Releasing the old, welcoming in the new.
Each new year, we do this, and each new year, I have a special ritual that I do each and every New Years Eve and New Years day.
Today, as we get ready to ring in the brand new of a fresh year filled with hopes of pursuing dreams, making amends with self and finally setting out on a path we are happy with - I realize I’ve already done most of this.
I’ve pursued my dream - I now live a life that I love while helping others.
I’ve made amends with myself - I spent the last several years coming to terms with my gift and being OK with it, despite what others might say.
I’ve set out on a path that I am happy with - teaching others to connect with Spirit is my greatest joy, and while I originally wasn’t sure it would be - I now know that it is.
But one thing that I haven’t done, is I haven’t released my dreams of what I thought it would be like to do this.
When you step out onto your soul journey, and start to follow a path that is true to your heart, if you are anything like me, you expect everyone to follow you, clap and cheer you on, and encourage your cheerfully as you get through all the mucky parts - all the emotional parts - all the hard parts.
You expect that eventually those who were once your friends, will stay your friends, and that your family will eventually settle in and accept the ‘new’ you - well actually, the real you, that you’ve been masking this whole time.
The Hard Truth is that Not Everyone Accepts
And I acknowledge that the ‘not everyone’ will be people who you thought might.
While some members of my family - namely my mother, my sister, her husband and my entire mother’s side of the family - fully support and are excited about what I do for a living - not all of them are - namely, the majority of my father’s side of the family.
Yep - the family from where my abilities originate does not fully accept me using or practicing those abilities.
The ancestors who are the source of my gifts - still largely reject their own gifts and, and this has translated to a non-acceptance of mine - many have voiced mixed feelings about my abilities, their thoughts on the fact that I practice the family curse in public (thereby ‘ruining’ the family name), and the fact that I’m not humble about it - by broadcasting the secrets of clairvoyance and mediumship, to the world on the website and now, the radio show.
Unfortunately, my father died years ago, disconnected from his family, and still I, also remain disconnected from most of my father’s side of the family. Even though I thought that would change once I honored the family gift by owning it - it didn’t.
Some of the members of my father’s family, while acknowledging these abilities, have in the same breath, accused me of witchcraft. Some have, while admitting the existence of Guardian Angels and the Spirit of their own family members, have asked me not to come to their house for dinner anymore.
For a long time, I held the belief, that if I accepted my abilities, they would accept me, too. That hasn’t happened, yet and, I’m okay with it.
I realize that not everyone will accept me, and that’s okay, as long as I have peace with who I am.
So, this year, I’m going to be release the wish for it and let it go.
My Release This Year:
The idea that I have to be accepted by anyone, in order to accept myself - even if that ‘anyone’ is a member of my own family.
To do this, I have a releasing ceremony that I love and have adapted over the years for the best recipe yet.
Amanda’s Releasing Ceremony
Day 1. On the Eve
On the eve of the ending of a day, write down on a piece of paper all that you are releasing from the previous year, period of your life, or past in general. Make a list of things, ideas, concepts or belief systems you are letting go of - once and for all. This is the “Release List.”
In my case, this year, this is going to be ‘the need for family acceptance’.
Make another list of all the things that you are owning and acknowledging within yourself for that same time.
I call this, the “Celebration List.” In this list, you write not not what you release, but of your own greatness that you want to remind yourself. Basically, all the reasons why you are an amazing person not just worthy of acceptance, but worthy of celebration.
Things You Are Releasing
Things You Are Celebrating
In this way, you are letting go of what you don’t have, no longer want to desire, and no longer need in your life and simultaneously letting in what you do have, what you want to remind yourself of that is special and what you want to keep in your life to honor.
In my case, this year, this is going to be ‘the family that I do have and I have created’.
I have an entire half of my family that not only accepts, but celebrates me. I have a partner, who assists me in developing new blog posts, radio show topics and will readily go to pick out new crystals and find the perfect sage incenses with me. I also have me, who now honors fully and accepts my abilities, and from this place I can teach others how to do the same.
Take both of these lists and hold onto them in a special place just for the night.
Day 2. In the Morning
On the following day, in the morning and as early as I wake, I create a third list. This list is the list of all of the things I want to manifest into my life now - to create even more of what resonates with me and my soul path. This could include what I am achieving in the following year, things I wish to welcome in and ideas or concepts I have that I want to come to physical reality.
Anything, it’s an open door. This is the “Manifest List” to create a reality you or I could have, if all our wildest dreams were possible (because they are).
Once this list is written, I collect it together and take a trip to the nearest water body that leads to the ocean - generally a nearby river or the actual ocean itself.
And at the ocean, I:
- Place my “Releasing List” in the water’s current and wish it a goodbye.
- Take my “Celebrating List” and hold it to my heart, keeping it close to my chest, generally tucking into my shirt to keep it close to my heart.
- Burn my “Manifesting List”, sending the smoke up to Spirit, asking them to assist in creating these realities for me in the coming time.
Then, when complete, I turn to walk away and do not look back.
It’s okay to let go of the old, and many times it’s important.
But you have to also remind yourself of what you do have and what is coming in the works for a better future.
When you release, rather than allowing yourself to hold an empty space in your heart - give yourself the opportunity to fill it with things about yourself that you celebrate, love and wish to honor.
When we release, we give ourselves a chance to welcome in.
We give ourselves a chance to change our reality and our future, by rewriting it in real time.
This New Years, I ask that you release, welcome and join me in this joint Release, Celebrate and Manifest ceremony.
Happy New Year!