When I first stepped out of my medium closet, I fully expected people to step out with me - in support.
I expected my friends and family to ask me questions like,
“What is it like for you? How does it happen?”
“How do you feel when all this information comes in, is it scary?”
“Is it hard to control, do you need to/can you sometimes take a step back?”
I expected questions and expressions of empathy and support, and unfortunately, this is not what happened. What happened instead was, a bombardment of other types of questions.
Friends, Family, Acquaintances, Neighbors suddenly...asking for advice.
All kinds of advice, at all kinds of times, contacting me in all kinds of ways - text, email, telephone, surprising me at home, asking my partner to ask me, etc, etc.
And I am not alone. One of the biggest problems new and old psychic mediums alike face is,
“How do I deal with all of this new, sometimes unwanted, attention?”
When you ask a psychic medium for:
What They Think
What they “Get”
Or anything else of this nature
Do not be surprised if you get just that - their regular, human, normal person thoughts and opinions. Just because someone is a professionally practicing psychic medium, does not mean they want to be on the clock all of the time, just as my hair stylist, Chelsea, does not necessarily want to be answering your questions about Balayage Highlights at her next social gathering.
If you know a psychic medium, are friends with an intuitive, or are dating a professional energy reader, here are some things you should know and keep in mind, when asking for ‘advice’:
1. We need to decompress
I have learned how to turn down, off and completely shut out my abilities to see, hear and communicate with those in Spirit. I also teach these techniques in all of my classes and in many articles on the blog for a reason - we all need time to chill out, step away and not be plugged in.
Helping out like a regular friend takes attention, care and compassion. Providing thoughtful, meaningful guidance does as well. Once you add Spirit and the Universe into the mix, it’s an exponential number of new energy sources your psychic sister-in-law has to tap into you. Think about trying to have a conversation, while also running a treadmill, while also trying to make brownies with a hand mixer.
When you communicate with Spirit, you are trying to manage high vibrational energy, do a task that requires lots of fine movement and attention to detail (clearly receiving information from Spirit) and also speak that to a friend.
While it may not look like it to you, you just asked your sister-in-law to go from relax mode with a glass of wine - to trying to juggle three activities at once.
Yes, even psychic mediums like to veg out on some Hunger Games and a nice beer after work, without being called back to the office.
2. You are not the only one asking
You and at least 5 other people have asked your best friend/energy healer to tell them what’s up with this thing they are feeling in their chest. I don’t know why, but the "I need advice" stream tends to happen in rushes from our friends and family- just like at the grocery store when everyone seems to want to check out at once.
While you may think you are sending a harmless Facebook message to your old friend from high school who is now a tarot reader about what you should do about a job - take a moment to think about how many people might be asking them to pull a card, too. It’s almost always more than one.
3. There is ethical protocol regarding permission
Asking for reading in vague terms, such as for ‘advice’, for what they ‘get’, for what they ‘see around you’, is not the same as giving someone permission to do a reading on your energy and fully connect with Spirit to deliver the clearest and best guidance for you at this time.
Contrary to popular belief, most psychic mediums, intuitives or energy healers try their very best to never read/look into/receive information on anyone or anything where they have not been explicitly asked. This is because as ethical practitioners in a field requiring supportive, vulnerable processes, we value your privacy and trust.
While some psychic mediums will do spontaneous readings without verbal permission, this is their choice and they are not required to do a spontaneous reading on you, especially when they are in the process of enjoying their nephew’s wedding reception and about to dig into some cake.
4. We prefer to create an optimal time and space to give you a reading
Most intuitive practitioners go to great lengths to prepare for you to have the best reading possible. This is why readings are often so expensive - because many are preparing hours, or days in advance to be the clearest possible channel for you and your Spirits, at the time of your appointment.
I have a 3 hour process that I use to prepare, tune into and fully step into the energy space required for me to give the best reading and to help your Spirits prepare to deliver the best message possible.
What this means is, when you ask for advice on the fly from your brother’s girlfriend/intuitive massage channel healer, she’s likely not in the optimal space to give you a reading. And when you want psychic advice, this is by and large what you want and need - the clearest and most accurate information available to you.
Please, give us the opportunity to provide that for you.
Want to ask your psychic friend for advice, when you really want to know what they “get’ from Spirit or what they ‘see’ in your energy field?
Want to get a consultation from your roommate’s sister on highlights?
Want to know what you should do about the crick in your neck?
Book an appointment.
Here, in their optimal and prime workspace, they can provide you with the best attention, the highest assistance and the fullest, detailed response possible.
Any other place, there is no guarantee that is going to happen and no obligation on their part, either.