Over the course of the last several months, I’ve been in contact with a production team for a reality television show. Not because I was going to be on it, but to help the development team understand the unique struggles of what it means to be psychic and fully accept your gifts as a psychic medium.
And somehow, from these conversations, they came up with a show theme.
Single & Psychic
Here is their casting pitch:
Are you single and also happen to be a psychic? Do you have a spiritual gift? Are you able to communicate with the dead or predict the future? Do you find that your special ability often gets in the way of your personal and social life? If so, we want to hear from you. A new television show is looking to cast singles in their 20’s & 30’s with psychic ability looking to meet others psychic singles who are going through the same thing.
(If you are interested in this casting call, let me know and I’ll send you the contact information).
And my first thought was - Wow, what a dramatic show to watch.
Second thought - I bet people would watch that.
Third thought - Dating is pretty much dating - no matter what you do for a living or what your uniqueness is. We all have things we’re afraid to share others. We all have things that cause us to feel vulnerable. And psychic mediums, just have one extra thing - we can see dead people.
This isn’t something that is for all suitors. In fact, when I was dating, it made for some real interesting and awkward silences in the middle of an otherwise pleasant dinner.
If you are dating a psychic medium or want to date a psychic medium, you don’t have to wait for a show to be cast to relate or figure out what you need to know.
I’ll tell you what to expect, and also, what we (collectively) want in a partner.
11 Things to Know When Dating a Psychic Medium
1. It’s not just about a profession - it’s about who we are.
Being a psychic medium is more than just a job, it’s a core element of who we are. It defines our life views. Our perspectives on culture and society. Our understanding of the universe and how the world works. And it affects our relationship with you.
It affects our feelings on time, intention, loving, hating, truly caring for and the relative importance of all things.
It affects how we feel about living in cities and why people behave badly. It affects everything about how we operate and how we expect for others in our lives to operate as well.
So while you may be able to turn off your 9-5 job, we may not ever fully be able to just ‘quit being psychic’ for a minute. It’s always kind of there. You'll have to accept that.
2. We have feelings.
We're sensitive by profession and by nature. By the very nature of being a channel, a medium, a transitional point - we are trained, aligned and optimized to pick up on changes in energy and then to express and release that energy as emotions, thoughts and feelings into the space around us.
If you are interested in someone who displays less emotion and speaks less of their thoughts, probably a good idea to date someone else. Because you won’t find that in a sensitive.
Sometimes, do it in your presence. If crying, thinking, questioning and asking, makes you feel squeamish, you may not be for us.
We know the value in release, and the benefit of really feeling the pain. So, we do.
3. Please refrain from using derogatory or ostracizing terminology.
Because it’s natural that we feel, please don’t call us ‘too sensitive’ or ‘too emotional’. It’s not even an insult, really, as much as it is a fact. Wearing emotions on your sleeve is a sign of comfortability with vulnerability. That’s a strength in a romantic partner, not a weakness.
There’s a difference between emotional and erratic, and we can generally tell between clear, honest emotions and launching an emotional attack on another.
Also refrain from saying we’re weird, not normal or any other thing that casts us out or ostracizes us rom the rest of society. That has been going on for centuries, and we’re kind of sick of it. It’s time that it ended.
4. Show and speak your support.
Please support us around your friends and family. If someone that you know doesn’t believe in psychic mediumship, and says something nasty in our presence, we’re more than happy to stand up for ourselves and then proceed to walk away. We may choose to leave the gathering all together.
It feels good when you stand up for us, too. And it feels really bad, when you don’t. It’s a rejection and yes, we might take it personally.
Even if you don’t know where your beliefs are with the Other Side, don’t openly bash, make fun of, or discredit ours.
5. If you want to learn more about it, ask.
Don’t know enough about it to say for sure what your thoughts are on it?
Most psychic mediums talk openly with others for a living, so we have no problem talking to you about anything you want to know, need to know or are curious about in relation to our intuitive-psychic world. Please, just ask us something if you don’t understand it.
We’ll do our best to share with you and help you feel more comfortable, but you have to want to learn, first. We won’t force you into it, but when you ask to know us, it’s a sign of your love and intention to be with us. We notice these signs, because it’s our job to read between the lines.
Rather than asking us about where we went to college, ask us to tell you about the first time we ever saw a ghost and what that felt like.
Likely, no one has asked before.
6. It’s not funny to make fun of someone’s belief system or way of being.
This is general human common sense, but it’s really worth noting here. Surprisingly worth noting.
For some reason, people (suitors, especially) sometimes choose to make fun of what our beliefs are and what we do for a living - without making an attempt to understand it first. While this may be out of nervousness or out of fear - it doesn't matter - it's a red flag. But regardless of who you date, if you are interested in continuing the relationship, it’s generally not a good idea to laugh at or mock their innermost, core elements of being.
So, if you laugh out loud at a concept or a topic that a psychic medium you are dating brings up, in an effort to share and be vulnerable with you - it’s a recipe for an argument. Or at least, a point taken for future reference.
7. We’re going to be outspoken.
Most psychic mediums spend every single day of their lives speaking the long-kept-quiet messages from others. We talk for people who have to apologize from the Other Side and may have never said they’re sorry in their entire life. We have to clearly deliver emotional messages of love from the Other Side. We spend all day speaking the truths of others - without apology, question or doubt.
A psychic medium will tell exactly how he or she feels and speak exactly the truth as they see it - regardless of how little may want to hear it. We can’t help it.
It feels good to speak your truth and get it off your chest.
8. Our action justifications may be different from yours. Accept it.
We sometimes make decisions based on how we feel about it. With no other explanation. There doesn’t need to be one and we may or may not give it if you ask. When you know, you just know.
9. We need someone to hash it out with.
Being a psychic medium can bring some really interesting scenarios, predicaments and contemplation points into one’s life. When you’re giving readings, you’re coming to realizations. You’re beginning to understand universal truths about life and you’re understanding who you are and what your mission is, as a soul.
With all this transformation going on in every moment, we need someone to talk to. We need something to bounce ideas off of. We need to discuss some of the messages we receive in readings in great, thoughtful, detail. We may ask for your opinion on something a dead person said the other day. Or, we might want your perspective and thoughts on guardian angels and whether or not they exist.
We want to go deep into life’s problems and life’s solutions, because that’s who we are. And we want to do that with you.
If you can’t handle it, then you may not be the best match for an intuitive guy or gal.
10. Be honest.
We can feel when something is wrong, disingenuous or when you are lying. Seeking out the truth is our job. Don’t even try.
11. Don’t ask us to stop being who we are.
Our physical world relationships and our spiritual world relationships are equally important. That means, we have spirit friends and we have people friends. We value the advice, guidance and wisdom coming from the members of both groups and we likely won’t give up communication with one group over the other - just because you ask us to.
We are who we are and you can choose to accept it or not.
As a human, and as a medium, I certainly don’t feel loved when asked to change, when I'm ridiculed or feel like my partner doesn’t value me.
And I don’t think any other psychic mediums will either.