
These attunements are called validation.
Validation is when you receive external notification that something that you picked up on from Spirit or intuitively 'got' was right.
Knowing when you are right and in alignment with a seed of the truth, and being able to identify what that actually looks like, is absolutely an essential key in the development of your gifts.
Getting Back on the Bicycle
If you think about intuitive development as tuning a bicycle, imagine that you have just taken a 20 year old bicycle out of the barn.
It worked at one time and was in prime condition when it was purchased nearly 20 years ago, but since then a few mice have made nests in it, the bike has been rained on, and a few of the chains have gotten rusty.
You decide that you’ll oil it up with WD-40 and call it good.
While riding it around you can feel the gears getting looser with each rotation of the pedals, but you haven’t fallen off yet and everything feels alright, you guess.
But is the seat adjusted to the proper height for you?
Have you tweaked the spokes to make sure the wheels turn the smoothest?
What about the brakes? Have they been tested to make sure your stopping distance is on point?
Although the bicycle rides okay now, there are small adjustments that your bicycle needs in order to operate at it’s peak riding capacity where you can exist at complete confidence when riding it.
To get these adjustments the first time, you really have to take it to a shop.
You need someone to look at it with an outside eye - a bicycle expert - to show you how to adjust and to identify what is needed. Outside tune-ups are essential to optimum and smooth bicycle riding.
Validation is like getting a bicycle tune-up.
You need an outside source to tell you where the bicycle is on-point and to help illuminate all the great qualities and nuances of this vintage bicycle you own - and you perhaps didn’t know how special it was because it was in your barn all these years.
An outside source can also tell you how things can be adjusted to get the smoothest, most flawless and effortless bicycle ride possible.
Bicycle tune-ups are all about making the bicycle more efficient and easier for you to ride.
Taking your gifts to another person - such as a volunteer client, a friend or a family member - and sharing what you got and how you got it - can give them an opportunity to validate you and reaffirm your beliefs - both in yourself and in Spirit.
Validation from others isn’t a wish - it’s a necessity for growth.
Outside Validation is Essential to Proper Growth
To know that what you receive is actually in alignment with truth and Spirit (for real), you need to compare your results to an external source. You need to make sure - of what it the truth when it comes through - by giving someone an opportunity to tell you it is.
You need to have your intuitive abilities and your mediumship abilities checked out by an external source.
You can do this by sharing what you see with any other person that you trust.
You have to share what you are receiving and get feedback on it.
With each validation you receive - that your bike is actually a vintage special edition, and here’s how it’s amazing it is, or here is what you can do to improve - you actually will improve, and your bicycle (your intuitive abilities) will become more and more aligned to their highest possible functioning state.
This is what we all want - to be manifesting in our intuitive gifts in the highest and best possible way, so that it’s both easier for you and more enjoyable to use them.
Riding a bike is not supposed to be hard. Neither is sharing what you see.
The hard part in beginning this journey is having the courage to take your bicycle out for a ride those first few times.
But you have to, in order to give yourself (and pthers) an opportunity to see how beautiful and strong your gifts really are.
Take Your Abilities Out for a Spin
In order to know if you are truly in alignment with receiving from Spirit (either your own Spirit or another Spirit), you have to share what you receive with others. You have to take your bicycle out of the barn.
Start by telling people what you feel and sharing observations of what you think, feel, and know, with those around you.
When you free yourself into speaking your mind in regular conversation, it gets easier and easier to resist doing so when it’s something more vulnerable - such as when it’s something you intuitively got or were given from Spirit.
If you get something, share it.
Wait! Before you do, always ask yourself these three questions:
Is it helpful?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
If you feel it, it’s truth. If you perceive it, it’s real.
Get a Validation Buddy
When I was first developing my abilities, I told Sarah, my twin sister everything. I also told everything I was getting to my best friend, Nicole.
I had two friends that I used as points of reference to share my receptions with and they were able to give me feedback and remind of that time when I was SO right about that person two weeks ago, or remind me of the awesome reading I had just last week.
I also worked with several mediums and other psychics to bounce my receptions and intuitions off of. I was triangulating, so I could better understand what it felt like and what it was supposed to feel like when I was actually getting something of value.
You need a coach. Someone to point out to you when you are ON and in alignment with receiving, so that you have a better idea of when you are really on target for yourself the next time it happens.
A validation buddy is like a real life validation journal, only better, because they’ll always make sure to point out your high points when you are feeling full of doubt.
To really take your abilities to the next level, and release the doubt of, “Am I… or aren’t I?” find a coach to assist in helping you understand what you are actually receiving or simply a well trusted friend.